Should we treat life positively or negatively?

A positive attitude stimulates potential

The best-selling T-shirt in Japan once printed: We are number one! But the best-selling T-shirt in the United States reads: Not up to par, enough to be proud of.

Unfortunately, some people still think this is funny. We think this is sad and what it shows is definitely a negative mindset. Why? Because whoever wears that American T-shirt has probably just lost his or her job. Furthermore, if a job applicant has this attitude, the employer is unlikely to hire him even if he doesn't wear the T-shirt.

“This is not only true for job applications, but also true for life.” This is according to a source provided by author and speaker Haley. Haley once pointed out that legal immigrants are four times more likely to become millionaires than native-born Americans. And there are no exceptions, black, white, or any race, male or female. The following story illustrates this point: Friday, July 10, 1992, at 2:48 pm. Four strange guests came on board American Airlines Flight 874. They were a mother and three little girls. This may be their first time flying. The mother walked in front, holding the baby in one hand and holding a child in the other. They walked quickly towards the tail of the plane.

Another child, about four years old, walked at the back, several steps behind. As soon as she boarded the plane, she noticed a waiter preparing lunch directly in front of her. She stopped in the aisle, bent her legs, put her hands on her knees, and looked attentively for a long time at the two waiters who quickly brought in the lunch boxes. Then he slowly turned his head and looked at the cabin on the left. It could be seen that she was extremely interested in what she saw - three figures in uniforms with several bars on their shoulders. Before her were two control levers, two wheels, countless lights, and many electronic instruments she had never seen before.

She stared attentively for a while, then slowly turned her head, her two blue eyes wide and round. A long plane peak appeared in front of her, and all the seats were empty at the same time. She could see from the nose to the tail of the plane at a glance. As she looked down the long aisle, two words came out of her mouth: "Oh my God!" That's what legal immigrants say when they come to the United States. What they saw was really unbelievable to them. In most cases, what they saw was unimaginable beauty, luxury and opportunity.

They face everything with a positive attitude of "Oh my God!" They looked at the countless job advertisements in the newspaper in amazement, and then applied non-stop everywhere to find a job. They know that they earn the minimum wage, but compared with other countries, the minimum wage in the United States is already the highest wage. Typical immigrants strive for a simple and cheap life, and will find two jobs if necessary. They work extremely hard, are extremely frugal in their spending, and save all their money.

What lies before them is the opportunity to live, work, grow and seek success in the world's most powerful country. And without exception, nearly everyone was sincerely grateful for America and the opportunities it provided.

Solomon said it well, that is: "Those who work hard will get rich." The biggest difference between millionaires and ordinary people is whether they have a hard-working mentality. With that kind of mentality, you will work diligently.

The reason why immigrants are four times more likely to become millionaires than non-immigrants is because they come to the United States with a state of hope, excitement and gratitude.

Unfortunately, many Americans wake up early in the morning and look around. Instead of saying "Oh my God!", they spit out disdainfully: "What's so great!" Get rich overnight. All right! My friend, I am here to tell you that such a life attitude cannot achieve great things in this country.

Top potential guru Anthony Robin wants us to immediately adopt the mentality of that four-year-old girl or the thousands of immigrants and say, "Oh my God!" Not only that, he also points out that, Applying this mentality in our lives will definitely make our lives infinitely richer.

A positive attitude is an effective psychological tool. If you believe that you can achieve your potential, it can create illusions in you and make you achieve your wishes. This is what sports stars do.

A world champion archer, raising his bow, eyes fixed on the bullseye thirty yards away. At this moment, there was nothing else in his mind. Apart from the red heart, nothing could attract his attention. He tightened the string, kept his eyes on the target, and calmly and quickly scanned his body and mental state. If he felt something was wrong, he would put down the bow, relax, and draw again. If everything checks out correctly, he just needs to aim at the bull's-eye and let the arrow fly, confident that it will hit the red heart.

