Who will have a more miserable future, the older leftover woman or the older leftover man?

Don’t be stupid, it must be the older leftover men who are even worse off! Why? Because of poverty!

You must know that the main reasons why older leftover women and older leftover men are left behind are different. In the current social environment where there are more men than women, it is impossible for women to be single unless they are particularly bad. Most of the leftover women are actually concentrated in cities. Most of them are women with a high education or have better conditions. When you are young, you are left behind in the selection because you have relatively high requirements for partner selection or have too high expectations for yourself.

But the older leftover men are different. The reason why they are left behind is basically one word: poverty!

Therefore, if they are also left behind, or have to face the end of dying alone, wouldn’t the urban leftover women with relatively superior material conditions have a better life than the rural leftover men?

You must know that a man who is left behind because of poverty will not be able to get rid of poverty and start a family during the golden period of his life. Then, it is almost impossible for them to counterattack in the second half of their lives. More of them often end up in poverty.

As for many leftover women, they themselves have a certain financial foundation, and quite a few actually have strong working abilities and high incomes. Therefore, the single life of many leftover women is often not as miserable as everyone thinks. Traveling, reading, fitness... many of them live a very bourgeois life.

These rich single lives are also the reason why many leftover women are not eager to find a partner to get married, or even plan to get married, even if they are single and urged by their families.

Besides, the pressure faced by leftover men is actually far greater than that of leftover women, who are both single and left behind. Because the survival pressure faced by men is inherently great, and the vast majority of leftover men are left passively due to poverty. Naturally, they are also at a relatively low-level position in society, and the psychological pressure they bear is also huge.

So, no matter how you say it, the life of an older leftover man is actually the most miserable!

Take my ex-girlfriend and I as an example. She and I are currently close to 30 years old. In a small city like Nanchang, we can be classified as older leftover men and older leftover women.

I bought a house when house prices were low, and now the average price has doubled. My monthly house payment is more than 2,000 yuan, and there is no pressure at all. And I also bought a car last year. Although the configuration is not high, at least I don’t have to worry about wind and rain when commuting to get off work. Currently, I am having a very interesting chat with a girl and will start a new relationship.

As for my ex-girlfriend, her salary is average, but she spends a lot of money. Cosmetics cost from two to three hundred a bottle, and she never wears many of the clothes she bought. She can't save much money every month, so how can she have the money to buy a house and a car?

Everyone said, who would be happier in this situation? !

I can’t say it’s miserable, but I personally think that the road ahead for older leftover women will be more difficult than for older leftover men.

Older women:

1. As older women grow older, their thinking is constantly changing. Although they have no experience in love and family, they will still become more and more mature, and they will be more mature towards boys. The requirements will also become higher and higher. At the age of 20, 30, and 35, the standards for finding boys are different.

2. If friends around you get married one after another, the conflicts and various problems in marriage will also be mixed with the requirements for finding a partner. Marriage and love are definitely different. If you continue to With this requirement, fewer and fewer boys meet it.

3. The embarrassment of being high and low. I don’t want to find someone much younger than myself. Boys are still in the minority if they are willing to find someone older than themselves. I'm looking for an older, unmarried man, and I wonder if there's something wrong with me mentally, why I haven't been in love.

4. The older men you fall in love with are either married, divorced, or they don’t like you. If you are unmarried and unwilling to seek divorce, if you are divorced and have children, and do not want to become a mother, the more factors you have to consider, the more factors you will have to consider.

5. As age increases, the childbearing age becomes older, and men will also consider this issue. This is why the other halves of many wealthy celebrities are young.

6. As you get older, you often get married for the sake of getting married, which reduces the sweetness of love and eliminates the running-in period. And the older you are, the higher the quality you require, so it is a must for the economy.

Sometimes finding a partner is like starting a business. Why should you start a business while you are young? It is just to be young, brave and enterprising. When you reach middle age, you will be under a lot of pressure, you will lose your courage, and you will only want to be safe, you will lose your passion, and your life will become dull.

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Being single based on your ability is not a scandal!

No matter you are an older goddess or a leftover man, you must maintain a good attitude.

First of all, let’s analyze the problem of leftover men and leftover women

1. From a physical point of view

Mainly in the context of reception: relatively speaking, men are still Have certain advantages. As women get older, fertility problems are very dangerous.

2 From a psychological point of view

If a man is older, if he has been single.

