I want to know about Zhang Youyi.

married Xu zhimo in p>1915.

Xu Jikai, the eldest son, was born in p>1918. In the same year, Xu Zhimo went to the United States to study, and the next year (1919), Xu moved to London, England.

in p>192, Zhang Youyi went to Europe to reunite with her husband. At this time, Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin fell in love, and in 1921, they asked for a divorce from Xiaoyi.

In p>1922, Zhang Youyi gave birth to her next son in Berlin and divorced Xu Zhimo formally.

He returned to China in p>1926 and taught German at Soochow University in 1927.

in p>1928, she served as vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank and general manager of Yunshang Clothing Company.

He immigrated to Hong Kong in p>1949 and married Dr. Su in 1954.

In p>1974, when Dr. Su died, Xiaoyi moved to the United States to reunite with her family.

he died in new york in p>1988 at the age of 88.

"You always ask me if I love Xu Zhimo. You know, I can't answer this question. I am puzzled by this question, because everyone always tells me that I have done so much for Xu Zhimo that I must love him. However, I can't say what love is. I have never said "I love you" to anyone in my life. If taking care of Xu Zhimo and his family is called making love, then I probably love him. Among the several women he met in his life, maybe I love him the most. "

—— Zhang Youyi

Zhang Youyi was born in Baoshan County, Jiangsu Province in 19. His grandfather was a magistrate of the Qing Dynasty and his father, Zhang Runzhi, was a famous doctor at that time. Zhang Youyi is the eighth sibling, and studied in Suzhou Normal School and Pestalozzi College. In 1915, she married Xu Zhimo, gave birth to Xu Jikai (A Huan) in 1918, and gave birth to her second son Peter in 1922. She signed a divorce with Xu Zhimo, lost her beloved son Peter in 1925, and returned to China. In 1926, she started her career in Shanghai, taught German at Soochow University, took over Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank and operated Yunshang Clothing Company.

When people are obsessed with Xu Zhimo's romance, enthusiasm, infatuation and persistence, we have to admit that he was ruthless and cruel to his original wife, Zhang Youyi. Because of the arranged marriage, Xu Zhimo despised Zhang Youyi so much from before marriage to after marriage. When I first saw Zhang's photo, I curled my mouth and said in a disgusted tone, "Country bumpkin!" " After marriage, Xu Zhimo never looked at Zhang Youyi. In addition to fulfilling the most basic marital obligations, I ignored her. Even when it comes to fulfilling marriage obligations, he just obeys his parents' wishes to have grandchildren.

During his life in London, Shaston, England, and later in Berlin, Germany, Xu Zhimo was unfriendly and even cruel to Zhang Youyi. Zhang Youyi got pregnant soon after they stayed in Shaston. At this time, Xu Zhimo was pursuing Lin Huiyin and had no time to take care of Zhang Youyi. One as one pleases said, "Get rid of the child." It was dangerous to have an abortion in those days. Zhang Youyi said, "I heard that someone died because of abortion." Xu Zhimo said coldly: "There are people who died by train. Don't you see that people don't take trains?" Xu Zhimo wanted a divorce immediately, but when Zhang Youyi refused, he walked away, leaving Zhang Youyi alone in Shaston. As the delivery period approached, Zhang Youyi wrote to his second brother Zhang Junmai for help, came to Paris, and later went to Berlin to give birth to a child. Xu Zhimo knew Zhang Youyi's whereabouts, but ignored him. It was only when the divorce procedure was about to be handled that I found Berlin and forced her to sign the divorce agreement.

After giving birth, Zhang Youyi quickly recovered from her grief and entered Pestalozzi College, specializing in early childhood education. After returning to China, he set up Yunshang Company and took charge of Shanghai Women's Savings Bank, all of which were great successes. Finally, she stepped out of the shadow of her little feet and became an eye-catching new woman wearing a suit. What is even more commendable is that after returning to China, he still serves Xu Zhimo's parents (as a daughter) and carefully raises her and Xu Zhimo's son. Taiwan Province's Complete Works of Xu Zhimo was also compiled under her planning, in order to let future generations know Xu Zhimo's works.

these are all described in detail in the English book Bound Feet and Western Dress published by Ms. Zhang Youyi's granddaughter, Miss Zhang Bangmei, in the United States in September 1996.

However, it should be said that the result of Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi is largely shaped by the old ethics. The poet has his shortcomings in human nature, but his cruelty to Zhang Youyi is not absolute. This is a poem written by Xu Zhimo to Ms. Zhang Youyi (New Zhejiang-New Friends, published on November 8, 1922 together with Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi's Divorce Notice after Xu and Zhang divorced in Berlin, Germany in March 1922). I believe that after reading it, netizens will have another understanding of the poet's ruthlessness as I do.

Laugh off the trouble knot

(seeing off the baby)

Who twisted this trouble knot so hard?

who has the heart to weave this complicated knot?

How many tears and bloodstains there are in this knot? It should turn blue!

Loyalty, filial piety and righteousness-well, loyalty, filial piety and righteousness thank you for maintaining

4, years of history, but

it just grinds the humanitarian soul into powder,

The Yellow Sea is out of tide, Kunlun sighs,

4 million creatures, their hearts are dying, and the Central Plains is crying!

well, be loyal and filial!

Dongfang Xiao, will come back tomorrow,

How to settle this muddled account

?

don't worry, everything depends on human effort, just be patient and solve the problem.

Although it is tight and knotted, there is always a thread to find.

Don't complain about sore fingers and tired eyes.

You can't look up and see it. Work hard!

how about it! After all, dissolution, troubles are difficult to knot, and troubles are bitter.

come on, now let go of your face and smile, shake hands and work hard;

it's windy and sunny in the daytime, and the scenery of Freedom Road is good.

after listening to the sound of joy behind you, we argued for a way to dissolve the knot, which

eliminated our troubles!

Zhang Youyi is the original wife of Xu Zhimo, the daughter of a noble family. She comes from a prominent and wealthy family, but she is not pampered, caring for her husband and educating her children. However, Xu Zhimo, who is influenced by western education and modern thoughts, finds it hard to identify with a traditional woman like Zhang Youyi. Since she married the Xu family, she has never really seen her.

Xu Zhimo's indifference to her stems from his dislike of feudal ethics. Zhang Youyi is deeply bound by the old China ethics, with a quiet and determined personality and dignified manners. He is very effective in housekeeping, raising children, taking care of his in-laws and managing his finances. But these advantages, in the eyes of independent poets, are ignorant and dull.

In a patriarchal society, women are just an ornament and a decoration. Only those women who wander in the prosperous and luxurious social occasions filled with vague and ambiguous atmosphere, with lofty colors and amorous feelings, can give them a better fantasy space. Zhang Youyi is a good wife and a good mother in the traditional sense. What she pursues is nothing more than real life, having faith in the country, having a lover to rely on, and living a good life with a man in a down-to-earth manner. With such a woman, there will be no romance, no dazzling life, and no love between you and me. She is not as elegant and elegant as Lin Huiyin, and her aura is compelling, nor is she as bright and gorgeous as Lu Xiaoman, which makes people unable to extricate themselves. She is an ordinary woman, and ordinary people are sad.

Among the women Xu Zhimo met, Zhang Youyi probably loved him the most. Her self-reliance won the respect of Xu Zhimo, but she never got his love. So there is no justice in love. Fortunately, Zhang Youyi finally found the habitat of love in her later years, and experienced the hardships of love and hate. This ordinary woman finally came to an unsatisfactory end.