How bleak can a person be in his later years?

Just after the reform and opening up in the 1980s, let our village be the man of the year! Created a number of firsts in our village.

The first person to buy a motorcycle

The first person to buy a TV set

The first person to put the money in the bag,

The first person to fly an airplane.

The first person to eat at the same table as the county party secretary

..... This is all stories told by elders!

At the beginning of reform and opening up, he was quick-witted and didn't know where to resell medicinal materials. He bought medicinal materials from Xinjiang (people guessed that the specific place was not mentioned, so it was someone else's business secret) and sold them to big cities. That's a huge profit. At that time, there was no money with large face value and banks were underdeveloped. People went out to buy goods with a face value of 10 yuan, so they packed them in gunny bags! Now it sounds so exciting! Later, when he became rich, people drifted away. In order to cheat him, the seller asked two beautiful girls to take him to the hotel when loading the car. He was dumbfounded when he came back to unload the car. It's all grass Suddenly it was on fire, cerebral thrombosis, and it cost a lot of money, which was a life. In the next ten years, my daughter ran away with others, my son went to prison and my wife died before him. At the age of 67, cerebral hemorrhage recurred and nobody cared. He was completely lying in bed, neither dead nor alive, and a silly big brother stuttered him. His body is covered with lice and fleas, and there is no good place for him to bite. It took him a year to get rid of it, and the village brigade paid some money to bury it! At the beginning, the scenery was infinite, but in the end it was so bleak. This is called life!

When people are old, old and weak, it is bad enough to say that they can't do it and think that they can't.

But some people are selfish in nature and fierce in temperament, which offends everyone around them and alienates them. In his later years, he was in poor health, and his condition was even worse.

Only people with good hearts will be pitied by their relatives in their later years. God will take care of them, give them a good body and let them live happily in their later years.

No matter who you are, there are happy and sad people in your later years, including ordinary people and stars, stars with unlimited scenery in those days.

Liu Jiahui is an old Kung Fu star in Hongkong. He has played many roles, such as killing Bill 1, killing Bill 2, the legend of Shaolin. He has participated in TV dramas and movies for many years and has saved a lot.

20 12 after he was hospitalized after a stroke, the children of his two wives turned a blind eye to him and fought for property instead. His assistant took his life-saving money again. He was lying in bed in pain, and he had no money to be hospitalized. He relied on fans to raise money to help.

Also known as Fat Cat, he is the most distinctive actor of TVB. The major crimes unit nominated the Golden Horse Award twice, and three injured policemen won the Golden Award.

He invested in a film and television company in high spirits, but lost money and was in debt of tens of millions. Now I can't retire at the age of 70, and I'm still trying to make money and pay my debts.

And Anita Mui are good friends. 198 1 Turn Infinite, shoot Hong Kong 8 1, Hong Kong 86, and become popular. His family's economic conditions have been bad, and his mother is seriously ill. In order to treat her, he spent all his savings for many years.

My brother died in a car accident again. When his mother died, she didn't even have money for a funeral. She sent him a blank check in Anita Mui, and he only filled in 3700 yuan. Later, he became seriously ill and died in 20 10 at the age of 5 1 year.

Born in 1955, a Hong Kong film and television actor, gained wide attention for his role in "The True Color of Heroes" and was well known for his role in "Prison Storm".

I reached the peak of my art with "True colors of heroes II" and "Hot Men", and I was known as one of the four villains in Hong Kong film and television dramas, and also as a Hong Kong fool. In fact, he is a very affectionate person.

In 2004, he was diagnosed with advanced nasopharyngeal carcinoma, and his eldest son occupied all his property, which led to the despair of his wife and youngest son.

His friends in the entertainment circle raised money in the name of the star football team to help his wife and youngest son tide over the difficulties.

1963 Born in Hong Kong, she is a famous film actress and host in Hong Kong. She is known as the most beautiful actress in Hong Kong and has the reputation of "Wutai Mountain".

1983 began to be a host, 1984 starred in his first TV series "Twisting Two Stars". After that, he shot many works such as Love Outside the Law, The Only Right, Heroes on Earth, The Returning Heroes, Neon Sisters, The White-haired Witch, The Great Age and so on.

She is pure and lovely, and Andy Lau has a good impression on her.

