An Iranian same-sex couple who went through a lot of hardships finally got married.

If Ramin Haghjoo and Nima Nia still live in Iran, it is not surprising that they will get married. Although they are attractive enough to attract women, they may not be able to give their wives the most basic "sexual happiness". For themselves, like other Iranian homosexuals, they can only spend their lives in a state of depression, fear, loneliness and avoidance.

On the contrary, Haji and Niya finally got married in America. In August this year, they announced with a happy ceremony that they would be together for life. The couple fled Iran as refugees for Turkey several years ago and finally came to the United States. Everything in America is so open and free that they have enough space to love each other. As they say: at least they are alive, they are married, and they have boldly declared themselves gay. But Haghjoo and Nia also found themselves in an "extraordinary stage"-the President of the United States tried to ban new refugees from Iran and several other Muslim countries from immigrating to the United States as refugees, and even many people were repatriated and detained. The president of the United States believes that these people from the Middle East pose a threat to the security of the United States. They want Iran to change so that people like them can be accepted and treated fairly. They hope that the United States can also change, so that they can be accepted fairly and provide some living space for gay refugees from Iran.

The story of Ramin Hajju

Haji, 3 1 year-old, grew up in a relatively open family in Tehran, but his life was not satisfactory. 19, a nurse came out. The male nurse urged him to tell his family at once. After some ideological struggle, he spoke. Fortunately, most of his parents and other family members accepted him. But except for one brother, my mother later told my brother that if he wanted to spread the news about his brother and oppose him, he would not get any property. Finally, my brother reluctantly did not object. Because of the Iranian army's extreme rejection of same-sex sexual orientation, homosexuals will be exempted from the right to join the army that all Iranian men should enjoy. The Iranian military believes that this is a mental problem. He is afraid that his sexual orientation will be known by the government, because Iran is a hell for sexual minorities. Homosexuality is illegal in Iran, and sexual behavior between two men can be sentenced to death. Other behaviors, such as kissing, or even just admitting homosexuality, may lead to severe punishment. Although sexual minorities have many secret websites, many of them are threatened by personal safety online and even in their lives. However, Haji also wants to be honest about his identity and avoid military service.

The danger does not stop there. During the Green Movement in Iran in June 2009 (when President Ahmadinejad was asked to step down), he warned an old lady to be careful because armed men in military uniforms pointed their guns at her. Unexpectedly, the armed men pointed the gun at him and fired. The bullet went through his right abdomen. He had intestinal surgery, removed a piece of intestine, and stayed in the hospital for nearly a week before getting better. Haghjoo described his experience in filming Iranian gay documentaries, and later found out that the filmmakers planned to focus on his story. He was afraid of attracting the attention of the government, so he decided to flee to Turkey. The documentary was broadcast a week after he left Iran. Then he wanted to go home, but his mother worried about his life and warned him not to come back.

The story of Nimania

Niya, a 29-year-old Iranian, received a text message from a strange phone number in 2006. It says "Happy Valentine's Day" and the sender is Miannai from Iran. She is preparing to go to school. At first, he replied to this short message. People who think it's just a sex minority chat room. But in the end, he stopped stupidly and continued to send text messages. Soon another message came, threatening to call him. Then his home phone rang. The man on the other end of the phone said he knew Virginia was gay. One day, the man called again and said that he was near his home in Virginia. Virginia smiled at the outdoor wedding. After months of harassment, Virginia met another man who worked as a security guard in a bank and told him what had happened. The security guard contacted the man who had threatened Virginia, and the phone finally stopped. However, when Virginia started dating the security guard, he met a new problem. The security guard became indifferent and once threatened Virginia and his parents. Two months later, Virginia finally decided that he could not stay in Iran, even though he was about to graduate from college. He fled to Turkey and left his life and art in this way.

It is not easy to adapt to America. In Philadelphia, Niya did some jobs that he hated, including a warehouse in Wal-Mart. He can't make a living with the skills he learned in art school because America didn't give him any chance. His life in America began to lose hope. Share joys and sorrows. Last year, in June+10, 5438, Virginia made a proposal to Haghjoo in Boston. This is really a surprise. Haghjoo knows that their friends are busy with his birthday party. Virginia made a video with their photos, and the background music was leonard cohen's Dance to the End of Love. Then, he gave Hager a cake decorated with photos and a photo that said "marry me". They have different ideas in some ways. Virginia said it would be boring to be with people like him. He loves her husband, is friendly to everyone and has a sense of responsibility to the people around him. The couple got married on August 26th at Airy Mansion in Mount marlborough, Maryland, not far from Washington. The only family member attending the wedding is a sister in Virginia, who also lives in the United States. Other sisters and most relatives did not support their marriage, although Haji's family was generally open to his sexual orientation. And even if his Iranian family wanted to come, it was impossible. Because the president of the United States can't give them the opportunity to enter the United States.

Imagine someone waiting for you to give you the strongest support when you want to cry the most. "He is the man you saw in your dream, the one who can understand how deep your pain is. He is the most unusual person in the world. He knows that life is so turbulent. He knows that life is difficult, but sitting next to you, he forgets all the bitterness! " They want to share their stories and let other homosexuals around the world know how perfect it is to come out bravely, although it is very likely that you have to leave everything behind. Haghjoo said, "I left money, my car, my home and my friends." We left a lot of things behind. He continued: "Now, I want to create a new life with his love, an amazing life. "Sometimes I say, Nima, he is my money, he is my parents, he is my brother, he is my old friend and my family. He's everything to me. Why did I abandon him? Later, I learned that those so-called "possessions" are just a burden. As long as the family you love still loves you, there is nothing you can't let go of!