It will give people a feeling of immaturity, because a man without a family is unreliable. It is natural to study this man's problems and find out where he is lacking.

But women are different. Even if they are older, there are still men who like them. After all, the more mature a woman is, the more beautiful she becomes.

3 From a social perspective

Whether it is leftover men or leftover women, it is not a good thing for the development of society. Because getting old will bring a certain amount of pressure to society.

So, who has a more miserable future, the older leftover woman or the older leftover man?

I think whether you are miserable or not depends on yourself.

Some people feel that they are single and will not plan their future. The Yueguang tribe, who live on a daily basis and eat only a small amount of food, will have a miserable life in the future.

Some people, even though they are single, can plan their lives. Look far ahead and leave a way out for everything you do.

Conclusion: In short, whether life is good or not has little to do with leftover men and leftover women. As long as you know how to plan your life and how to enjoy it, you will still be happy. You are single based on your ability!

The main reason why older leftover men do not get married is because they are poor. The days to come will not be miserable, they will be very free, and you will live a very prosperous life. It is just a little empty mentally, and there are usually ways to solve it.

1. Because you don’t have to ask for a wife, you don’t have to pay a bride price of 20,000 to 300,000 yuan, and don’t have to pay a wedding fee of nearly 100,000 yuan. What can the money be used for? You can buy a better car and use the remaining money to invest and make money. Then invest part of your salary every month and spend part of it. Only money can make more money.

On the contrary, if getting married requires hundreds of thousands, or even requires a loan, then it will take the man at least five years to pay off the debt, and then start raising a family, children, and a woman. If he does not get married, , there is no need to worry about all these worries.

A person’s life can only be described as freedom. If you have money, buy better clothes, find a place to travel well, and invite friends for dinner. If you have no money, just stay at home, play games, cook and eat by yourself. If you are poor, you can take care of yourself. If you are rich, you can help the world. You don’t have to worry about so many things and live a free and easy life.

If you feel lonely, you can go to an orphanage to adopt a child. The child can be raised as your own and your property can be inherited by her. This can be considered an explanation for the rest of your life. There is also a child who has taken care of himself. What if you don’t want to adopt a child? When you get old, you can take care of yourself in a nursing home, part of the funds can be given to the nursing home, and part of the funds can be donated to society.

I don’t want to talk about women. In my eyes, it is impossible for women to die alone. They can find a husband no matter what. This is the only man I can't marry, and there are no women I can't marry. I heard that many disabled women are competing for them, which really makes me sigh.

Leftover men are mainly in rural areas, while leftover women are mainly in cities. Ordinary workers in cities don't have enough pensions to enter nursing homes. In rural areas, they live at home and have food to eat. In today's society, everyone has food to eat. In rural areas, self-built houses are closer to neighbors and relatives, and they can take care of each other. It's hard to say who is more miserable.

Is it the older leftover woman who is miserable in her old age, or the older leftover man who is miserable in his later years? To be honest, this has nothing to do with gender at all. Does it mean that different genders are doomed to have different costs of life in the future? After all, whoever has no money will live a more miserable life. My naked attitude hopes to awaken the waves in your heart.

To put it simply, no matter you are an older leftover woman or an older leftover man, as long as you have a lot of money, you can live a prosperous life at any stage. And if you have no money and no successors, then after N years, you will not be able to afford to live in even the most ordinary nursing home, let alone a high-end nursing home. Then your future life can really only be described as a bleak future. Therefore, being single is not scary, but having a bleak future is dangerous.

Tell me two examples from my life:

(1)

A sister from my neighbor’s family, we call her San Fat Sister, a standard older leftover girl , from birth to now, I have never lost weight in more than 40 years, and my heart is very broad. She was arrogant at heart. She looked down on those who liked her, and looked down on those who liked her. This was how she was delayed until she reached the age of a mature lady.

But her family is well off. She studied in the UK before, and after returning, she opened a consulting company in Beijing with the support of her parents. The performance in the past few years was not good, and she suffered losses year after year. She was busy in the company every day, and she had no time to think about major events in her life. In recent years, her performance has improved, and she has achieved some success, but she is still single without a boyfriend. Her family tried to help her everywhere, and relatives and friends also introduced her. She often attended clubs and parties, but she still had not found her partner.

