Round Table School: It is not easy to communicate with children.

The topic of this issue of Round Table School is "It is not easy to communicate with children". In this program, we mainly talk about how parents deal with the rebellious period of adolescent children in their lives.

A. Parents need skills to beat their children moderately.

B. Children should be taken care of by their parents and never given to the elderly or others, so it is not easy for children to bear grudges when they are beaten.

C. hitting children may not solve the problem. The most important thing is to make her/him fear you and let Ta know what is absolutely not to do.

D. Observing the behavior of China's parents in the previous generation, it has become a tradition and culture to beat children. There are almost no children in our generation who have not beaten.

Some children will not hate their parents when they grow up, but will understand their pains. However, foreign cultures believe that beating children is an infringement on their body and mind. Therefore, children who are beaten will complain for life that their parents' behavior has caused serious psychological harm to themselves.

A. Parents' nagging is "gold" before the child is six years old, and 12 years old is "garbage".

Parents should make more rules when children are young. When they are 12 years old, parents should stop, interfere as little as possible, and learn to show weakness in front of them, so as to win their concern and sympathy and make them listen to adults.

Otherwise, parents and children are prone to conflict, because puberty hormones are strong, children are prone to emotional, and sometimes even attack adults.

B. If parents first accept the fact that they are the scourge of their children, and then consider the mode of getting along with their children, it will be more conducive to the development of parent-child relationship.

C. don't be too reasonable to adolescent children. It's best not to sit down alone and have a serious conversation. You can find a relaxed life scene, such as on the way to the supermarket or to the movies. In short, you should communicate in a tone of consultation and respect.

You can communicate by writing letters. Praise her first and tell her that someone likes her because she is cute and beautiful. Then it will explain that it takes time to test whether the other person is really her or something.

A. Children's literacy and wisdom can reflect the quality of parents. If children like to gossip, then parents will gossip about others at home.

B. Some parents like to "inquire" about other people's children and often compare their own children with other people's children. From the aspects of academic performance, university ranking, marriage and children, salary increase and promotion. The weird psychology of parents directly affects the psychological model of children as adults.

After watching this program, the freezing period between me and my children has just passed.

My daughter just turned 18 this year, and she has shown signs of rebellion since she was 13 years old. She sometimes gives us a cold war and looks cool. Sometimes emotional talk back; Sometimes I cry silently. .....

I felt anxious when I saw these changes in her eyes, but out of love for her, I immediately changed my strategy. I try to "teach" her as little as possible and let her mind her own business. As a mother, I become more self-centered, enrich my hobbies as much as possible, and keep a good mood at home. For example, I make sure there are always flowers at home and often buy desserts to share with her ... in short, I like it.

In this way, the day before her senior high school entrance examination, she came to me and asked, "Mom, other people's mothers want them to take the 10 A*. How many do you want me to get? " I was stunned at first, thinking that I must think so, but I finally said to her, "Just try your best, and mom doesn't ask you to get much A *." As a result, her score in the senior high school entrance examination was 10 A *.

My daughter just finished the college entrance examination two months ago. According to her academic performance, Niu Jian University is very promising, otherwise her school would not recommend her to apply for the exam, but as a result, she failed in the interview (three rounds) at Cambridge University this time. After this incident, I regret not having a tutor to make up lessons for her, but she doesn't blame me at all. She thinks that people who improve their grades by making up lessons are people who have no learning ability.

I respect her choice. She made a choice from the senior high school entrance examination to the college entrance examination. I know my children very well. Whether a person's future career development is smooth or not is not necessarily directly proportional to the ranking of his university, but ultimately depends on his own professional ability and interpersonal skills.

Moreover, the ultimate goal of study and hard work is a happy life, not a face project for parents and children.

Zhang Chaoyang, CEO of Sohu Company, graduated from Massachusetts Institute of Technology in the United States. He had a smooth journey and was rich and famous at a young age.

He mentioned many times in the program that he had serious psychological problems for several years and had to go abroad to find a psychiatrist and retreat.

He used his life experience to warn all those who blindly pursue success to pay the price. People who have no love, dedication and gratitude except fame and fortune will eventually live a life that is worse than death.

It is remarkable that a successful social person can admit to the public so frankly that he once had serious psychological problems!

It can be seen from this incident that he is now more transparent than before. He fully understands himself, accepts himself, and then constantly surpasses himself.

Just last week, I watched him as the anchor in a live webcast platform.

The host of a program asked him if he could arrange a beautiful little girl to be the anchor. Why did he go into battle himself?

He said that he wanted to improve his English in this way. I believe what he said is true.

During the live broadcast, he took the off-screen audience to learn English news words and sentences. It can be seen that he doesn't care much about the interaction with the audience, but pays more attention to the English content to be output in his mind. Only when he can't speak English will he respond to the subtitles of the audience on the screen.

Halfway through this article, my daughter asked me to use her computer to challenge the indoor fitness activities of Butterfly Bridge. She said that she wanted me to join her in challenging this activity, which is done 100 times a day, and it would be successful if she persisted for three months. Of course I accepted her invitation with pleasure.

Now she is my nag.

"Can you put down the phone?"

"Be sure to apply sunscreen when you go out, and be careful of getting skin cancer!"

"Don't go to bed so late?"

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I spent the rebellious period of youth with my daughter, and now I am really happy!