He is Steve Jobs's biological father, but he has never heard him call "Dad"

Jobs had two fathers in his life. One was his adoptive father, Paul Reinhold Jobs, who raised him; the other was his biological father, John Abdulfa, who abandoned him when he was born. Tah Chanderi.

Walter Isaacson described Jobs's views on his biological parents in "The Biography of Steve Jobs": "Biological parents may have greater meaning to other people, but For me, they were just a sperm bank and an egg bank. Being abandoned by them made me more independent, but my (adoptive) parents always made me feel special. With gratitude, praise, and respect. His attitude toward his biological father, who gave him life, was completely opposite. He was completely indifferent to his biological father. Until his death, he never recognized or reunited with him, and never called him "Dad" personally.

It turns out that there is not always light behind the sun. There are so many painful past events behind this god-like man.

Steve Jobs, the godfather of Apple, was originally a rich second generation. His grandfather and maternal grandfather were both business tycoons. Jobs's father came from Syria. His grandfather ran several oil refineries and was also involved in other industries. He also had a large number of assets in the Syrian capital Damascus, the largest city Aleppo, and the third largest city Khomki, and once controlled it. The price of wheat in that area. My grandmother was a traditional Muslim woman.

Like most business families, the Chandri family also attaches great importance to education. Almost all family members were sent to study in Istanbul or the Sorbonne University in Paris. Before going to the United States, Chandri studied at a local Jesuit boarding school, then received a bachelor's degree from the American University of Beirut, and then came to the University of Wisconsin to study for a master's degree in political science and served as a teaching assistant.

In 1954, Joanne Siebel entered her dream university, the University of Wisconsin-Madison, and began her colorful college life. This German-business girl from rural Wisconsin is beautiful, optimistic, enthusiastic and generous, elegant in conversation, and very charming. Wisconsin and Jobs have a close bond. His adoptive father was also a Coast Guard member born in Wisconsin.

Joanne's father, Arthur Sibel, was also a very successful businessman. After immigrating to the United States from Germany, he moved to the suburbs of Green Bay, where he and his wife ran a mink farm. They also got involved in real estate, photo relief printing and other businesses, and lived a prosperous life. He himself is a very devout Catholic and requires his daughter's marriage partner to be a Catholic. Once, because Joanne's first boyfriend was not a Catholic, he firmly prevented the two from dating.

Jobs’ biological father and mother were connected in politics class. Joanne, who majored in politics, was quickly attracted to Chandli, a handsome, talented and promising young man. At the same time, Chandli also fell under Joanne's skirt, and a vigorous transnational love affair began. So, the wheel of fate started turning at the University of Wisconsin.

This summer, Joanne returned to Syria with Chandri. Joanne received warm hospitality at Chandri's house. They stayed in Khomki for two pleasant months. Joanne was ingenious and ingenious. I also learned how to cook Syrian food that my boyfriend loves. After they returned to Wisconsin, Joanne discovered she was pregnant.

They were only 23 years old and still students at the time. The news was undoubtedly like a bombshell to them. They were panicked. They were unprepared for this little guy who came at the wrong time. , normal life has been disrupted. Because Wisconsin is a Catholic district, abortion is not allowed and is illegal. In order to give their children a legal identity, they had no choice but to get married.

Joanne’s father clearly stipulated that his son-in-law must be a Catholic. Even though he already had a grandchild in his belly, he did not give up his principles. When Chandry came to propose to the family, Arthur was just like last time. , resolutely rejected his request. But this time there was another reason, which was that getting pregnant out of wedlock would harm the family's reputation. He also threatened his daughter that if she married Chanderi, he would sever the father-daughter relationship and deprive her of her right to inherit property. With no choice but to give up the idea and plan of getting married for the time being.

Jobs grew up in Joanne’s belly day by day, and she was both happy and sad. In early 1955, Joanne came to a private hospital in San Francisco with a pregnant belly. This hospital specialized in delivering babies to unwed mothers, providing shelter and secretly arranging adoption matters. Although Joanne cannot raise the baby herself, she hopes the baby can grow up in a good environment. She has one requirement for adoption: both parents of the adopted child must be college students. According to this request, the doctor arranged for them a lawyer couple. Everything is ready, just waiting for the baby to be born.

On February 24, 1955, Steve Jobs was born. Looking at this cute little guy, Joanne was filled with joy, but she felt unspeakable pain in her heart. Birth was a separation. Who knew if we would have the chance to meet again in the future, and when would the next meeting be? A few days later, doctors told Joanne that the lawyer couple wanted to adopt a girl, not a boy. In this way, Jobs encountered his first abandonment. Chanderi had no choice but to accept what happened.