Although she is not short of money, she must be short of love. I have always thought so. It wasn’t until I went to her house to ask her about something that day that I discovered that a person’s life can be so exquisite and elegant. The overall style of her home is lavender, which is warm and comfortable. The overall home style is Nordic style, and all items are placed in an orderly manner. She arranged a simple small bar on the balcony, with various soft drinks neatly placed.

I asked her if she never had to go to the kitchen in her life? She said, you can go take a look at my kitchen, open the kitchen door, and find that this is a world of gourmet food, with exquisite and shiny Nordic style tableware, a variety of selected ingredients and a dazzling array of kitchen utensils. Obviously she regards cooking as a A pleasure. Yes, she made her life the way she wanted it to be. This kind of life is still of high quality even when you are old, and it is nothing compared to miserable life.

(2)

Another example is a male fellow villager I met at a fellow villagers meeting. He is 33 years old this year. He is an older man. He graduated with an ordinary undergraduate degree and has worked hard in Beijing for nearly 10 years. Except for the hundreds of thousands of savings I have saved, I have no house, no car, no investment. His family's conditions are limited. He is neither the second generation of officials nor the second generation of rich people, nor is he the second generation of demolitions. He started from scratch entirely by himself.

It stands to reason that if you have some money, you can buy a house in your hometown even if you can't buy real estate in Beijing. However, he has no foresight and has always wanted to save enough for a down payment to buy a house in Beijing. However, Beijing's housing prices are rising rapidly. Far more than his salary increase, no matter how frugal he was, he still couldn't save enough for the down payment, and now he shares an old house with others. Because the house is old, the whole room looks deserted and dilapidated. The dusty table, TV on the back and various oil stains in the kitchen gave people a feeling of desolation. Apart from making meals on a whim, he basically took out food at other times, and the trash can was filled to the brim with fast food boxes.

His only hobby is longing for poetry and distant places, yes, traveling on a budget. But the present conciliation has swallowed him up. He said that after going out for a few days, he missed home as soon as the novelty wore off, and missed the slightly shabby rented home in Beijing. I wonder, apart from your roommates, you are the only one at home. What are you thinking about when you miss home? He said it was that familiar feeling and a moment of peace that allowed him to escape the turmoil of the outside world.

His condition has shown me that he is getting old. If he does not make subversive changes, then his old life will probably be like this. A cold old house, a cup of cold tea, and a lonely and silent heart, a life of despair and loneliness.

Whether you live a miserable life in old age or not depends first on how much effort you have made for your retirement and how much reserves you have made. Nowadays, many single people have already made preparations for their old age and have prepared surplus food. Even if they live alone for the rest of their lives, their later life will not be bleak. Secondly, it depends on your life attitude and mentality. Although some people are single, they live a colorful life and live a very fulfilling life every day. In their twilight years, they should be fishing today and hiking tomorrow. The chess friends the day after tomorrow have already given the schedule to them. It’s settled...

In the end, it depends on whether you have faith and pursuit. Faith can support people to keep moving forward. If only the aging body is left without any faith support, then daily life will be Endless mechanical repetition, this is really a mediocre life.

This kind of future life with no pursuit, no faith, no money, and no heirs is extremely miserable. Older babies, I’m talking about you, put away your stern eyes and just come on.

Ever discussed with a friend, "Why should we get married?" Is it to make ourselves live a better life? The reality is that many people live worse lives after marriage than when they were single. To have a baby? You can have children without getting married.

So, in the end, we came to a conclusion: getting married is to find a place for your soul to live, even if it is only temporary.

If she/he is strong enough and does not need to find a home for the soul in love or marriage, then the rest may not be a miserable thing.

Why do you say that?

First of all, society is progressing and social security is constantly improving.

Why did people in the past try every means to have more children? In addition to the influence of the idea of ??"more children, more blessings", more importantly, more people are more powerful.

In order to survive, a large amount of labor is needed. Therefore, one more person means more power.

Why don’t people today want to have children? In addition to the fact that the cost of having children is constantly rising, more importantly, everyone feels more secure. They don't need to "raise children to protect themselves from old age" and don't have to worry about having nothing to rely on when they get old or sick.

Today's young people are more optimistic about future life scenarios than the older generation, so they can not be anxious when they are left behind, and can live their lives calmly and calmly.

Secondly, whether the future will be miserable or not has nothing to do with whether you have a partner or not.

Aren’t people just afraid of being alone? But excitement can be bought with money. If you are poor, even if you get married and have children, your life may not be happy.

