What should the child do if he is in a bad mood?

Really? Maybe there is another reason, because children can't explain things accurately. Therefore, adults should not take it lightly. They should help the child find the real reason for her unhappiness and then find a solution. Everyone may know the story of Columbus's clever contest with ministers. After Columbus discovered the New World, the Queen specially gave a banquet to celebrate his success. Ministers refused to accept: you just found a new place and deserve such honor! After listening to the discussion, Columbus picked up an egg at the party and held it up. Who can stop this egg? Ministers tried to smash eggs one after another, but they refused to stand, so they said it was too difficult. Columbus smiled and broke an eggshell, and the egg stopped easily. The ministers were in an uproar. Columbus said: the problem is not difficult, the difficult thing is to find a way. Ministers were speechless. This story is also suitable for parenting. It is not difficult to solve children's problems, but it is difficult to find the cause of the problems. First of all, when the child is in a bad mood, parents should be very cautious, and don't do anything or say anything to aggravate the child's bad mood. If the mother or grandmother turns angry, teaches, criticizes and reprimands at this time, unhappiness will occur, Xiao He will cry, his mood will be worse, his parents will be depressed, and his parents will add a record of failure in their hearts. Of course, the biggest loss is that children will form bad personalities, such as depression and irritability. Yes, yes, the first reason has been found! Xiao He just played the video game Lintondale for a while. This kind of game is easy to cause eye fatigue and Xiao He is in a bad mood. Are there any other reasons? Grandma feels a little hot. If grandma feels hot, Xiao He must be hotter. Because of the different skin structure, China people are more heat-resistant and cold-resistant than westerners. Although summer in New Zealand is never too hot for my daughter and me, the feelings of westerners are quite different. Xiao He's skin is afraid of heat, and he is with his father. The hot weather must have brought Xiao He irritability. When the reason is found, the solution is simple. There are only things that are troublesome or even painful because there is no solution, and there is no difficult thing. Half an hour later, Xiao He smiled and said goodbye to grandma to attend the piano performance. The solution is as follows: grandma asked, would you like some water? No answer, grandma asked. Do you want to eat popsicles? Xiao He squatted on the ground and said lazily, standing up is very tired. Grandma sensitively seized this opportunity for education, so while demonstrating Alexander's skills of standing up, she explained: First, squat down, then fully land on your feet, and then lift your ass back and forth. When your ass reaches a certain height, you can use your ass to drive your whole body to stand up, which will reduce the pressure on your knees and make it easier to stand up. Xiao He learned it after watching grandma do it twice, and really stood up happily. Using children's curiosity to teach them new things is often successful once. Children don't have to change old bad habits before establishing new ones like adults, so they learn new things quickly. There is a saying that children learn for three minutes, which is better than adults' work for half a year. Grandma took Xiao He to the freezer, let Xiao He choose her favorite popsicle, and then came to the balcony together. Here, the bamboo forest covers the sun, and the cool wind blows gently. Xiao He is eating popsicles in the cool wind, and his mood begins to improve. After eating the popsicles, grandma said that today's popsicles are big, so you should rinse your mouth once or six times. Xiao He said yes. After coming back from the bathroom, grandma asked: Have you rinsed your mouth six times? When talking, grandma made a Chinese six-finger gesture. Xiao He doesn't know what to do. Grandma pressed the three fingers in the middle, so the thumb and little finger stood up successfully. Xiao He did the same thing with his other hand. Xiao-he was so happy that his hands were doing six words at the same time, shaking nonstop, and his sense of oppression had vanished. In order to strengthen today's parenting effect and make Xiao He happier, grandma said, I wish you success in playing the piano. You will be famous in the future, and your mother will be your planner. My mother is a rare public relations expert. Xiao He doesn't know what a public relations expert is. Grandma gave her a vivid example to explain, and then said, look, how good your mother is. You have such a good mother and I have such a good daughter. We are so lucky! Grandma said, humming a fast-paced tune and jumping around. It may seem ridiculous, but mom and Xiao He both laughed. Grandma played dumb and said with no expression while jumping, I just jumped like this, which is not fun at all. The result, of course, is that they laugh more. At this point, an emotional crisis was completely resolved. Xiao He learned patience and thinking from grandma's model. Mom remembered that it was not easy for Xiao He to play more video games. Xiao He learned to express six with his fingers and learned Alexander's skill of standing up. Xiao He is proud of her grandmother's flattery and admires and loves her mother even more. Xiao He also learned grandma's sense of humor. Grandma, I met a very annoying thing recently. My baby is a four-year-old girl. She is lively and talkative at home, but she is shy when she meets