We all need to take advantage of the opportunity to make our lives what we want.

--01--

After working hard in the Northwest for three years and returning to my hometown to re-employ, my life has completely changed.

Because I have suffered so much, I am eager to enjoy life. So, for five years, I squandered my precious youth with laziness and enjoyment. I no longer think about goals, no longer think about life, no longer read, no longer write, and let the garden of my soul become barren little by little. I became lazier and lazier. From the beginning, I was too lazy to write and think, to later I was too lazy to cook, too lazy to clean up the house, and even too lazy to get up and face the tedious tasks of the day. I clung to the fixed monthly salary, went through the repetitive work every day, filled the void in my heart with entertainment, and lived a life of boiling frogs in warm water, thinking that the frog was in a hot spring spa.

Later, I had a baby. I was unkempt and busy with milk powder and diapers. I was consuming little energy in the fragile relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the relationship between husband and wife due to different parenting concepts. . My children gave me the best excuse to avoid change: How can I have the strength to cook? Taking care of children is very tiring! I don't have time to exercise. Didn't you see that I was tied to death by a child? It’s all because of having this child that I don’t have time to write, play the piano, read, or learn English!

——But I still have a lot of time to check Moments, watch American TV series, and watch movies. Everything is just an excuse.

Gradually, the emptiness in my heart and the chaotic life made me become anxious and full of hostility. My eyes were full of the odds and ends of life - I complained that my husband was too lazy, but I forgot that I didn't like to get up early either, so I would rush to buy something on the roadside for breakfast and wolf it down while driving; I despised my husband for not seeking to make progress and being obsessed all day long. I was obsessed with games, but never thought that I had failed to set a good example for him; I envied others for being able to immigrate to other countries and travel around the world, but ignored the years of accumulation and dedication behind them; I complained about the hustle and bustle of life, But I forgot that it was me who made life become like this.

--02--

Compared with suffering, the taste of enjoyment is really refreshing. But at the same time, the greater the enjoyment, the harder it is to change. The scary thing is that when you are doing a comfortable posture on the sofa, others are trying their best to conquer the country; and what is even more terrifying is that after others have conquered the country, they can have a comfortable posture, but you find that After being paralyzed for too long, it is difficult to stand up.

I also thought about changing. With a little bit of English proficiency remaining, I wanted to fulfill my dream of studying abroad and immigrating. However, with the constraints of my husband and children, the constraints of the four elderly people's pension issues, and the fact that I have almost forgotten English in these years, I finally finished the IELTS exam and did not continue. At an awkward age, without the skills to make a living, and without the support of a wealthy family, we no longer have the courage and capital to easily roll the dice with fate and bear the extreme consequences. I was just thinking, if I had not wasted my life in the past five years and had goals, plans, dreams, and actions, would I have lived the life of my dreams with my husband and children today?

Some people say that the state of your life five years ago determines your life five years from now. This sentence is terrifyingly accurate when applied to me.

We all need to take advantage of the opportunity to make our lives what we want. The later it is, the greater the price and cost will be.

In your 20s, when you are strong, energetic, clear-minded, and not burdened by trivial family affairs, it is the best time to make troubles. During this period, you can pay for your dreams arbitrarily, and if you fail, you can confidently shout, "I'm still young, I can't start over from scratch!" But unfortunately, few people can figure out what they want when they are young. want life.

If you think about it and work hard, you are already ahead of most of your peers.

--03--

Big changes require courage, while small changes require persistence.

Not everyone has the courage to jump out of their comfort zone, uproot themselves, and start all over again. But everyone can have some life dreams that are easier to achieve as a start to changing their lives.

For example, insist on writing, such as insisting on getting up early to make a warm breakfast for your loved ones, such as learning time management and getting rid of procrastination, such as cleaning the room every day, such as often using flowers to fill the home with fragrance...< /p>

When you persist in doing these small things, perhaps your life goals and beliefs have quietly changed.

The older you get, the more you realize the preciousness of time and the power of persistence. My friend L graduated from an unknown agricultural college majoring in veterinary medicine, but being a veterinarian was not the life he wanted. It took him five or six years to go from a veterinary student to a CCTV temporary worker to a regular reporter. I once insisted on arriving half an hour early every day to clean the office and fill the thermos for my colleagues, which eventually won me connections and support. He had just turned thirty-three, but he had been struggling for 10 years, and finally settled down in a government agency, got married, started a family, and lived the life he wanted. Tossing and perseverance are the best footnotes of his life.

Give it a try, boy! While we are still young.