Kumar, Israel

One day after pregnancy, I went to a restaurant to eat steak with my paunchy old Wen. ? Although there are many kinds of restaurants in Israel, as a result of my visit, I found that the restaurants known as the Far East (Chinese food, Japanese food, Vietnamese food and Thai food) are usually not very good, expensive and not very delicious, so it is better to cook at home. But steak is worth recommending. There are many South American immigrants here, and many people know what a good steak is.

One day after pregnancy, I went to a restaurant to eat steak with my paunchy old Wen. ? Although there are many kinds of restaurants in Israel, as a result of my visit, I found that the restaurants known as the Far East (Chinese food, Japanese food, Vietnamese food and Thai food) are usually not very good, expensive and not very delicious, so it is better to cook at home. But steak is worth recommending. There are many South American immigrants here, and many people know what a good steak is. ? The steakhouse is famous far and wide, and it will always be a wedding. The distance between the tables is only one and a half feet. Not only can you listen to the speech next door completely when you calm down, but you can also go back and chat with strangers at the next table, which is very suitable for the Israeli character who likes to gossip with strangers. ? Not long after we sat down, someone sat down at the next table. It's a mother with two daughters, the older is nine years old and the younger is three or four years old. All three are blonde, with big eyes and big earrings. Mom is a hot mom with a small waist and tight clothes. Mother ordered steak for her eldest daughter and hamburger for her youngest daughter. ? Old Wen and I watched with interest as the hot mom taught her eldest daughter to use a knife and fork. ? "What do you say?" Old Wen asked me without head or tail. ? "Did I say that? I said this mother immigrated from English-speaking countries, was Jewish, and was a "foreign bride" like me. I know exactly what Lao Wen wants to ask me. When I first arrived in Israel, I always felt that Westerners all looked alike and could not tell a, b and c passers-by. Therefore, Lao Wen often "educates" and plays "guessing" games with me. ? "Bingo, it seems that you know more and more about the regiment here." Old Wen smiled and said, "What do you think of her dressing up as a child? Do you like it? I carefully looked at what my two daughters were wearing: both daughters were wearing halter tops, which almost covered their navel, and jeans with a low waist, which would be exposed when they squatted down. Basically, they are dressed like mom, which is very hot. ? "Pretty handsome, but I don't like clothes that are uncomfortable to wear. "I shrugged and said. Israel's clothing fashion is also very different, but I am not surprised that it follows the European fashion. What once surprised me was the sight of a Muslim Arab mother completely wrapped from head to toe, helping her two or three-year-old girl to wear a low waist and mini skirt. Later, everyone explained to me that in Muslim culture, only little girls can dress like this. The longer it grows, the less it can be exposed, and finally even the hair is exposed, so maybe the mother wants to help the child leave some memories. ? "Your daughter won't dress like this in the future ..." I continued to explain my position to Lao Wen that I like spacious and comfortable clothes ... "Me too ... me too ... whatever ... me too. "I haven't finished, I heard the little daughter at the next table quarreling. About half of the people in the restaurant stopped to talk and wanted to see what happened. ? It turned out that my little daughter saw her sister using a knife and fork and wanted to use a knife. ? I saw the hot mom communicate calmly and peacefully with her little daughter, completely unaffected by her excitement. What is too small and too dangerous ... I spoke a lot of reasons rationally. " However, we also use knives in kindergarten. "The little girl is still very embarrassed. In Israeli kindergartens, children are given blunt knives from the age of three, which can be used to cut thin cheese or cucumbers. ? Facts speak plainer than words. My little daughter has demonstrated "my ability to use a knife". If we continue to argue, it will be beyond the understanding of three or four-year-old children. ? Hot mom sighed, called the waiter and asked if there was a blunt knife in the restaurant. Generally, foreigners eat steak medium-rare or medium-rare. Steak knife is sharp and easy to hurt, which is not suitable for children aged three or four. The waiter nodded and brought a blunt knife with huge teeth. ? Hot mom gave the knife to her little daughter and explained it for a long time, explaining to her that this knife is different from the garden, where it is different, how to take it and how to cut things. The youngest daughter nodded and began to cut her hamburger carefully and happily. After a while, another female friend of the hot mom also arrived, kissed three beautiful women and sat down. Everyone had a good time. The people in the restaurant began to talk and eat again, and everything was calm. ? "This mom is really cool. I really hope I can do as well as her in the future. "I told the old temperature. As soon as the words were finished, there was a scream from the next table, accompanied by crying afterwards. ? "Wow ... wow ..." The little girl at the next table accidentally cut her finger and cried in shock. ? Facts have proved that the crisis is not over yet. ? I was just about to push Lao Wen out to help, but I saw a hot mom chatting with her friends. After hearing her daughter's crying, she calmly picked up her daughter's bleeding hand and checked it. Then she calmly picked up the napkin on the table, pressed it on her finger, and then bowed her head and kissed her little daughter. The whole process took less than ten seconds, and the hot mom didn't even interrupt the conversation with her friends when she did the above actions. ? Miraculously, just after she kissed her little daughter, her little daughter looked at her mother, suddenly