Cross-border marriage between China and foreign countries is becoming more and more rational, and cultural differences are not obstacles.

The reasons for transnational marriage are different.

The pursuit of superior material life was once the main cause of transnational marriage between China and foreign countries. In this regard, China foreign cultural exchange expert Cheng believes that this is not the inevitable reason why China people choose transnational marriage. There are also many people who choose cross-border love because of the coincidence of life or because of impulse.

Cheng admitted that the living environment in some developed countries is really superior, mainly including medical care, education and social welfare. Take education as an example. Jet Li, a famous movie star, immigrated to Singapore for the education of her children. When this psychological state is reflected in real life, there will also be many cases of transnational marriage.

"There is another situation that cannot be ignored," Cheng pointed out. "Many foreign men have a strong interest in China culture and want to find a Chinese wife to provide them with a living environment. Under this premise, most transnational marriages are happy. " In real life, there are cases where foreign women marries a man from China, and the conditions of the two sides are quite different. Cheng believes that this is largely because this lady is fascinated by China culture and yearns for life in China.

Cultural differences are not obstacles to transnational marriage.

Cheng said that the marriage and happiness of foreign men and women depend on whether there is a foundation of love and how to deal with contradictions in daily life. The root cause of the disintegration of transnational marriage lies in people, and whether the husband and wife can truly respect, understand and tolerate each other, rather than cultural differences.

Xie Ling, a China woman who married in Munich in 2004 (she didn't give her real name at the request of the interviewee), was deeply touched by this. She told reporters that all her friends in Munich are from China who are married to Germans, and most of their marriages are happy. In her view, the possible contradictions in transnational marriage are mainly due to the differences in personality and values between husband and wife. In addition, whether the husband and wife can understand each other and tolerate each other is also one of the decisive conditions for the happiness of transnational marriage.

Xie Ling said that her married life with her German husband was generally happy, but there were minor contradictions. Taking his son's education as an example, Xie Ling thinks that there is no need to spend too much money to ask a nanny to send his 5-year-old son to kindergarten and play with him for a while if necessary. However, the husband insisted on hiring a more professional person to accompany his son, preferring to spend 50% more money to hire a nanny trained in children's education.

Xie Ling revealed that one of her female friends had studied in Japan and obtained a doctorate. While studying abroad, she met her German husband and came to live with her in Munich. But now their marriage is on the verge of disintegration. The reason is that this friend has become a full-time housewife and feels unable to realize the value of life, so she is depressed and has constant contradictions with her husband.

The occurrence of transnational marriage between China and foreign countries tends to be rational.

According to the statistical report on the development of civil affairs published on the website of the Ministry of Civil Affairs of China, in the past 10 years, the number of foreign-related marriages in China reached its peak in 2003, and in the following years, the number of foreign-related marriages began to decrease.

The reporter interviewed a matchmaking agency in Beijing. Ms. Pan, her consultant, said that she had worked in the company for 65,438+00 years and had been in contact with the cross-border matchmaking business since 2006. This business was once hot, but it has become less and less in recent years. According to her introduction, the company's cross-border matchmaking business is mainly based on Sino-Japanese matchmaking. Most Japanese women are married to Japan, but for many reasons, most of them end in divorce. Women seeking overseas marriage are more and more rational, and the company's transnational business is therefore less and less.

Ms. Lu, a consultant of a matchmaking agency in Guangzhou, said that the company specializes in transnational matchmaking business and its members are mainly women. When looking for overseas marriage, they value the high welfare treatment abroad and the opportunity for their children to enjoy free education. However, their decision is not blind. Matchmaking agencies match according to the conditions of both parties to help them establish contact and finally get married. The parties make their choices on the basis of emotional cultivation.

Xia Xueluan, a professor of sociology in Peking University, believes that with the improvement of China's social and economic level and international status, China people are becoming more and more rational in their choice of transnational marriage. Moreover, more and more women are married to China and more men are coming to China to be sons-in-law, which shows the diversified development of transnational marriage between China and foreign countries, and also reflects the international attraction of China.

(Studying in liuxue86.com)