Poor and humble couples suffer from everything. Although money is not everything, our lives cannot be separated from it, and it is also the cornerstone of marriage.

If a person has sufficient financial ability, she/he can live a colorful life even without a significant other.

You can even have a child of your own.

Some time ago, I saw a news on the Internet about a female entrepreneur who was not married and had no boyfriend, but she wanted a child, so she spent 500,000 to go abroad for in vitro fertilization. , gave birth to a beautiful and lovely mixed-race daughter.

So, who says that being left behind will definitely lead to a miserable life?

Finally, who is more likely to be single, an older leftover woman or an older leftover man?

Excluding the fact that some men and women are left behind because of pick-and-choose reasons, and if other conditions are similar, it is easier for left-over women to leave their singles than for left-over men.

In fact, as long as women don’t be too picky and don’t expect too much, it’s still easy to get out of singles. But what about men? Because they play the role of "backbone" in their marriage, it will be relatively difficult for a man to get out of a single life before his life improves.

No one knows what will happen in the future. The single men and women today do not mean they will always be left behind. All we can do is seize the moment, live a good life now, and make ourselves strong enough not to feel anxious because of the rest.

There are 30 million more men than women in China, but there are 30 million more single men than single women. The so-called male refers to all males from birth to the day of death. China has entered an elderly society, with nearly 300 million elderly people, and women generally live longer than men. Therefore, among the elderly, there are more female elderly than male elderly, and there are many more. The gap between truly marriageable young people is not that big. It is at most a few million, and it will not exceed 3 million. If you don’t believe me, you can think back to yourself from the time you studied in elementary school to the time you graduated from college. Is there a big gap in the male-to-female ratio in your school? Especially in elementary school, junior high school, and high school, is there any kind of school where there are basically only boys and no girls in the class? , basically for boys. Due to major restrictions in universities, there may be such a large gap in the ratio of men to women.

Another point is: Chinese officials have never said that there are 30 million more men than women. It is said that this matter first came from people selling houses.

Look at problems from a developmental perspective, and never seek fish from a tree. It is you who suffers from this.

Just like some women, when they hear that there are 30 million more men than women in China, they immediately think in their heads that since there are 30 million more men, women will not have to worry about getting married. , and then see which man is not pleasing to the eye and is not worthy of him, so there are often vicious articles on the Internet about Chinese men not being worthy of Chinese women. They don’t try to verify whether it’s true, let alone think about how much the extra 30 million has to do with you. You’re not marrying these 30 million people, and you’re not the only woman, let alone counting the population of 30 million. It’s only one-forty-fourth of China’s population.

Also, have you carefully understood the background and experience of the woman who advocates non-marriage on the Internet? When you get to know each other, you will find that there are really people who don't like the good things of others when their own lives are not good.

A woman’s greatest right is the right to have children, and the greatest title for a woman is: mother, mother. No matter how great your career is and how successful you are, you still can't take it with you after you die. Who will still remember you three to five years later? However, if you are a mother, you can pass on the legacy. In three years, ten years, twenty years, fifty years, or one hundred years, someone will remember you and someone will worship you on holidays.

As the saying goes: When people pass by, they leave their names; when geese pass by, they leave their voices. After living for decades, if you don’t leave anything behind, your life will be in vain.

Life is endless, and a new generation replaces the old. It is not uncommon for a 40-year-old man to marry a 20-year-old woman, but it is rare for a 40-year-old woman to marry a 20-year-old man. Whether you want to marry or not is up to you.

There is no exact answer as to who has a more miserable life, older leftover women or older leftover men, but from a female perspective, I personally feel that older leftover women may have a slightly worse life than older leftover men in the future.

The reason why girls become leftover women is that they are too picky in choosing a mate. If they are excellent, they also have high requirements for their partners, so many boys can't get enough of them. All that is left is to pick and choose. An excellent girl has a strong ability to be alone in work and life. They also long for beautiful love in their hearts, but it is difficult to meet someone who is compatible with them. In fact, leftover girls are also fragile inside. . Women are inherently weak.

Let’s talk about Shengnan. Hengnan also has high requirements for choosing a girlfriend. If he has some capital, he has all kinds of high requirements. When he gets older, he will be left. However, Shengnan can also find young girlfriends, provided that There must be substance.

At this point, I guess many readers will question, can you find a young wife if you have money? Let me tell you, it really works. In society, there are a group of girls who are materialistic and love money. There is only love but no bread