How to make what you say more meaningful?

It is an old saying that has been circulating for many years. There is both an excuse to belittle oneself and a helpless sigh of clumsiness. After careful consideration, it is not difficult to find that not all the little people in the world speak without weight. If you want to make your words have weight and impress the nobles, it naturally involves the attitude, method, timing and skills of speaking. Many "little people" have used their outstanding eloquence to speak beautiful and charming words. Analyzing their "strong words" to win may be of some enlightenment to the "little people" of our generation!

Speaking shocking common sayings

Many little people always regard "big words" as a synonym for arrogance, so they appear submissive and lifeless in front of the venerable ones. In fact, because of his insignificance, he cannot just follow the leader's lead, but also needs unique and shocking words to attract attention, make people listen attentively, and finally make himself stand out with his witty words. The prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, Li Shen, was highly respected and famous. When he went to Huainan as an envoy, he did not receive any of his servants. The little scholar Zhang Hu wanted to get acquainted with this big man, so he first wrote a famous post signed "Diao'ao Ke". Li Shen became angry when he saw this man, so he made an exception and summoned him. In order to humiliate the other party, Li Shen deliberately asked: "Since the scholar knows how to fish, what can he use as a fishing rod?" Zhang Hu blurted out: "Use Changhong!" Li Shen asked again: "What can I use as a fishing hook?" Zhang Hu said loudly: "Use the crescent moon!" Li Shen asked again: "What should you use as bait?" Zhang Hu laughed: "If you use me as bait, of course it will not be difficult to catch a big turtle!" After hearing this, He happily entertained the arrogant scholar, drank and chatted with him, and was very pleased with it. Obviously, Zhang Hu was able to convince Li Shen, a big shot, by using the method of speaking loudly and shocking him, and giving the opponent a strong stimulation with his majestic momentum, and his talent was finally recognized by the big shot.

Proud words express one's ambitions

When expressing one's feelings, heroic words are indispensable. If it is just a general retelling of ready-made heroic words, the villain's words will be even more underestimated. The truly inspiring words are probably always a kind of catharsis of the passion in the heart, a kind of personal expression. The anti-Japanese hero Lu Yuting attended a banquet with several elders when he was young. During the dinner, an elder asked him about his future plans. Lu Yuting said frankly: "Elders, to tell you the truth, the younger generation aspires to be different from others. Others want to be high officials and enjoy happiness, but I don't want to do anything in this life. "Officials, I only want to do great things!" As soon as he said this, the elders were shocked and gasped. From then on, they valued him and cared about him even more. According to Chinese customs, the younger generation should always be more modest in their words, but Lu Yuting spoke proudly and proudly, expressing his ambitions by contrasting "big officials" with "big things", which made the elders look at this junior with admiration. If a humble person wants to win the attention of His Holiness, how can he stand out without such proud words?

Jun Yan’s Confrontation Defines Self-Esteem

Even among superiors and inferiors, there will inevitably be times when there are disagreements and even verbal confrontations. As a humble person, how can you make your words loud and shocking to others? Many times, it is useless to be humble and tactful; on the contrary, using some harsh words can often make the venerable's heart beat and be convinced. This method is more effective, especially when it is necessary to protect one's personal dignity. An old friend of Cao Cao, Zong Shipu, looked down upon Cao Cao's character. Later, Cao Cao came to Sikong and took charge of the government. Once, he deliberately provoked Zong Shipu, a little man under him, and said, "You can finally agree to be friends with me now, right?" Zong was unmoved and said proudly: "Song and Bai Zhi The ambition is still there. Since I have offended you and won't be reused, I don't even think about getting promoted!" This unflattering statement not only surprised Cao Cao, but also convinced him. Afterwards, Cao Cao actually asked his son to come to Zong's house for advice. His son lay respectfully and quietly under Zong's bed, which was very surprising. Zong Shipu was insignificant in front of his opponents, but with his sharp words without any compromise, he finally won the admiration of his opponents and protected his personal dignity. It can be seen from this that the weight and shocking power of those stern words like "when the pen is written, the storm is shocked, and the poem becomes weeping ghosts and gods" in certain situations.

Rhetoric refers to key points

Those who are humble seek to speak seriously, and of course it is not only the language style of "the river goes eastward". Sometimes, banter and banter can also conquer the other party. A large sports stadium built with my country's aid in Country B encountered power outages and was difficult to complete on schedule. Ms. Li Xiao, who was in charge of foreign affairs of the engineering team, approached Gaudika, the manager of the country's Electricity Commission, but the other party tried to push the envelope. After hitting a wall, Li Xiao decided to outsmart her. She first hosted a banquet for Gaudika, constantly praising him in diplomatic terms for being "quite talented" and thanking him for his "support and fruitful cooperation" for both parties. Just when the other party couldn't help but be happy, she changed the subject and said in a teasing tone: "Mr. Gaudica, you are the general person in charge of this project. If we cannot complete the project on time, although we will suffer economic losses, it will be to you." I'm afraid the impact will be even greater. If your country's sports meeting cannot be held as scheduled, then the black hat on your head may also be removed!" This statement made the key point in the attack between soft and hard, and immediately attracted the attention of the other party. Gaudika could only smile and said: "It won't be delayed, no." The power supply was quickly restored at the construction site.

