How to be filial to domestic parents after immigrating to Canada?

Dad just came home from the hospital recently. His old man suffers from serious complications of diabetes, and he has to be hospitalized twice a year for comprehensive examination and treatment. When chatting with us in video before admission, my parents emphasized to us in unison that there was nothing wrong with my father's health. Anyway, I stayed at home, so I just went to the hospital for a routine check-up, so it was a vacation. I know very well in my heart that my parents are so low-key because they are afraid that I will worry. Well, who wants to go to the hospital to smell Su Shui? Not to mention, when I enter the hospital, my mother and my sister will accompany me all day and deliver meals. They must be very busy. Father doesn't like people who are in trouble in life, even his own family. He won't easily agree to be admitted to the hospital unless he has to. My sisters are busy in the hospital these days, and my mother in her seventies is tired and thin. If I were still in China and had more hands, they might not work so hard. But now, as far away as Canada, I can only be anxious and can't help anything. At this moment, anxiety, worry, shame and guilt welled up in my heart. Although there is an old saying: parents are here, don't travel far. However, in order to see the outside world, I chose to emigrate without hesitation. At that time, my parents were only in their sixties and still very strong. In my mind, my parents never seem to get old, and they will always be my strongest backing and reliance. When we come to a foreign country, we have too much to learn and too much to face. Especially when children are young, they are so busy every day that they have no time to take care of their many needs, and they have no energy to take care of their relatives in China. Nine years have passed in an instant. When everything finally settled down and began to feel at home here, I suddenly realized that my parents who were far away from home were getting older and weaker. I was shocked to see my mother at the airport when I returned to China last year. I haven't seen her for three years, but my mother has aged a lot. The original black hair has turned gray, and even the straight waist is a little hunched. The whole person looks a lot shorter than before. Fortunately, my mother has no serious health problems. My father was ill for a long time, so he was not so lucky. In recent years, my father's health has gone from bad to worse, and the number of hospitalizations has become more and more frequent. My family can always keep these things from me, and it is often after my father is discharged from the hospital that I am safe. In my sister's words, what's the use of telling you? Only one more person will worry, and I can't call you back every time. Usually it's nothing serious, so I try not to disturb you. My heart thumped and suddenly sank. My family has been considerate of me for so many years. Not only have they never given me any trouble, but they always try their best to help me. If one day they need me to go back at once, I'm afraid my parents really have physical problems. This is the last thing that every child wants to happen, and it is also the last thing that he wants to face, that is, meeting some older immigrant friends whose parents are no longer alive. When these people mention their parents, almost no one does not feel guilty, and no one does not regret it. When they were young, they were busy with their careers, taking care of their small families and children, and had little time and energy to take care of their parents. Everyone always feels that it is not too late to take time to be filial to parents when other things are busy. Anyway, there are still many opportunities in the future. However, the elderly parents died before that. The tree wants to keep quiet, but the wind will not stop; My son wants to serve his parents when they are old, but they are gone. I believe that no one wants to leave regrets in this life. However, we have emigrated to Canada, far away from Qian Shan's parents. How can we be filial to the elderly? I once heard someone say that it is not easy to be filial to parents. Immigration for them, can't they be reunited? There are indeed many friends around me who have gone through immigration formalities for their parents, of course for different purposes. Some of them are only children themselves, and the purpose of immigration is to reunite with their parents and enjoy family happiness; Some are because the old people are in rural areas in China and the social security measures are not perfect, so they can live a more secure life after coming here; Others hope that the elderly will come here to help take care of the children and do housework. . . . . . However, the living conditions of these elderly immigrants are actually quite different. Some old people like it here very much after coming to Canada and are very satisfied with everything; Others, even eager to return, have a hard time. In the park near my home, I have seen some old people from China get together several times and tell each other all kinds of disappointments in life. When it comes to sadness, they burst into tears. At this age, it is not easy to deal with family relations when you come to a strange environment and the language is unreasonable. Perhaps, not all old people are suitable for immigration. For example, my parents always think that they have good retirement benefits and medical security in China, a wide circle of friends, and they are old and need frequent medical treatment, so they are actually more suitable to stay in China. They are happy to visit relatives in Canada occasionally, but they are not interested in immigration. I still have some friends who always take time out to visit their parents in China as much as possible, which is naturally a good way to honor their parents. An elder sister told me that since her daughter went to college, she spent almost all her holidays and savings on visiting relatives in China. She said to me: filial piety can't wait. She puts her elderly parents first now, but she doesn't want to leave regrets for the future. Of course, not everyone can return to China whenever they want. Especially in families where children are studying, it is not easy for adults and children to coordinate their time. In addition, for ordinary working families, there are also economic considerations. There are many couples from different provinces here. When a large family returns to China with great fanfare, they need to travel at both ends. All kinds of expenses are really not the simplest, and most people are most capable of doing it. It is to send some money to parents on schedule to show our mind as children. As far as I know, quite a few elderly people in China not only refuse to accept money from their overseas children, but also help their children in various ways. The poor inherit the wind. Old people always stand in our position and think for us everywhere. They understand that it is not easy for people living abroad to make a living and all kinds of burdens are heavy, so they try their best to help their children from human, material and financial aspects. How many parents help their children pay the down payment when they buy a house? How many old people frequently send money and things to their grandchildren, saying that they are for their grandchildren, but in fact they are not solving problems for their children? How many old people have given up the relatively comfortable life in China and traveled across the ocean, not far from Wan Li, to take care of their children and do housework for them? Like my parents, they always emphasize that their conditions are better than mine and they don't need any financial aid at all. They are satisfied with our intention. Even if I impose it on them, they will try to double it and leave me helpless. They all say that "the closest relatives don't say thank you." Parents' kindness to our children is still unclear in this life. It is the most basic responsibility and obligation of our overseas children to call their parents often, send videos often or write letters regularly. My parents are actually very low on me. They never expect me to be rich or expensive abroad, just want me to be safe and healthy. I can often hear my children's voices and see our smiling faces, and they are very happy and satisfied. When talking to old people, I always report good news instead of bad news, and only choose the good ones. No matter what I meet here, I won't say a word to the old people. I often think that my parents have reached the stage where they need people most. As their daughter, I can't wait on the old people and make them laugh, which is unfilial. If I give them extra trouble and burden, I really expect my boss to go to college soon. At that time, I could often take my second child back to visit my father's old immigrants without any worries. Our parents' love for us has not decreased, and our concern for the elderly is increasing day by day.