Only child and non-independence

I don't know when it started, and there was a wave of discussion on various issues such as "the only child is not alone" on the Internet.

It is called gale because there are too many problems around these two groups.

"Who is happier, the only child or the non-only child?"

"You really don't want to marry your only child?"

"Is the only child really more selfish than not being independent?"

Seeing these problems, I put a question mark on my face: why, in the past, I engaged in all kinds of class opposition, but in recent years, I engaged in gender opposition. Now even the only child has to fight?

On a search in Zhihu, there are so many questions that you doubt your life, and the content of the discussion is even more incredible.

Seeing these questions, I laughed at the truth. Eighty percent of them were not mentioned separately. It is conceivable that people who can ask such questions have a high probability of not being independent. Secondly, they have a great denial of themselves, and subconsciously they may envy the only child. They made all kinds of comparisons in their minds first, and felt that it was not enough to convince themselves, so they posted them online, hoping to see more responses from non-independent people.

Coordinates Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai are second-tier prefecture-level cities. As an only child, the classmates around me are also only children since childhood. So before I worked, I had almost no contact and feelings about independence, and I never thought that these two groups would become opposites one day.

In my opinion, there are so many answers that are not worth discussing, including many highly praised answers that hype the benefits of non-independence.

Whether it is an only child or not is not the child's own decision and choice at first. It is undeniable that different growth environments play an important role in shaping personality and psychology. Too many people, because of the bad influence of family background, have led to a lifetime of misfortune. However, can these be summarized by simply "only child or not independent"

Whether it is a one-child family or a family with many children, there are people who are polite, polite and friendly, as well as people who are extremely violent and arbitrary. It is not others who create different family atmosphere, but all the members of this family.

Not all families who want to have a second child prefer boys to girls. Many people simply believe in "more children and more happiness" and hope that their families will be more lively. As for the sex of the two children, it's not that important. So parents don't want to discuss the difference between the two groups.

Nowadays, it is the "children" group and the "non-only child" group that set off this discussion upsurge. They have come into contact with the only-child group in their study, work and even marriage and love market. In the eyes of most people, each has its own advantages and disadvantages. Perhaps in their eyes, opposing groups have become a hot potato. Therefore, behind the discussion, in addition to self-confidence, more is the envy of another group.

It's really not necessary. This question is like "which is better, beef or pork". The question itself has no nutritional and discussion value, and it has no positive effect at all except that it leads to the increasingly antagonistic objects being discussed.

Whether to have only one child or a second child is not decided by a national policy alone, but by different choices of each family. As long as they are all developing healthily, it is really unnecessary to compare one child with two children.