A woman who has never been married and has no children in her life

A woman who has never been married and has no children in her life

For a woman who has never been married and has no children all her life, love is based on the voluntary love beliefs of both parties, belongs to voluntary ethics, and is a love relationship that originates from emotion and transcends emotion. In the end, the two sides become husband and wife, but some women will choose to remain unmarried and infertile for life. Let's share a lifetime unmarried childless woman.

Lin: What happened to that unmarried childless woman all her life?

1983 In the spring, in Peking Union Medical College Hospital, a kind old man got worse. As he lay dying, she held out her left hand and intermittently shouted, "pliers, quick, pliers, quick."

Her relatives and students were in tears and gently put down her raised hand.

On April 22nd, at noon in Beijing, she said, "I'm so tired. I want to have a rest. Call me if you need anything. " Then she fell asleep gently. She welcomed countless lives into this world with her weak body and appreciative hands.

She left us with countless loves.

She is one of the main pioneers and founders of obstetrics and gynecology in China, the first director of obstetrics and gynecology in China of Peking Union Medical College Hospital, and the only member (academician) of the first China Academy of Sciences. She is Lin, who is known as the "mother of thousands of children".

What kind of legendary life has she had?

Where there is a will, there is a way.

190 1 year 65438+February 23rd (the 27th year of Guangxu), Lin was born in a teacher's family in Gulangyu, Siming County, Fujian Province. My father Lin is a graduate of a university in Singapore. He is engaged in teaching and translation. He is open-minded and thinks that women should also cultivate her.

At the age of five, my mother died of cervical cancer.

Lin will never forget the extremely painful scene when his mother died. She vaguely realized that it was too difficult to be a woman.

"study medicine and be a medical scientist."

In the torment of losing her loved ones, she planted her ambition to study medicine and struggled for it all her life.

Determined to let people find the goal and direction, no longer confused, and will work hard and be strong for the ideal in their hearts.

At the age of seven, she entered a Mongolian school and began her study career.

Lin studies hard and is an excellent student at school.

192 1 year, Peking union medical college (now union medical college) was completed. Lin, who graduated from Xiamen Women's Teachers College and stayed as a teacher, was admitted to Peking Union Medical College despite her family's opposition.

In Shanghai in July, the weather was extremely hot, and the English exam was very stressful.

Suddenly, Lin's companion Yu Qiongying fainted from heatstroke. She immediately interrupted the exam and quickly took Yu Qiongying to the shade with another girl. It took only ten minutes to deal with this emergency quickly and flexibly.

However, back in the examination room, the examination time has passed.

Fortunately, her move was discovered by the examiner, impressed by her fluent English, shocked by her calm, decisive and orderly response to emergencies, and moved by her spirit and talent of sacrificing herself for others. She has a rare quality as a doctor and was admitted to Concord.

In order to challenge the old idea that "women can't hold knives", for the suffering women in China and for her mother who died in despair, she chose obstetrics and gynecology, which was despised by many people at that time.

As we all know, the elimination system of Concorde is extremely cruel, but Lin survived with her diligence and intelligence.

After eight years of study and brutal elimination competition, Lin has been among the best, graduated with excellent results and obtained a doctorate in medicine. She was hired as a gynecologist in Union Medical College Hospital, the first female doctor in China to graduate and stay in hospital, and the only winner of the first "Wenhai" scholarship.

In the Union Medical College Hospital, Lin worked hard. She was busy saving lives, day and night, cold and hot.

Once, when everyone went to the carnival, Lin and on duty met a young woman with a broken uterus and bleeding.

She is also an assistant doctor and has no right to deal with such patients. After she reported the critical situation to the department director, the department director asked her to have an operation.

Looking at the dying patient, she decisively informed the operating room and stood on the operating table.

"Be careful, be careful, be careful again." She cheered for herself, shouted for herself, took responsibility for her life, and independently completed her first major operation as a doctor.

The success of the operation attracted more attention, and she was promoted from assistant doctor to resident doctor three months in advance.

As a result, one good thing after another pushed Lin, who is studious, enterprising and extremely intelligent, to the peak of success.

In ten years, she got three opportunities to cross the ocean, either for further study or for medical investigation.

After returning to China, she devoted herself to obstetrics and gynecology. She relieved the pain of women, shared the joy of mother and child, and gave up the right of love and family that a woman should enjoy.

1940 was promoted to director of obstetrics and gynecology, becoming the first female director in China.

In Concord, it is by no means easy for outsiders to get this position.

