Why do China people have to abide by the rules when they come to the United States?

After arriving in the United States, due to the natural factors of language communication, with the help of the Chinese circle that has already formed a social network, I quickly came into contact with many China people. There are doctoral and master students studying here, professors and researchers visiting here, and some elderly people taking care of their children here.

However, what impressed me most was that I was reminded and warned that in the United States, whether driving or doing business, we should abide by the rules and not use the same ideas as China. Things can be, things can't be, don't think about giving gifts or accommodating.

Two people told me about it with one voice. A restaurant owner who immigrated to the United States from Guangdong for 30 years has opened a chain store around Philadelphia with considerable capital and is a friend of my friend. One is a professor in his fifties. He has been studying here for a year and will return to China soon. He bought a car in America and has an American driver's license.

The hotel owner said that I have been here for 30 years, starting from the bottom, having suffered countless hardships and shed countless tears, but I still tell you that working here is one, two, two. Occasionally, someone receives a gift, but he accepts your gift. You should not do anything less. I won't say that, like China, if you accept your gift and eat your meal, you can be flexible and do less business. number

A professor in China told me that parking in America should be conscious. There are no parking toll collectors here, and they are all managed automatically and consciously. If you want to park, put the money in the roadside machine, print out a note about how long you will park, and put it near the windshield of the car. If it exceeds the printing time and is found by the municipal inspectors, it will be fined, and it will be useless to make up the money, and it will be useless to say good things to him. I was fined. Besides, don't park where you can't park.

With regard to their reminders and warnings, combined with my own limited experience in living in the United States, I have specially observed all kinds of things and found that China people here abide by the rules. For example, on various occasions, people queue up consciously. Occasionally, someone accidentally cuts in line. After being reminded or discovered by yourself, I will say sorry to the people behind me and then quickly go to the back of the team. There will never be a quarrel like China's, nor will there be hesitation and unwillingness.

China people abide by American rules. Let me sum up that there are two main reasons, one is the law in reality and the other is the law in the mind. The former can be called the legal provisions of the country, and the latter can be called the moral quality of the people. Legal provisions are embodied in provisions, and provisions are embodied in consciousness.

The hotel owner and professor reminded me to obey the rules because there was no room to stay. If things don't conform to the rules, it's no use finding a relationship to do the work. The moral quality of the people is also an important reason, because if you don't follow the rules, you will generally be told that it is wrong to do so. For example, if you are stuck in a queue, someone will definitely remind you. That is to say, on the one hand, you should consciously abide by it, on the other hand, if you don't, someone will remind you to abide by it.

However, when I came to America at my age, I thought the moon in America was more round. Therefore, for many things, it will not and cannot be across the board. For example, I saw many people waiting for the red light, and saw that there were no cars passing on both sides, so I swaggered across the road. There are all kinds of pedestrians who run red lights, white, black, American and China. In this regard, I specifically asked a professor China who has obtained a green card in the United States: American traffic rules stipulate that pedestrians can pass even if they run a red light without a car? He answered me affirmatively: No, it is illegal to run a red light in America, but most people still cross the road when there is no car. However, when the light is red, the car will definitely not work.

It seems that red lights are running everywhere, not only in China, but also in China. But later I also found that the streets in Philadelphia are basically very narrow, and there are few streets as common as Beijing. Many of them are one-way streets, two lanes, which can pass quickly. Some street corners are large two-way streets. At this time, almost no pedestrians ran the red light.

From this perspective, everyone's compliance with the rules is extremely related to the risks they face. Corresponding to the national laws and the quality of the people I mentioned, there are two main risks of not obeying the rules. One is being punished by the law, and the other is being condemned by the people. Comparatively speaking, the former is strict and specific, while the latter is random and vague. Where the law is strict, the consequences of not obeying the law are very serious; In places where the overall quality of the people is high, the latter becomes strict and specific, because most people are conscious and ask others to abide by the rules. Otherwise, the society's contempt for not following the rules will bring great pressure to individuals. Therefore, there are probably two reasons why China people obey the rules in the United States.

In addition, another reason is that the bosses of immigrants feel something but the visiting professors don't, that is, most of these immigrants think they are second-class citizens and are considered by society. As the hotel owner who has emigrated for 30 years told me, this is not our country. We are second-class citizens. How can we break the rules in other people's territory? However, what I want to ask is that white Americans are not second-class citizens. Aren't they just as obedient in their own country? So this reason is basically untenable. Ruoshui education network