To a 40-year-old woman who is aging: In fact, your life has just begun.

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Everyone thinks that the 40-year-old woman who is getting older gradually has passed the most beautiful and delicate flowering period, and her life is going downhill, and her heart is full of unwillingness, helplessness and regret.

That's true. Women of this age, such as age, appearance, occupation, etc. , has lost its advantage. The world has become a world of young people.

But I don't know if you have heard the saying: "The most attractive women are middle-aged, and they have a special fragrance."

I'm impressed. Middle-aged women who are getting older after 40 are the most attractive.

Women of this age have lost their immaturity and gained more mature charm; Less naive, but more sophisticated; Without collagen, there will be the appearance of time.

More importantly, in fact, the life of a woman of this age has just begun. Even the actor Faye Yu once said, "I think life after 40 is wonderful."

It is said that young people are fearless, but they are only young and limit our lives.

For example, if you don't like a job, you have to face it in order to survive.

For example, I don't want to get married yet, but I am always urged by people around me.

For another example, I obviously want to walk around while I am young, but I can look at the balance in my bank card and continue to be a hardworking brick mover.

When we were young, it seemed that there were infinite possibilities in life, but in fact we could never get out of that strange circle.

After 40 years old, women's lives seem to begin to become suddenly enlightened. After years of baptism, women of this age have completed the primitive accumulation of wealth, and most people can achieve economic independence. They can finally let go of what they want to do.

In addition, women of this age have also completed the mission of giving birth to children. Children begin to grow up slowly and have their own way of thinking. As mothers, they can let their children fly freely and really relax themselves from the heart.

More importantly, at this age, women can leave whenever they want, see the outside world and listen to the wind outside, and life gradually begins to be broad and there are no more restrictions.

When in love in their twenties, women take love as the center; Married in their thirties, women began to take the family as the center and take care of their children and husbands. But when a woman is over 40, she realizes that life is actually self-centered.

When I was a child, I was annoyed by my child's disobedience and sad for my husband's drinking and staying out at night. After 40 years old, I found that my mood began to change. In my eyes, I gradually got my own shadow and began to live for myself.

A leader of her former work unit immigrated abroad with her children at the age of 40, and she deeply felt her changes from her circle of friends.

She used to be a desperate Saburo. As the head of the company, stress obesity made her health worse, but she didn't care. She needs to be responsible for the employees, the company and the family.

But now, her life is dominated by herself. The two children have been able to stand on their own feet, but she spends all her time on her health, exercising regularly and changing her diet. When the children went to school, she began to travel and occasionally returned to China to reunite with her husband.

One day, she sent a message saying, "It suddenly occurred to me that at the age of 40, my life has just begun."

Indeed, when women understand the meaning of life and realize the importance of living for themselves, it means that their life has officially begun.

From this age, every day of my life is not for others, but for myself. You don't have to put all your thoughts on others. With an independent self and an independent space, life becomes clearer and more meaningful.

An English writer said: "Once a woman has an independent personality, she will no longer be confused and waste her life, and she will have a moderate sense of fulfillment and happiness."

It is with this independent personality that women can start a new life only for themselves at this age.

When I was young, I always thought that the days were still long, but after 40 years old, I found that people's life expectancy was not long. It is this discovery that makes women more calm.

Since we cannot change the length of life, we should increase the width of life. Know how to be content, do infinite things in a limited time, try infinite possibilities, and begin to be more and more calm without fear.

Because they cherish time, women of this age begin to understand that no matter what makes them feel comfortable, they will stay and leave if they feel uncomfortable. Life is too short to waste time on people or things that are not worth it.

In the face of friendship, we began to focus on comfort. If you get along, get together more. If you don't get along, if you don't, you will die of old age. Be calm with each other, don't be so hypocritical and difficult to maintain.

In the face of love, the same is true. When I was young, I often cared about whether the other person loved me or not, and I also asked the other person from time to time whether you loved me or not, and to what extent.

But I didn't understand it until I was 40. Asking these questions has no other benefits and no meaning except adding a layer of trouble to the other party.

The so-called sense of security and belonging is not given by others, but by yourself. You can rely on yourself for the rest of your life, not your parents, not your partner, not your children.

The same is true in front of family. The so-called illness and death is just the normal state of life, so don't worry too much about it. Parents will leave us one day, and we will leave this world one day. As long as people are innocent when they are alive, there are not so many regrets in this life.

For a 40-year-old woman who is getting older and older, the greatest luck in life is to take it easy, take it easy and grow up. It is precisely because of precipitation and the past few decades that at this age, I understand the meaning of life and the meaning of calmness.

When women begin to understand this, they bid farewell to the days of living for others and start a new life of their own.

May all the 40-year-old women who are getting old gradually be healthy, happy, happy and free on the road of your new life, take control of their own lives and make live high wonderful.

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