Whether this kind of calm confidence and full state is only possessed by superstars in the sports world, it is not necessarily the case. Only when a sports star is in this optimal competitive state of mind can he win. And when his mentality is not good, his usual prestige will be wiped out, and he will lose to the little-known juniors. Similarly, even an athlete with mediocre performance may, when he is in his best state of mind, do amazing things and defeat stars who are not in good condition. In fact, everyone has this state of mind, and you may have experienced it without knowing it.

From a certain perspective, we are all shooters, and we all want to hit the target in life. Suppose we exercise our muscles and nervous systems to shoot the arrow to the bullseye, why can't we do it every time? ? What's going on? We haven't changed, we should be the same as before. How can we be smiling and happy one moment, and weeping and sad the next? Why do even first-class athletes fail to score a single pitch or hit a single hit for many days after becoming very good at it? The difference is that we are in a different state of mind. When you are in a positive state (that is, a positive attitude), you have confidence, self-love, strength, happiness, excitement, and let your abilities flow out. In a state of paralysis (i.e., a negative mentality), suspicion, depression, fear, anxiety, sadness, and frustration make you feel weak. That's it, each of us moves in and out of good and bad states. Have you ever entered a restaurant and the waitress said impatiently: "What do you want?" Do you think she has always looked like this? It may be that her difficult life led her to have this attitude; but it is more likely that she has been busy greeting customers all day long, and several customers did not receive tips. In fact, she is not a bad person, she is just in a depressed mood. If you can change her mindset, you can change her attitude.

Anthony Robin tells us that our physical and mental state is controlled by the sum of millions of neural activities in the nervous system. These activities are the processes in which the external data measured by various sensory organs are processed in the brain. We don’t know how most physical and mental states occur, because as soon as we receive various things, a corresponding state will immediately occur. This state may be passive and powerless or active and energetic, but most of the time Some people don't know how to control the occurrence of these states.

Have you ever had such an experience? Suddenly can't remember the name of a familiar friend? Or have you forgotten the stroke of a certain word? Why does this happen? You clearly know that friend's name and how to write that word, but you just can't remember it at the time. Does that mean you're stupid? Of course not, it was just that you were stupid at the time.

The difference between whether something is done well or not is not about ability, but depends on the state of mind and body at that time (i.e. mentality). You can have the courage and perseverance of MW Collins, the elegance of Dancing King Frey Astaire, the physical strength and endurance of Nolan Lane, and the intelligence and intelligence of Einstein. However, if you keep making yourself If your body and mind are in a "low" state, you will never be able to realize your potential. If you know the secret of how to enter a positive state, you will definitely be able to achieve results that you did not expect.

At any moment, your cognition is subject to the state at that time, and your cognition at this time will affect your subsequent thoughts and actions. In other words, what kind of behavior you will have depends on you. It has nothing to do with your ability, but to do with your physical and mental state at the time. Therefore, if you want to change your ability to do things, then change the state of your body and mind at that time, so that you can unleash your unlimited potential and make amazing achievements.

Second mentality determines the success or failure of life

In fact, our mentality determines the success or failure of our life to a large extent:

1. How we treat life , that’s how life treats us.

2. How we treat others is how others treat us.

3. Our mentality at the beginning of a task determines how successful it will be in the end, more than any other factor.

4.The higher up people are in any important organization, the better they find their optimal mindset.

No wonder some people say that our environment - psychological, emotional, spiritual - is entirely created by our own mentality.

There are two types of mentality. A positive mentality can unleash your potential and attract wealth, success, happiness and health. A negative mentality can repel these things and take away everything in life. It keeps people stuck at the bottom for life, and even if they climb to the top, they will be dragged down by it.

The characteristics of a positive mentality are confidence, hope, honesty, love, steadiness, etc. The characteristics of a negative mentality are pessimism, disappointment, inferiority, deception, etc.

