What about Canadian immigrant parents?

What should parents do when they immigrate to Canada? After their work and life are handled well and the house is bought, the next thing to consider is to take over from their parents and enjoy it. Of course, there are also many people who pick up their parents because their babies are born. They need experienced parents to "help", take care of their children and help with housework, which can also temporarily relieve the tension and busyness of their babies when they first arrive. Recently, several friends who studied calligraphy also told me the happiness and troubles of living with my parents, which also led to many problems. If you choose to live with your parents, such as housework and children's education, there will be a generation gap between the two generations. In this case, some conflicts will inevitably occur; If you don't choose to live with your parents and let them stay in China, does it violate the traditional thought of "honoring your parents"? Moreover, when a large family lives together, there will be many contradictions, such as wife and in-laws, wife and parents, husband and wife; Husbands and their parents, husbands and in-laws will appear at any time. How to maintain stability and unity within the family and let everyone live in harmony is indeed a science. Coincidentally, the friends who practice calligraphy are just divided into two factions, one of which enjoys living with their parents very much; Another school thinks that living with parents is more troublesome than happiness; Then let's walk into their lives together and listen to their stories. Leon: I live happily with my parents. My husband and I have lived in Toronto for nearly 15 years. Like everyone else, I have gone through the process of reading, getting married, starting a business and having children. My parents took more care of us when I gave birth to my daughter ten years ago, and then I stayed. Over the years, the six of us have been able to live in harmony. Many people complain to me about the problems and troubles of living with their parents, but I have never experienced such an experience; On the contrary, I think living with my parents makes me richer and happier. My husband and I have always been very grateful to our parents for their help in Toronto. We are relieved that our two children have been taken care of by them since they were born. At the beginning, I discussed with my husband to give my parents a sum of money every month and open an account for them in the bank. My parents were not used to thinking that they were not like a family at first, but I insisted that it was to respect their labor. Later, when I had a son, they worked harder, so I saved them more money, basically 80% of the market price of day care. Later, after my daughter and son went to school one after another, the workload of taking care of the children was not so great, so I gave it less. My husband won't have a problem with me doing this. After my parents got used to it, they thought it was reasonable for me to do so. Over time, the money they have saved is not a small sum, plus they still have a pension in China. Family members, relatives and friends in China have difficulties, such as getting sick, children going to college and living in difficulties. They are willing to help. I am only responsible for helping them withdraw money and deliver money. We don't comment on who they give the money to, and basically respect their choice. In recent years, we have not been embarrassed by money. Seeing many people in China quarreling over money, we feel it is not worth it. My parents like our family very much. They are very devoted to the life and education of our two children. Both children are good at Chinese. But my parents have lived in the environment of the domestic government compound for many years, and they are not good at cooking and housework. We don't ask our parents to do this and that. Housework is basically shared by my husband and me. In addition, we also try our best to make them get rid of the habit of taking drugs indiscriminately. See a doctor if you are sick and prescribe the right medicine. We get along with space and respect. For example, I don't tell my parents anything in a small family, such as my husband's income and my income. Old people and old ladies in the community often talk about their children's wages together, but my parents just can't say clearly. They don't necessarily do big things at home, such as buying a house and changing cars, and asking for their opinions. On the other hand, if parents ask to do their own things, such as going back to China for a few months and traveling, we will also support them. Day care at home is just waiting for her to find another way to solve it herself. Generally speaking, the family has been very harmonious in recent years. My husband and my father are both humorous people. The family often talks and laughs together, and the two children are also very innocent and lovely. My parents really enjoy their family, which can be said to be a happy family. In China's traditional concept, living with parents after marriage can take better care of parents and make them have a happy old age. But my life with my parents makes me feel that we take care of each other and are equal. So my parents' psychological pressure is gone, and I feel much more relaxed. This may be the core of our family harmony.