stopped crying, sobbed a little, and listened carefully to the conversation between her mother and her friends. A minute later, the mother took off the napkin on her finger and saw that it was no longer bleeding. She kissed her little daughter's finger a few times, hugged her a few times, then let her go and chatted with her friends as usual. ? The little girl looked at her plate and knife, or picked up the knife in her right hand and the fork in her left hand, and continued to cut her hamburger and eat her rice. As if nothing had happened. I want to push old Wen's hand out to help, and it is still stuck in his chest. Seeing this, my jaw is about to fall off. The people in the restaurant saw the hot mom at their fingertips, easily resolved all the crises and went back to their activities. ? Old Wen took my hand and kissed it. Wen Wen said to me, "This mother handled it very well. Because she was calm, the child knew that his illness was not serious when he saw his mother's reaction. After the initial shock of seeing blood, he soon calmed down. 」 ? Well, it was handled so well. This is a cool Jewish mother. It really makes me Orz. ? The reason why I know that the cool mom is from an English-speaking country is not that I can guess, but that there is such a cool mom Katie from England near my home. She also has a strong British accent when she speaks Hebrew. Like many Israeli Jews I remember, her appearance is cool and she doesn't like to laugh. She has three daughters, although she is blonde. All three daughters have a wild beauty. They often wear jeans, run barefoot and let their hair loose in the park. ? After Xiaoya was one year old, she often lost her temper and couldn't get up on the ground after playing in the park. I was angry and anxious to pull her up, and I felt humiliated. Xiaoya naturally doesn't want to be pulled up by me, so the mother and daughter will pander there, which is ugly. Finally, I often hold Xiaoya, throw her into the baby chair, and run home quickly in her screams. ? Katie once saw Xiaoya lying on the ground and lost her temper. I was depressed and angry. Suddenly she nodded to me (without laughing), walked slowly to Xiaoya and said to Xiaoya, who was still crying and screaming, "Wow, Lily (her daughter) brought the dog out. Do you want to see the dog? Wang Wang? At that time, Xiaoya was "crazy" about her dog. Whenever she sees someone bringing a dog out, she will kill him and play with the dog. Katie often takes Xiaoya and Lily to play with her dog Husky. ? As soon as Xiaoya heard that there were puppies to play with, she forgot why she was rolling on the ground. She quickly stood up and ran to Lily and the dog. Seeing that Xiaoya's attitude changed by 180 degrees in a few seconds, I was so surprised that my jaw would fall off. I think Katie's handling is really cool. ? "Do you know why children of this age are unreasonable? Katie still has that cool and gentle expression on her face. After I nodded, she went on to say, "Since children of this age can't control their temper and have physical and psychological needs, adults should not always confront their children. Instead, we must use our brains to find a way around and help each other find a way out, otherwise they will always be angry with them. " 」 ? I nodded again. On the one hand, I think what she said is very useful, on the other hand, I still feel that I have been taught a lesson. ? At that time, I thought that the reason why a cool mom was a cool mom was because of her personality and culture. ? Later, Lao Wen went to do military service once (Israeli men still have to do military service for one year and one month after leaving the army). That month, I often sat in the park with Xiaoya after work until it was dark. As a foreign bride who has no relatives of her own, she has to take care of her young children all month. In fact, she has a lot of pressure and worry in her heart. ? Maybe the sadness on my face attracted Katie. First she sat next to me, and then she casually talked about her husband. ? Katie's husband is a plumber. Plumbing is a profitable business in Israel. Her husband and some friends started a company. His work is not very busy and his income is not bad. I often see him playing with his daughters in the park. He is a gentle and patient person. I like to watch him guide his three-year-old daughter to express her thoughts and preferences with very delicate language and equal attitude. ? Only then did I know that her husband was in the Israeli special forces. Even after leaving the army, he is often sent to dangerous places to fight in the streets or arrest people in enemy camps for one month of military service every year. ? "When I was pregnant with my second daughter, he was sent to Canada again. I told him, please, you must call back one day to report peace. " She said slowly, "As a result, one day he was on a mission and couldn't make a phone call for 24 hours. That night I sat in my eldest daughter's room, looked at her face, touched my second daughter who was about to be born, and cried all night until he called back the next morning. 」 ? Hearing her say this, I began to feel that I shouldn't be so depressed. Lao Wen is a tank force. Unless a large-scale war breaks out, Israel will not send tank troops into the West Bank or Canada. Even if it is to be sent, it is mainly regular troops, and veterans do more logistics and maintenance. At that time, Lao Wen was sent to guard the prison of felons. Of course it's dangerous, but it can't compare with Katie's husband's situation. ? Israel is not an easy country to get along with. Raising children here must be strong and calm. "Katie said," after that day, I decided to cry less, spend more time with my children and do more useful things. You too, come on! 」 ? Looking at Katie's expression of holding back tears when she mentioned the sad place, I suddenly realized that the reason why Jewish cool mom is a cool mom is not only cultivated by education, but also honed by the environment! * This article was published under the authorization of Yama, Israel. Reprinting without permission is prohibited.

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