In desperation, the doctor had no choice but to arrange for a second adopter, who were Jobs' adoptive parents: Paul and Clara. However, this did not meet Joanne's requirements at all, because they had not even graduated from high school. Paul and Clara were filled with joy because they had been married for 9 years and were looking forward to having a child. Clara was unable to have children, so she had to adopt.

Joanne hesitated. She could not accept the parents who had not graduated from high school anyway, so she refused to sign the adoption letter, and the stalemate lasted for several weeks. In the end, Joanne relaxed the conditions and required Paul and his wife to set up a special fund to send their children to college. "What they say is true, but what they say is true." They also wrote a guarantee on the adoption letter and signed it, and everything went smoothly after that. Complete the adoption procedures.

As fate would have it, Jobs's maternal grandfather, Arthur Sibel, passed away in August 1955, a few weeks after the adoption procedures were completed. That Christmas, Jobs' biological parents got married. The next year, Chandli also received a doctorate in international politics. They later had another child, Jobs's sister, Mona Simpson.

When Mona was 5 years old, she was also abandoned by her father. When Mona grew up, she found her father through detectives. It was also from Mona that Jobs learned about his biological father.

After they got married, they returned to Syria. However, due to the political turmoil in Syria at that time, the business run by the Chandri family also deteriorated. Joanne missed her relatives in her motherland and was not happy here. She resolutely returned to the United States alone while pregnant with Mona, and then gave birth to her daughter. After Mona was born, Chandri also returned to the United States, where he taught at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and published several articles. A few years later, problems appeared in the marriage of the two people, and the conflicts in their lives became more and more serious, which eventually ended in divorce. After the divorce, Joanne took Mona to settle in Los Angeles. Chandri paid no attention to Mona, and Joanne also remarried to her second husband, George Simpson. Since then, Chandli and Joanne's mother and daughter have never seen each other again and lost contact.

Chandri also remarried soon. He worked as a teacher, opened a restaurant, and had several marriages, but he had no children and his life was not going well.

After Mona found her father, she went to meet her father alone. He worked as a restaurant manager at the Bloomton Casino near Reno. Chandri was very surprised and happy about the arrival of his daughter. They chatted together for several hours, but Chandri still couldn't help telling Mona that she had a brother. He also talked about his previous job. At that time, he ran a Mediterranean restaurant in the north of San Jose, California. This restaurant was located in the heart of Silicon Valley, where he could often see some successful people in the technology industry, and even met Steve Jobs and shook hands with him. Mona was surprised when she heard this, but he did not tell her father: "Jobs is your biological son" because Jobs had told her in advance not to mention him to Chandri.

According to Jobs's recollection, he had indeed been to that restaurant several times, and had a good impression of the owner. He also shook hands with the restaurant owner, Chandri, his biological father. Even though Mona gave Jobs his father's address and phone number, he still never got in touch with his father.

"I don't mind that he didn't treat me well. What dissatisfied me most is that he abandoned Mona." Jobs was extremely angry at his father's irresponsible behavior. But he seems to have forgotten that he also abandoned his daughter Lisa when he was 23 years old. Even though the DNA paternity test showed a paternity probability of 94.41%, and the court finally ruled that Lisa was his biological daughter, he still refused to admit it, and even He openly declared in court that he was sterile. As he grew older and matured, Jobs still took on the responsibilities of a father.

With the publicity of the relationship between Jobs and his sister, and the fact that Mona wrote a novel "Elsewhere" based on her father, many people started discussing on the Internet that Jobs was Chandli's son. Mona later confirmed to her father that Jobs was indeed his son. But Jobs was not interested in meeting him or acknowledging him, and Chandri seemed to accept all this. He did not disclose the news that Jobs was his son, nor did he take the initiative to call him. But he still hoped that he could see his son again in his lifetime, even if it was just to sit down and drink coffee together, he would be satisfied.

Since then, Chandri began to pay attention to every move of Jobs, often checking news and videos about Jobs on the Internet, and would also ask Mona about his brother's situation. After learning that Jobs was ill, he sent several emails to Jobs with concern. Only two of these emails were answered, and one even only replied with the word "thank you."

Everyone thought that Jobs would contact his father sooner or later, but everyone guessed wrong. Jobs was Jobs, and he just never contacted his father. One day in June 2010, Jobs took his son Reed to Mona's birthday dinner. Reed spent a long time looking through his grandfather's photos, but Jobs was dismissive and indifferent. Although he still has the blood of the Syrian in his body.

There are three major tragedies in life: "losing one's father in youth, losing one's spouse in middle age, and losing one's son in old age." On October 5, 2011, after learning about the death of Steve Jobs, Chandri was in a low mood. He kept looking at the photos of Steve Jobs on his computer over and over again and remained silent for a long time.

How much he wanted to see Jobs again, how much he wanted to hear Jobs call "Dad". However, it was too late, he left. This time, he abandoned everyone, including his favorite child, Apple.