But with superb technology and noble medical ethics, when the director of obstetrics and gynecology was vacant, the hospital did not hesitate to choose this China female doctor with dark skin and big eyes.

Fate always favors those who are diligent and prepared, those who dare to take responsibility and have great love, and those who persevere in their struggle for life.

Struggle makes our life full of vitality, responsibility makes our life full of meaning, pressure makes us grow constantly, and achievement makes us proud.

Don't complain that life is hard. In fact, struggle is also a kind of happiness, isn't it?

Endless love

194 1 At the end of the year, the Pacific War broke out and Peking Union Medical College Hospital was closed.

Lin rented several houses in Beijing Hutong 10, opened a private clinic and walked the streets as a civilian doctor. When the Chinese nation was ravaged and killed, she welcomed the new life and new hope of the nation with a pair of beautiful hands.

Lin, who is weak, always carries a special home visit bag with cash to help those poor and sick patients. The medicine fee is free.

She often goes to those dark, messy and remote hutongs for home visits, and pours her blood and love into the villagers who are struggling under the Japanese invaders.

After War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression's victory, Union Medical College Hospital resumed and Lin returned to the hospital.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, she wrote in her essay "Opening the Window of Concord to See the Motherland":

The windows of Concorde were opened and a five-star red flag was erected ... We are proud of the great progress of our motherland.

She used her great love to present gifts to the motherland and serve the people. She only cares about the health of women and children, never cares about personal gains and losses, and writes songs with great love to inspire and inspire every aspiring youth.

The moonlight in the late autumn night reflects the window into light blue, like the fluorescent screen of a hospital looking at X-rays.

Lin is still looking up information under the lamp, and a patient makes her unable to let go in her heart.

Patient Li Dong, 3 1 year-old, was pregnant for the first time after six years of marriage. She developed mild bleeding symptoms after a few months of pregnancy. Worried about miscarriage, she came to Sheikh for examination. Results She found a mastoid tumor in the cervix, which was suspected to be malignant. In this case, the uterus must be surgically removed as soon as possible to prevent the spread of cancer cells, so as to save the patient's life.

From a mother's point of view, Lin made a bold decision to let the patient leave the hospital for the sake of the patient's happiness by repeatedly studying the pathological report and finding abnormalities.

Lin took the hand and said with a sigh:

I have been a doctor for 20 years, and this is the first time I met you. You made my hair turn white. What happened to you when you got home? Whenever you come to the hospital, come to me at once.

It is her spirit of daring to take responsibility and explore challenges, scientific and rigorous medical attitude, and her persistence and kindness that kept a life alive, made Li Dong a mother, and named the baby girl Nianlin.

Children are mothers' angels, babies are human angels, and those who welcome new life are angels who protect life.

A few years later, the medical community came to the conclusion that Li Dong's cervical tumor was a special pregnancy reaction, called decidua tumor. Although it has the shape of a tumor, it is not a real tumor.

This conclusion has been widely used in obstetrics and gynecology clinic.

There is no light without darkness, and light is born from darkness.

1950 After three consecutive deaths due to neonatal hemolysis, Qiao in Inner Mongolia wrote to Lin for help.

She searched the latest foreign medical data, put forward and carried out a large-scale general survey and treatment of gynecological diseases, held a discussion with relevant experts, created a method of umbilical vein exchange to treat neonatal hemolysis, fulfilled Joe's mother dream, created a miracle and filled the gap.

She said: "I am full of love for women and children. My favorite voice in my life is the baby's first cry after birth. This is a wonderful March of life, better than all the most beautiful music in the world. "

She cares for women and children with the most beautiful and warm smile, and gives patients the strength to overcome diseases. Like a meter of sunshine, she gives life the energy to flourish.

From 65438 to 0959, Lin was elected as the only female academician of the first China Academy of Sciences and was appointed as the vice president of China Academy of Medical Sciences.

The silkworm is dying.

At the beginning of the Cultural Revolution, a vigorous "transformation" movement began.

Lin was listed as a "key reform object" and a "reactionary academic authority". She was sent to the ward as a care worker, cleaned the bedpan and emptied the spittoon ... All these work were done meticulously, and she still worked hard with the most beautiful and warmest smile every day.

Before the game, she had not left Concorde, which she said was the luckiest thing.

Seeing that the rules of Concord for decades have been broken, the academic atmosphere is weak, the medical staff are not attentive, the clinic is noisy, the big rounds are cancelled, and her students cry behind closed doors. She encouraged them in the harshest tone, revived medical practice and supported Concord in the storm.