Later, two boyfriends committed suicide, and her parents died one after another, which caused a fatal blow to her and made her insane.

Often sleeping on the street, begging for a living, fell in the bathroom at home in 20 18, at the age of 55.

These stars are all miserable in their later years. Some are poor, some are seriously ill, sometimes abandoned by their families, their property is contested, and some are insane. This is human nature.

People in prosperity have friends all over the world. When you are down and out, your family is down and out. People's selfishness and greed exist in any era.

Therefore, in addition to being kind, we should also guard against small civil air defense villains and prepare our own pension plan as soon as possible. No one can rely on, only ourselves can.

This winter, I just came back for more than a week. Grandpa stayed at home for a week, with the front door closed and the second door closed. I'm really surprised and happy. To my surprise, he broke the record of staying at home for a long time. Grandma said that grandpa didn't go anywhere this winter, even if he stayed at home for a week, it was amazing.

The good news is that grandpa is old, so he will be relieved to stay at home honestly. He used to love to run around, and people in their early 100 s would come uninvited, whether invited or not. Even if the snow in my hometown is ankle deep, grandpa can go out in the snowstorm before dawn. The so-called wind in the bones is people like my dad.

I asked grandma why grandpa was so quiet this year. Did he really lose his temper?

Grandma said to me with a somewhat smug and helpless tone: "He wants to go out, he has nowhere to go, your uncle is chasing him, and his hometown won't let him go back."

Being chased in our dialect is roughly equivalent to being driven out. Grandpa seems to have been driven out of his hometown by his uncle. Last time I left home, I heard that Grandpa was taken in by my uncle. My grandfather and grandmother are lifelong enemies. From the day of marriage, one person can't hide another person, and they can't stay in one place easily.

When they are old, they will also provide for the elderly alone. In the past, grandpa lived alone and grandma lived with her sons. Grandpa lives alone in the crumbling old cave in his hometown and lives like an old bachelor. He said that he lived comfortably alone and refused to live in the town no matter how his family advised him.

Although my grandparents were at the end of the road, they still gave birth to twelve children. They lost four children in difficult times, and now they have six children and two women. According to the truth, their old age should be very happy, but when their children grow up, they also have their own children. Their willingness to take care of the elderly is behind their willingness to take care of their own children. Therefore, their old age with many children is not more blessed than other elderly people with fewer children.

My grandfather's broken cave, when I was a child, I thought it was the best cave in my family. There is a big kang, a table and a cabinet in the room. There are two green wooden-framed mirrors hanging above the table, on which are some very treasured old photos. There is no other furnishings, which is much cleaner than grandma's kitchen and the kiln side by side with the heatable adobe sleeping platform.

In our family, grandpa's cave is called "Shang kiln", which is the place where guests come to entertain at home. However, after the family moved out of their hometown one after another, the "going to the kiln" that Grandpa was still sticking to began to look bleak against the dark abandoned caves and the yard full of weeds.

However, in those years, no matter how to persuade, grandpa refused to leave his site. "The golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own kennel." Grandpa lived a happy old bachelor life alone in a dark cave.

Maybe everyone can't beat grandpa, maybe everyone doesn't really want to take grandpa to his home for the elderly. In a word, grandpa lived alone for many years. Every time I go back to my hometown, I am surprised by my grandfather and his kennel. The cave is now blackened by the burning ash of the kang, and a 90-year-old man is standing there alone. It doesn't make sense to look at it.

To tell the truth, people are more willing to accept grandma. Grandma is kind, always smiling, eats very little, is clean, never quarrels with her son and daughter-in-law, loves her grandchildren, and is very popular among the younger generation. Grandpa described grandma as a queen bee, and wherever she went, a group of followers followed her.

But everyone is not very willing to accept grandpa. Although no one said it so clearly, we all know that it is difficult to live with grandpa.

At this time, Uncle stepped forward and vowed to take care of Grandpa's later life in the family WeChat group. Grandpa is over 90 years old, and his remaining years are not enough, but his oath is still very touching.

Uncle and Bo Er are adherents of this village. Because of their age, they don't meet the standards of ecological migration. They are guarding the old place in Zhuangzi, and probably will not leave until they die.

