Australian immigrants tell you how Australians evaluate China's family values.

When I first arrived in Australia, an old immigrant uncle told me that if you marry an Australian man, you will be much happier than if you marry a domestic boyfriend, because Australian men pay more attention to family. Although I didn't think so at the time, I really felt more secure when I married an Australian man by mistake. After reading the following article on the Internet, I think Australians really have more family values than China people. Share it with everyone.

This article was written by an immigrant from China to Australia, which contains many emotions that we usually ignore. Maybe we should think deeply. We always think that we are one of the most family-oriented races in the world and are deeply proud of it, but in the eyes of foreigners, this may not be the case. Last year, I attended the last weekend gathering and Christmas party of the Australian Chamber of Commerce (AustCham, a group of Australian overseas businessmen all over the world, which was strongly supported by the Australian authorities, a bit like our "people's group"). In the past year, there have never been so many Australian villagers as today. It seems that all Australians in Shanghai gather in a small bar. In addition to routine gossip, it is more of a farewell. Most Australian villagers here will return to their hometown in the next few days to spend the annual Christmas.

Everyone asked me if I wanted to go back, and I said, "I don't have time, I'm too busy at work." They were all surprised: "How can you not go back to spend Christmas with the children?" The tone is heckled. Of course, I was a little nervous, so I explained to them that Christmas is a day of family reunion for westerners, and China people also have such a day, that is, the Spring Festival. So, we talked about the importance that China and Australians attach to family. Unexpectedly, those Australian friends said, "Don't be angry. In fact, we feel that China people don't love home, and they don't pay as much attention to home as you say. You love money more! "

I was startled. So, I wrote down these sincere conversations: "You China people are really diligent. Whether in Australia or China, China people can save more money overseas than local people, but I don't think this is because you China people have the talent to do business, but you are more frugal and more economical than us. You have accumulated money by lowering your living standards. You seldom go to bars and have a holiday on weekends, even on weekends or holidays. I bought clothes from China to take with me, because it's cheap here. I even saw some Shanghai students carrying many bowls with them.

You will work day and night, leaving your children to the care of the elderly. Apart from caring about your child's academic performance, you are rarely busy playing with your child. You don't even have a rest at Christmas, and you don't have a holiday overseas during the Spring Festival. You don't take your children to the seaside at Christmas, because you will think that air tickets and hotels are very expensive at this time. It is better to do some business and earn more money at this time and wait until the off-season. Therefore, although your children in China are excellent academically, they always feel that they are very different. Compared with local people, parents are more concerned about the family's money income and academic performance than their happiness. "Yes, I know what you are going to say. You China people love to say that it's for children and the next generation to earn more money, but every generation says it's for the next generation. So which generation will really use this money? "

Life is so short that you sacrificed your present family on the pretext of the future of your family. I don't know how this account is worked out, and how it can reflect your own proud family concept.

"In order to work, you can endure long-term separation of husband and wife. In our eyes, if the husband and wife have not been together for more than three months, it is basically time to consider divorce. So we were sent overseas and had to come with the whole family. My wife and children moved to Shanghai. If they don't want to come, I can't accept the job. Family is more important than work. I've even heard of your generation in China, and even some couples have lived in two places for decades, but they can't live together until they retire. This is cruel. Won't you give up your job for your family? You can also find a job again!

I have excellent talents in China company, but as I am not a native of Shanghai and live in another city, I can only get together once a month or even two months. Why can't one of them give up his job? I know that many farmers go to work in cities and can only go home once a year, saying that it is to support their families, but what is the point of such money? In Australia, you China people are basically richer than the locals, but no one envies your life. I think you are money-making machines, but your hobby of making money is painted with family color. I don't believe it.

Listening to their nagging, although with alcohol, but still deeply shocked me. What can I say to him? Of course, there are too many things to say. For example, tell him that China has never had a perfect social security system for thousands of years, so everyone feels insecure. They are all trying their best to squeeze today into tomorrow, and even ask "Have you eaten" when they meet, so the balance of deposits now exceeds one trillion. This is not to say that China people keep their money, but that they are buying insurance for themselves. But can he understand this? Even the President of the United States is calling on China to increase consumption, because China's savings rate is too high. Even our former tough prime minister thinks that a golden week should be set up to stimulate consumption. As a foreigner who has lived under a perfect welfare system for generations, can he understand our helplessness and fear of the future?

I can also tell him that China people are really afraid of poverty. Even if he has made a fortune now, whether at home or overseas, he will still want to make more money. In China people's mind, he still thinks that it is the greatest love for children and the greatest responsibility for the family to pass on more property to their children. Only when he feels that money is enough, or that money is too little to comfort himself, will he say that he wants to leave something more precious than money for his children. In this world, it is impossible to have only money, but it is absolutely impossible to have no money. Can he understand this?