On the road of life, everyone will encounter difficulties and setbacks, depending on whether you can overcome them.

Only when you face it with a smile and overcome it, you are a hero and a strong man in life.

1978 12, Lin and Chu Tunan led a friendly delegation of China people to visit four western European countries and returned to China due to ischemic cerebrovascular disease in Britain.

At the Capital Hospital, after examination, she was diagnosed with hypertension arteriosclerosis, cerebral thrombosis and heart disease.

During her illness, she sat in a wheelchair and hospital bed and began to write books on gynecological tumors. Four years later, I completed a 500,000-word monograph "Gynecological Oncology".

1980 65438+On February 2, 2008, she became seriously ill and was sent to the hospital, but she still insisted on working. As long as the patient has a problem, even in the middle of the night, she should be informed immediately. Six babies were born the day before his death.

After Lin died, he donated more than 30 thousand yuan saved in his life to kindergartens and nurseries in the capital; The remains are dedicated to medical research in hospitals; The ashes are scattered on the sea around Gulangyu Island, my hometown.

Gulangyu's daughter finally returned to her hometown.

Bing Xin, a fellow Lin who was sent by her three times, said: "Her extraordinary image shines in in my heart forever!"

"A doctor on duty all her life" is her orientation for her life. With this orientation, her life is simple, rich, full and quiet.

The telephone beside the bed is her only companion, and the stethoscope on her chest is her most precious possession, but her life is extremely full and full, and she is happy.

She is like a flame and a magnet. She never thinks of herself, and contributes all her skills and feelings to those who have devoted everything around her.

Lin's humanistic concern for patients has deeply influenced her carefully trained students.

Lang Jinghe remember:

When Dr. Lin gestures, she can feel her love for the patient. She treats patients as relatives, puts her ear directly on the patient's stomach, wipes the sweat for the patient, tucks in the corner and holds the patient's hand. She was afraid that the patient would touch the cold iron bed frame and fall down.

"The patients who were originally embarrassed and afraid gradually quieted down. This is a power of caring and a power of mutual trust between doctors and patients. " Lang Jinghe recalled.

Lin's spiritual legacy has been passed down from generation to generation among doctors in China.

Be a sincere person

Lin's life is bumpy. Whether it is the death of relatives or the disaster of the country, she has never been crushed, but she has propped up a sky with love.

Her life is also happy. She studied hard for her medical ideal, worked diligently in obstetrics and gynecology for decades, and welcomed thousands of new lives with her hands.

She is a person with superb medical skills and noble medical ethics. She is unmarried for life, but she has the richest love. She has no children, but she is the richest mother. She is an outstanding woman cultivated by the blending of eastern and western cultures, the patron saint of mothers and babies, and an angel who fell into the world.

Spring silkworms continue to die and stay on the earth to keep out the cold.

Although Lin has left, her childlike heart and selfless dedication will always be admired by people, inspiring people to climb new heights.

An unmarried woman for life. A 53-year-old unmarried woman told us with her personal experience whether a woman should get married or not.

There is a hot topic in Zhihu recently. A 53-year-old unmarried woman answered whether a woman should get married with her unique perspective and her own personal experience.

The following quote is the original text published by her in Zhihu, which has been abridged due to space reasons.

I am 53 years old, a company executive, and my income has been above the average level in Shenzhen. I don't like children and I'm afraid of getting married. I long for freedom, and I chose to be unmarried and infertile for life.

I have a strong personality, and my parents dare not take care of me. Although they didn't force me to get married and have children, they died sadly.

I thought I didn't need my family and company, but since my parents died, I have found that this is not the case. I felt empty and confused, and fell into deep thinking.

I don't know if my persistence for so many years is right or wrong. If I find a good man and have a child with him, at least I have a child. When I am 70 or 80, my family will accompany me.

When I was young, I thought I was independent and had no dependence on my family. After my parents died, I discovered that my confidence in not getting married is not how independent and strong I am. I didn't get married just because I had parents at that time, and they accompanied me. They gave me confidence not to get married.

Some people say that no child can travel freely and everywhere, but travel will eventually get tired. I have been to many places and I am very tired. I just want to go home, but now I'm afraid of traveling. I feel like I'm wandering

Those who say that a person can spend money at will are too good to even think about it. A woman of my age has no children, let alone dare to spend money indiscriminately.

I was sick once when my mother took care of me. Now I can only take care of myself. I'm afraid I need surgery in the future, and no one will sign it. I'm more afraid that if I get Alzheimer's disease, I will be pushed around by others.