A man with a positive attitude was trapped by the flood and had to climb to the roof. Someone from the neighbor floated over and said, "John, this flood is really scary, isn't it?" John replied, "No, it's not that bad." The neighbor was a little surprised, so he retorted, "Why do you say it's not that bad?" Bad? Your chicken coop has been washed away. "Yeah, I know, but the ducks I had six months ago are all swimming around now," John said. of your crops,” the neighbor insisted. Still unyielding, John said: "No! My crops were damaged due to lack of water. Just last week, the agent told me that my land needs more water, so now it's all solved." The pessimistic neighbor said to his laughing friend again: "But look, John, the water is still rising, and it will reach your window." The optimistic friend smiled even brighter and said : I hope so, these windows are so dirty they need to be flushed. "It was a joke, but there was humor in it. Apparently, John had decided to approach every situation with a positive attitude. The encyclopedia says that a mindset is a state of mind or posture adopted to achieve a certain purpose.

Over time, you can get your mind to automatically respond positively to negative situations. To reach this state, you must fill your mind with a lot of good, clean, and powerful information, and even maintain this state at all times.

It can be seen that the key to the successful development of potential lies in mentality.

A positive attitude helps to realize your potential.

This is what world champion Mollari did. As early as when he was young and watching the Olympic Games on TV, his heart was filled with dreams of interesting things to come. In 1984 an opportunity presented itself. He became the best swimmer in the world in the events he was good at, but he only took second place at the Los Angeles Olympics. His imagination and dreams did not come true.

He returned to the dream, returned to the swimming pool, and began to train imagery and reality again. This time the goal is the 1988 Olympic gold medal in Seoul, South Korea. His dream evaporated during the Olympic qualifying rounds, when he was eliminated.

Like most people, he became frustrated. Burying this dream deep in my heart, I went to Cornell to attend law school. For three years, he rarely swam. But there was always a burning flame in his heart, and he couldn't suppress this desire.

Less than a year before the 1992 Summer Split, he decided to take one more desperate gamble. In this swimming event that belongs to young people, he is considered an advanced age. He is like a modern Don Quixote with a spear poking at windmills. The idea of ??winning the 100-foot butterfly is simply foolish.

It was also a sad and difficult time for him, as his mother passed away from cancer.

She will not be able to share the fruits of victory with him, but the spirit of commemorating his mother strengthens his determination and will.

Amazingly, not only did he make the U.S. team, he also won the preliminary round.

His record is more than one second slower than the world record. He is bound to create a miracle in the competition.

Strengthening imagination, increasing image training, and training non-stop, he carefully planned the schedule in his mind. In less than a minute, he could watch the game from beginning to end, as clear as crystal. His speed would give him an advantage and he hoped he could overtake his competitors and lead the way.

Having imagined the schedule in advance, he started swimming, and that day, he actually stood on the podium, watching the Stars and Stripes rising, the American national anthem playing, and a proud gold medal hanging around his neck. , with his positive attitude, Morari turned his dream into victory and his dream came true.

Shirley Bevey is also a typical example of realizing your potential by using a positive attitude.

When Shirley Bevey was ten years old, she was told she would never walk again. At the age of twenty-two, she walked the runway as Miss America 1980.

Shirley, the 1980 Miss America, was involved in a car accident when she was 11 years old. Her left leg was crushed and required more than a hundred stitches to close. Doctors told her she would never walk again. After her injured left leg healed, it was much shorter than her healthy right leg.

However, at a Christian excitement conference a few years later, she saw that her left leg "immediately grew two inches"! She said she walked by the "miracle of God." But another equal miracle is her positive attitude.

Shirley could sit down and give up - many people would. So where does she get such a great attitude? An unexpected incident before the car accident directly affected her view of her life. When she was 5 years old, a milkman looked at her in a small grocery store and told her that she would be Miss America. Shirley believed in him, and it was from such a positive and powerful idea that a positive attitude was born, and Miss America in 1980 was born.

In this regard, Anthony Robin warned us that words are the most magical power in the world. Positive words of love, hope and encouragement can often lift a person to a higher place. In short, negative words with disappointment and resentment can also destroy a person. Therefore, we must be careful about our mentality.