What Li Xiao used to impress the other party with a mere little person was precisely the routine of praising first and generalizing later, thereby showing the weight of his words. Can the other party not pay attention to it?

Mushroom talks with ease

Talk is a taboo in ordinary conversation; however, if a person of humble status wants to impress the nobles with his words, he will inevitably have to make some detours. Fight a protracted war to arouse the other party's compassion. Bapu ran a theater of his own, but no drama critics came to patronize it. He knew very well that without publicity, there would be no audience, so he boldly broke into the New York Times and performed the show. Bapp asked to see the famous critic Atkinson by name. It happened that Ai was visiting London, so Bapp simply stayed at the newspaper office: "I will wait until Mr. Atkinson comes back!" Ai's assistant Gilb had no choice but to ask the reason. Bapu then used his lobbying skills to say how excellent his actors were and how enthusiastic his audience was. Finally, he said: "Most of my audience are immigrants who have never seen a real stage play. If your newspaper doesn't write a review and introduction to the play, then I will There is no money to continue the show!" Seeing his resolute attitude, Gilb couldn't help but be moved and agreed to go to the theater that night. Unexpectedly, during the intermission of the performance at the amphitheater, there was a heavy rain. As soon as Bapu saw Gilb trying to escape from the rain, he immediately stuck to him and said: "I know that you drama critics usually don't comment on the half-time play. But, I beg you, make an exception no matter what!" " Bapu lobbied again and again, some sincerely, some "rascally", but God was moved by his words. A few days later, a brief review of the play was published in the newspaper, and Bapu's theater became increasingly popular. How could the words of a little-known theater owner move the giant of the New York Times? Isn't that the result of pressing hard and persuading with clever words? The power of a humble person's words is demonstrated through the constant pressure and hard work. Of course, mushroom lobbying must be measured and you should only gradually approach the topic like peeling off the cocoon, otherwise it will be in vain.

Serious words and sophistry combined with wit

The method of reasoning and correctness is certainly glorious. However, the clever words and sophistry that make use of contradictions under specific circumstances sometimes have more enlightening power. . For those who are insignificant, it can better show the beauty of concealing opportunities. In the Spring and Autumn Period, a man named Zhi Gong reported that his father had secretly detained someone else's sheep. According to the law at that time, his father should be sentenced to death. After the verdict was handed down, Zhi Gong realized it and hurriedly ran to the government to cry and said: "As a subject, I have no choice but to report my father because subjects must uphold the law and be loyal to the king. But as a son, I can't bear the death of my father." , so he asked to be killed on behalf of his father to fulfill his filial piety as a son." The officials saw that his words were reasonable, so they allowed him to die in his father's stead. However, when he arrived at the execution ground, he bowed and sighed loudly: "I am so unlucky. I committed adultery and did not avoid my relatives, which can be said to be the most loyal; I was willing to be killed on my father's behalf, which can be said to be the most filial. However, even I If all the most loyal and filial people are executed, then who among the people of Chu should not be killed?" When the officials on the execution ground heard this, they thought it was reasonable and reported it to the King of Chu. The King of Chu was also greatly moved after hearing this. Not only did he spare Zhi Gong from death, but he also rewarded him. From then on, Zhi Gong's reputation grew. The straight bow grasps the contradictory sides of things, and the bow is drawn left and right. The words are so serious that they even tear a hole in the law, which shows the power contained in the paradox of glib words. After all, isn't the so-called dexterity the brilliance inspired by adapting to the situation and using witty words?

Take advantage of the opportunity to speak skillfully and persuade

The persuasive power of the words of a humble person is also related to the timing of speaking. When the heat is up, what you say will be natural and appropriate, attracting attention. Don't think that only speaking out when the other person is happy will have weight. No, seizing the opportunity when the other person is holding back and being frank and forthright will be a different kind of scenery for people to say something small. China's first modern dance pioneer Yu Rongling moved to Paris with her diplomat parents when she was young. Confined by old customs, she has never dared to express her desire to learn to dance. Once, the wife of the Japanese minister came to visit and asked her mother, "Why doesn't your lady learn to dance? We Japanese girls all have to learn to dance." Yu's mother was inconvenient to refuse, so she went along and said, "Let me learn from now on!" Yu Rongling He took the opportunity to say: "Good mother, I will learn Japanese dance from now on and show it to you, okay?" After saying that, he put on his dance costume and danced "Crane and Turtle Dance". The minister's wife praised her endlessly, and my mother had to agree. Here, the success of Yu Rongling's advice lies entirely in the "general" who seized the opportunity.