Uncle has a small cave on the wall facing north in his yard. Grandpa told us that my uncle wanted him to live in that cave. He said that this place is very good, the glass windows are clean, it is sunny from morning to afternoon, and the room is very warm. He lives alone, which is a great experience.

We are very happy. Grandpa is getting older and his health is getting worse. We can leave the leaves at home, and everyone in the family cares about this. However, my uncle's unexpected filial piety soon ended unexpectedly, and my grandfather was chased away in less than a semester.

Losing the retreat of his hometown, grandpa had to live in the town with grandma. Grandma lives in a small community at the foot of Helan Mountain. The people who live in this community are all mountain people who have migrated from the ravine of our hometown.

Grandma's house is rented by Dad Five, and it is in the same building and unit as Dad Six's.

As the youngest son of grandparents, Dad Liu takes care of his parents according to the tradition of our hometown.

Now grandparents are forced to live under the same roof again. Although everyone has a bedroom, grandpa should not get the freedom he wants.

Although uncle has gone too far this time, everyone is condemning him. My dad said that my uncle had seriously hurt grandpa's heart, and grandpa even scolded him, cursing that he would become a pig after his death and let him ride it. As a Hui nationality, it is shocking that Laozi cursed his son to become a pig.

But I actually feel that this result is what I expected. After all, like I said, it's actually very difficult to get along with grandpa. My uncle has never been to school and has a bad temper. His family is the worst among the brothers.

Although he had the heart to accept grandpa, he didn't take care of his share. Uncle has only one son. This son gave birth to a grandson to his uncle, five daughters and a baby girl from it runs in the family. In a family with six children, it is not easy to have another 90-year-old man or an old man who is difficult to serve.

So in the end, my uncle had to "please" grandpa from home with the reputation of unfilial. Uncle's story tells us a truth, how much responsibility you have, otherwise it is easy to bear the stigma of unfilial.

As for taking a bath, it is even more difficult. We Hui people pay attention to cleanliness, so we don't have to wash or brush on weekdays. Grandpa doesn't clean every Friday on Sunday. Only on such an important day as the anniversary of grandma's death, when he ordered a incense memorial, he rarely saw him ask for a clean life, but it was also a way of washing his body with water. All the year round, there is always a smell on your body, which makes people afraid to get close.

If you don't take a bath, your body itches easily. Grandpa likes to scratch our grandson's back best. When he came in hunched, sat by the bed, lifted his clothes and gave you background light, he just wanted you to "scratch your back"-scratch your back. I'm an adult, and I can still do it. Whenever grandpa asked me to scratch his back,

Grandpa's back is dark with white dead skin spots, which is sticky and greasy to the touch. Every time I scratch the black layer under my nails, I dare not look at my hands. I gritted my teeth and washed them. When I squeezed a lot of hand sanitizer, hand sanitizer has become a fast-moving consumer product in our family.

But my brothers and sisters don't have my good concentration. When grandpa asked us to scratch our backs, they either ran away quickly or showed great disgust and perfunctory with their eyes and actions. Although they dare not refuse directly in language, grandpa must have felt this disgusting attitude. When he asked us to scratch our backs again, he threatened to beg.

Don't wash your hands immediately after scratching grandpa's back. You can't wash your hands quietly until grandpa goes out contentedly and lies in the bedroom. Otherwise, grandpa will be angry and annoyed and ask you, "Is it dirty to pick a back handle?" Wash your hands? "

When you go to the toilet and don't flush the toilet, you often face such a severe proposition as whether to get up and flush the toilet. When you are in a bad mood, you will even scatter n on the bathroom floor and next to the toilet. Of course, these things can't be said. If you ask him why he didn't flush the toilet, he will swear that he flushed the toilet as if I were blind.

Now the two old people are afraid of being ill in bed and suffering before leaving, and both hope that God can give them an "easy" way to die. So the two of them often say that they are dying, and consciously or unconsciously predict the end time of their lives. Although they are not sure every time, I guess they want to win quality by quantity, and sometimes they talk too much, which is a bit funny.

This winter, grandpa was reluctant to squat, and the scene in the evening looked bleak, but who knows, maybe when spring comes and everything recovers, he can immediately restore his nature and wander around. Although it may be annoying, I am still looking forward to it.