Three negative attitudes limit people’s potential

There are several types of negative attitudes:

① Cynical, thinking that human nature is ugly, often disobeying others, Therefore, there is a lack of harmony;

② No goals, lack of motivation, life is chaotic, like a boat drifting in the sea;

③ Lack of perseverance, lack of self-discipline, laziness, and always making excuses for oneself To evade responsibility;

④To be lucky, to fantasize about getting rich, not willing to pay, just to get something for nothing;

⑤Stubborn, intolerant, no credibility, poor social relations;

⑥ Inferior self-esteem, cowardice, self-retraction, dare not believe in one's own potential, unwilling to believe in one's own wisdom;

⑦ Either spendthrift, stingy and greedy, do not have a fair view of money ;

⑧Arrogant and vain, arrogant and arrogant, likes to manipulate others, is fond of power games, and cannot share with others;

⑨Hypocritical and treacherous, does not keep his word, and deceives others as his ability. , It is a good idea to deceive others.

Don’t underestimate these nine negative attitudes. They will limit your potential and mess up your life and career.

Not only that, a negative mentality will make people unable to see hope in the future, and will not inspire motivation. It may even destroy people's confidence and extinguish hope. Negative mentality is like a chronic poison. People who take this medicine will slowly become depressed and lose any motivation, and success will be further and further away from the person who uses negative mentality.

The story of a racehorse confirms this point.

John Greer is a famous thoroughbred racehorse. It has achieved many good results in horse racing. He was considered a seed in the July 1902 contest, and was, in fact, a favorite; he was carefully cared for, trained, and advertised as being the only one to have a chance of defeating at any time Both are dominant horse racing "combatants".

The two horses finally met in July 1902 in the De Vere Trophy race at Aquid.

That day was an extremely solemn and solemn day, with all eyes on the starting point. As the horses ran side by side along the track, it became clear that Greer was in a desperate fight with "Combatant." After running 1/4 of the distance, they still have no distinction between high and low. After running half of the distance, they still have no distinction between high and low. With only 1/8 of the distance left, they still seemed to be going hand in hand. However, at this moment, "Greer" rushed forward with all his strength and ran to the front.

This was a critical moment for the rider of "Fighter". For the first time in his racing career, he continued to whip his mount with a whip. Combatant's response was that the rider appeared to set its tail on fire. It darted forward and distanced itself from Greer, who seemed to be standing there quietly in comparison. At the end of the race, Fighter was seven lengths ahead of Greer.

"Greer" turned out to be a high-spirited horse with great potential. But this experience knocked it out of the water. Turn its invisible talisman from PMA (Positive Mentality) to NMA (Negative Mentality), and from now on it will be negative, pessimistic, and unable to recover. Later, it just dealt with it in all competitions and finally failed to win again.

Although people are not horse racing, there are many people with Greer's spirit. Like Greer, they also had their glorious moments under the guidance of PMA, but when they Once they encounter setbacks, their amulet will flip from PMA to NMA. They will be pessimistic and disappointed, unable to see the light of hope, and they will be completely defeated from then on.

People who hold NMA are always disappointed with the future. In their eyes, the glass is never half full, but half empty, and as a result, potential can never be realized.

People with a negative mentality not only think about the worst side of the external world, but also think of the worst side of themselves. They dare not pursue it, so they often gain less. When encountering a new concept, their reaction is often: "This is not feasible. This has never been done before.

Wouldn't we be fine without this idea? We cannot take this risk. The conditions are not yet mature. This is not our responsibility." King Solomon is said to be the wisest ruler in history. In the Bible, Proverbs Chapter 23, Verse 7, Solomon said: “As a man thinks in his heart, so is his conduct.” In other words, what people believe will be the result will be what the result may be. Man cannot achieve what he does not pursue. If a person does not believe in what he can achieve, he will not strive for it. When a person with a negative mentality does not have high expectations for himself, he will put a "bang" cap on his ability to succeed. He becomes the worst enemy of his own potential.

To sum up, NMA is a source of failure, decadence and negativity. Find ways to stem this undercurrent and don't let your wrong mindset make you a loser.

Anthony Robin said it well, the key to the success of realizing our potential lies in our mentality. If we have a positive mentality, we can enter a vigorous and enterprising state at will, be optimistic, full of confidence, and full of vitality. , sharp mind, so that your wishes will come true. Of course, if you have a decadent and negative mentality, you will not be able to see potential masters throughout your life, and thus you will have no chance of success.