strangers. Recently, I played with a little girl over 2 years old. My little sister is very competitive, and everything is ahead. My child tried to grab her sister's hand, but she wouldn't let me. She also wants to sit with her sister. She kept patting my baby's hand to tell her to get out of the way. I observed the baby's expression and asked her how she felt at that time. She said she was angry with her little sister. I asked her why she didn't express it, and she said. I think her patience is too good. Do you think my baby's performance is a little weak? How should I teach her? Please enlighten me! Thank you. A: The biggest problem in this matter is that the baby is angry. No matter adults or children, once angry, it will lead to the increase of bad chemicals in the body, which will affect health and interpersonal relationships. It is necessary to reduce this negative emotion. Mothers are advised to pay attention to their children's optimism. The method is that adults treat children with a happy, patient and humorous attitude and praise their efforts. For example, after this incident, the mother will praise the baby and say that you are very open-minded and modest. Smile when you say it, let the baby know that it is a good thing to be open-minded, and then the mother will hug the baby and strengthen the praise effect. The second problem that this incident shows is that mom is not atmospheric enough and handsome enough, so mom should work hard to improve. As for that strong little sister, it should be said that she is the negative example of your baby. I suggest not to play with her more, and find other children to play with. The mother took her four-year-old son with her. Grandma quietly told her mother: the subtext of this sentence is to imply that the child is not good and can't talk like this. The child kicked the mat on the ground. Mom: The mat is for sitting, not kicking. You can't kick! (The child kicked the cushion again. Grandma told mom to shut up) Grandma: Come on, let's play the game of throwing mats. So I picked up the mat and adults and children threw it at each other. Every time the child hits, grandma cheers enthusiastically: good shot! Great! Have strength! The more children play, the happier they are. Grandma summed up for her mother: play games with children more, preach less, praise more, and pretend not to see bad behavior. Buy more toys. Generally speaking, four-year-old children should have at least 400 kinds of toys that can be used by hands or brains. Of course it's cheap. Expensive toys are often not real toys. Praise your child for doing well at least 100 times a day. Toys are a necessity for children to grow up. Grandma buys Xiao He two toys every week on average. Plus what her parents bought for her, Xiao He has about 1000 kinds of toys and children's tools so far. However, grandma's toys are no more than two yuan each, and it won't make grandma poor if she spends two thousand yuan to train her children. It's worth it, haha. Presumably, most families can also give the two thousand dollars to their children. Grandma found that children not only can't play, but also their language development lags behind. In order to solve these two problems, grandma thought about it and came up with a trick. See below for details. Every parent with similar children can make their children happy, moved and talk in the following ways. Of course, mothers can also think of other games to educate their babies, as long as they are in line with their children's age and ability. By the way, many mothers can't learn the correct parenting methods for a while, so grandma decided that since she taught her mother, she might as well teach her children directly. Grandma brought a piggy bank and a pile of coins and threw them into the carpet. The baby is one year old and eight months old, and his hands are quite stupid. Obviously, he hasn't played well yet. However, his imitation genius is still alive. When he saw his grandmother throw coins three times, he came over and began to throw coins on the carpet like her. Every move has to be tortuous to put the coin in the hole. Grandma always waits patiently and watches. Once the baby throws a coin successfully, grandma will clap her hands and cheer: good job! So the baby became more and more happy and even grabbed the jam. This is a good time to teach children how to obey social rules. Grandma put her hand over the coin slot and whispered that the baby should obey the rules. After playing this game for about a quarter of an hour, grandma repeated it 84 times, applauded the baby 42 times and told the baby to obey the rules nine times. Later, the baby imitated grandma's words like a wheel. When he left, the excited and proud baby jumped into grandma's arms against her usual introverted fears. In order to write this article, grandma specially opened the piggy bank and counted the coins in it. The figures quoted here are correct. ) through the praise and encouragement of adults, babies learn to communicate, know right and wrong, and grow in ability and wisdom. A: Mothers should believe in themselves and their children. Most people think that children are born naughty, which is not correct. It is difficult to say that the mother's physical exertion is large before the baby is three years old, but for young mothers, this should not be a big problem. The remaining problem is the child's behavior. How to let children do whatever they want? To cultivate children, praise their efforts, at least 100 times a day. The fewer rules, the better. Adults should be careful what they say and do, and do a good job in words and deeds. Pay attention to the occasion and subtext of speaking.