Since my parents died, the loneliness that goes deep into the bone marrow has been coming at me. I can't stand the feeling of being confused and helpless.

I just want to say that a person must have a partner or a child, so don't want nothing. You are now confident that you are unmarried and infertile, just because you have a family.

Those young people who are forced to get married, please understand their parents well, and don't quarrel with their parents and give them a cold war like I used to.

Although parents can't say anything, it's for your own good. Never do anything that makes your parents sad. I won't regret it until I get to this age, but it's too late.

The above is the most popular answer about the topic that women don't get married in Zhihu, and there are many posts below. Some people say it's good to be single, others say it's good to be married, and there are different answers.

From this, I think of two unmarried infertile women in our community, one is 45 years old and the other is 50 years old. Both women have one thing, that is, they look exactly like 30-year-old women.

A 45-year-old lady named Ye lives downstairs in my house. She is just an ordinary supermarket tallyman, with a monthly salary of only over 3,000, and her living standard is naturally not very high.

She has been living with her parents, who take care of her life and cook and wash clothes for her. After her parents died, she lived alone in this house, cooking and washing clothes by herself and living on a salary of more than 3,000 yuan.

I once asked her if she ever thought about marrying a man with good economic conditions. That will improve her poor life. She said that she never thought that living alone would be better than being happy, although she would be poorer materially.

She said that she was not an industrious woman. If she has to wait on her husband and take care of her children after marriage, that kind of life will make her depressed to death. She said that her mother had been taking care of her husband and children all her life. In addition to serving my husband and taking care of my children, I have to work hard to make money every day.

When my mother was in her fifties, her lumbar muscles were severely strained. She suffered from this disease until she died at the age of seventy. Even so, because of her illness, her father didn't do his best to help her with some housework, but pushed everything to her.

Her mother didn't die of natural causes, but committed suicide by jumping off a building because of severe depression. She said that her mother endured the strong oppression of her father all her life and never lived for herself once.

So she didn't want to get married all her life, just afraid to follow her mother's old path. Even her mother supported her decision to be unmarried and infertile, saying that if she was not sure whether she could find a good man, she might as well live happily alone.

She said that her mother chose to marry love, but she let herself lose miserably. Although my father is not a bad person in principle, his macho thinking and overbearing nature make my mother live a very painful life.

Although her decision of being unmarried and infertile will lead to her No Country for Old Men, she still has no regrets about her choice of being unmarried and infertile. Single life can keep her inner peace forever, and she will not be influenced by other people's emotions, nor will she be tired of endless housework.

When she is old, she may choose an abnormal death like her mother. She doesn't care about the length of life, only the width of life.

She said that she considered it very clearly, and with her personal conditions, she couldn't find a man with too good conditions to match. Instead of marrying a man you don't like to run errands, being controlled by him, having children for a man you don't love, and living a humble life, it is better to choose a proud single and be your own master.

I think the reason why she chose to be unmarried and infertile is closely related to her life experience in the first half of her life. The reason why she doesn't want to get married is that she is afraid that she will be dragged down by her family all her life like her mother and can't find her own happiness in life.

Another 50-year-old single woman, she is a very excellent woman. Her parents are both senior intellectuals and still alive. The relationship between parents and husband and wife is particularly good. They seldom disagree when they are young or old.

She said that the fundamental reason why parents can get along so well is that they are as good as one person. My parents have been childhood friends since childhood. They grew up together and knew each other's character and conduct very thoroughly. Both sides are good people, so naturally there will be no dispute.

But she didn't change her original intention of being unmarried and infertile because of her parents' happy marriage. The reason why I chose to be unmarried and infertile was because I saw too many people around me, because the husband and wife did not quarrel and finally divorced.

She said that she knew it was difficult for her to be as lucky as her parents and find such a suitable man. When she was young, she talked about several boyfriends, all of whom broke up because of disagreement.

She said that she is not a strong woman, but that doesn't mean that men can do whatever they want. The previous boyfriends she contacted were particularly strong when they encountered key problems.

They will always ask her to be obedient and say that men should be the masters at home, which is the last thing she can tolerate. She thinks that her education is not low and her knowledge is no less than that of men. If everything is arranged by a man after marriage, she will never tolerate it.

She doesn't like men's blind arrogance. Many times, she is asked by men to take care of herself and let her help them wash clothes and cook in their spare time and take care of them. And when she asks men to wash clothes and cook for themselves, men will disdainfully say that it is what women do.

