It’s been a year since I broke up with my boyfriend. He has caused me too much harm and I still can’t get over it. Am I suffering from depression? How should I adjust myself?

You take the first time too seriously. In today's society, everyone cares about whether they are suitable together. If they are not suitable, they break up before getting married. This is your luck. If you only see his true nature clearly after you have a child, how miserable you will be. You won't feel at ease if your child is raised by someone as irresponsible as him. It will be stressful to raise your child yourself, and it will not be easy to find someone who can match him in the future. . So I think leaving a person who is not suitable for you before getting married is the most worthy of celebration. Although you have paid a lot, but he doesn't care, then the sacrifice is zero. Also, he should come from a family with very poor conditions, and he is very dissatisfied with the current situation of his family. He is also dissatisfied with his parents for not creating a good environment for him, and he should have an unhealthy attitude towards people who are better off than him. Analyzing him from a psychological perspective, he is a person with a weak personality, but he may also be a person with strong self-esteem. It is difficult for you to find these shortcomings in him, but when there is a conflict, he cannot stand it. Sometimes, he can't help but vent it out. He can be good to you for two months, which is his limit. If this kind of person cannot continue to get from you, he will fall out with you. No matter who he is with, he will be a debt collector. Of course, he will cover up his face. Unless he can find a rich second generation who will never be thirsty for him, he will never live long with anyone.

You are your parents’ precious daughter, and now you have a painful life experience. In fact, you have to look at it from a positive perspective. You did something wrong. Your parents did not give up on you, and what you gave up was you. People who should give up, but with this experience, you will have almost no chance of making detours in the future. Don't dwell on your previous mistakes. No one does not make mistakes. Your mistake is not big and you can easily correct it. But you should be careful about your ex-boyfriend in the future. If he can't find someone with better conditions than you, he will come to pester you. You must not look back. Because even if he comes to find you, he will still vent his resentment on you, and you will not get love from him. He is looking for you just because he thinks he can get love from you, for free! He won't pay. In his heart, everyone in the world owes him.

If you think about it, there are many people who have experienced many times more hardship than you, but they have also come out of it. In fact, stay away from him and focus more on those sunny boys, and you will quickly find your heartbeat. There are too few people who fall in love only once in a lifetime. A famous person once said that we will meet many people who make our hearts beat in our lives. If the first one we meet happens to be suitable for us, that would be the most perfect. But in the world, It is often the second or third person that suits us, so many people have to fall in love several times. The same goes for you, if the first one doesn’t work, then find the next target. You are so young and your life is at its best. If you are a beautiful butterfly, then choose a flower to collect nectar instead of this poisonous withered flower. Your life will be as sweet as honey.

I wish you find someone worthy of your love soon.

You are so good, you will definitely get what you want, as long as you want it!