Since men don't know how to sympathize with themselves when they are in love, let alone expect to be taken care of by men after marriage. She thinks that for modern women, marriage is not standard. As long as they have the ability and don't need men, a person can live comfortably.

She said that her parents are 80 years old and still in good health. If they live to 100, they can stay with her for 20 years. Twenty years later, she is also a 70-year-old man. At that time, she will hire a single nanny who has no children and daughters, and let her stay with her all the time to provide for her old age.

After her death, most of her property will be donated to the country except for part of the property left to the nanny. Anyway, she has no children, and there is no need to leave her property to future generations, so she will donate it all, which can be regarded as a contribution to society.

She once told her parents about her old age, and their parents said that no matter what decision she made, they would support her unconditionally. They say that everyone has different thinking and needs. As long as it is the happiest lifestyle, it is definitely the right choice.

She said she had five years to retire. After retirement, she was nothing, so she stayed at home with her parents and had to spend the last time with them.

She doesn't envy the happiness of her parents' marriage, because she feels happier when she is single. She lives as carefree and happy as a child every day. If everything can be done again, she will still choose to be single and have no regrets in this life.

Write at the end:

With the development of society and the progress of the times, people are more and more advocating the embodiment of pursuing self-worth, less and less bound by secular concepts, and more and more insisting on their favorite lifestyle.

Because of the change of ideas, there are many unmarried people. Unmarried people don't want to bear the hardships of having children and the tedious marriage. They like to live a free and unrestrained life.

Everything in the world has two sides. Since I chose the beauty of not getting married, I have to bear the loneliness of being old and having no one. When a person is young and strong, he can be self-sufficient and have nothing to worry about. But in his later years, he will face a lonely and helpless ending.

Can you bear the loneliness and loneliness in your later years? Can you stand the loneliness of a person in front of a hospital bed? Can you not envy your peers' children and grandchildren and enjoy family happiness? If you could do it all over again, would you still choose unmarried infertility?

A woman who has never been married and has no children in her life What's wrong with a lifelong unmarried person?

There are two kinds of women in society now. One is to get married early; Second, being single, they will feel that they have a good life. Why do they want to get married and have children and find a burden for themselves?

Can unmarried people really be happy?

Marriage is not the key to judge whether a person is happy or not. Some psychologists believe that some people's "happiness" is innate, and these people are born with a happy constitution, which comes from the surrounding environment.

For a simple example, people living in China are happier than those living in war countries, because we don't have to worry about war.

Besides the uncontrollable environment, there are three other factors that are also the key to happiness.

Good interpersonal relationships, pursuing your dreams, helping others, and high-quality interpersonal relationships are the starting points of happiness.

Why is the starting point of high-quality interpersonal happiness? Because there are people around you who can complain, you will tell them what is unhappy in your heart, so that you will become happy.

Make achievements in the process of chasing dreams

Any single woman can pursue her dreams, because they don't have to be bound by family, they can get more learning opportunities and pursue everything they want.

Be ready to help others at any time and let yourself get spiritual satisfaction.

There are some ways to help women in life.

So, will unmarried women feel happy?

What's wrong with people who never get married? These four kinds of women are handsome.

Live the life you want.

Some women are single, not because they have no choice, nor because they can't meet the person they like, but because they have made up their minds to live a single life.

When they decide to live the life they want, they will not be disturbed by the outside world, they will feel that their life is what they want, and they will feel happy.

Psychological research shows that single people have a strong sense of autonomy and autonomy in their own lives.

Women with the concept of independent living ability

They need to take care of their in-laws Women with the concept of independent living ability can live according to their own ideas, regardless of their own hands and feet. On the contrary, in the eyes of others, I will envy such a woman, because there is no family pressure and everything depends on myself.

Married women pay attention to close family relations, and only children pay attention to personal sustainable development strategies.

A woman who likes all kinds of life.

You need to know. There are obvious differences in lifestyle between single women and married women.

After marriage, they like that their husbands can love themselves for a lifetime and their families can live happily for a lifetime.

Single women, they have all kinds of choices.

A variety of living conditions, you don't have to stick to how to be happy, and you don't need to think about your family every time you go out to play.

Women who like to live alone

With the change of living environment, many people like to live alone. They feel lonely because they think it's the only way to relax. If they don't care what people around them think, they can completely leave themselves in an empty state.

In fact, women don't have to get married to be happy. Marriage is not the only way out. As long as you are sure that you want to live a good life, I believe that every day is beautiful and enviable.