How do single mothers solve the problem of remarriage?

It is difficult for women to remarry, and it is even more difficult for women with children to remarry. Then it is even harder for a woman with a boy to remarry, and it is difficult to go to heaven!

I am definitely not "alarmist" when I say this. Presumably, women who take care of boys after divorce have a deep understanding. If you call me extreme, you'd better experience it yourself. See if I'm right.

The first condition for divorced men to choose women is to ask women not to have children, followed by appearance, age and occupation. Women with children are seldom interested, and women with boys are more afraid of those men. Men basically adopt the "three noes" policy towards such women; Don't touch, don't consider, don't like it.

No matter how beautiful, virtuous and feminine a woman is, as long as she brings a boy, there is basically no chance. Men can like women, but they won't like your children, especially boys.

Don't say that China men have no taste, are conservative and refuse to accept children and tastes that don't belong to them. Tradition has nothing to do with this.

Since ancient times, in people's subconscious, "mutton can't stick to dogs." The boy brought by a divorced woman has someone else's surname, even if it is changed to his surname, it is useless. It is the father's blood that flows in the body forever, and the father's genes are always in the bones. Blood is thicker than water, father will always be father, mother will always be mother, and he will always be an outsider in front of mother and child. Other people's children are raised for nothing and hurt for nothing. In the end, he always wants to "return to his roots" and return to his father.

Most men who raise other people's children are "drawing water with a sieve".

I spent a lot of effort and money to raise a child for others. There is no such fool in the world.

When a man remarries and finds a divorced woman, he can make an exception for a woman with a girl. Because girls and boys are different, in addition to "opposites attract, same sex repel", many girls also have "father complex", which is generally acceptable to men who suddenly break into their lives. When I grow up, I can repay my stepfather for his kindness. Boys, on the other hand, find it hard to accept that a man has entered the life of mother and son, and they also lack gratitude.

Find a woman with a boy, and men have to bear more and heavier responsibilities. Many divorced women don't raise children. A child, from elementary school to college, gets married and buys a house. Without hundreds of thousands,1800,000 can't come down. This expense is enough for a man to marry an innocent girl of 18 years old and have a child of his own. Moreover, divorced women in the city are "a dime a dozen" and the supply is sufficient. So men generally don't look for women with children, especially women with boys. Looking for them is asking for it.

A woman with a child, because the child is separated from her biological father, feels that the child lacks fatherly love and is ashamed of the child, and will spoil the child in every way. In addition, after marriage, I am worried that my husband will discriminate against and bully my children. Therefore, a husband's unfriendly eyes and casual dissatisfaction will sting her heart, leading to conflicts between husband and wife and disharmony in married life.

Because the boy is always by his mother's side, there is a greater probability of conflict between husband and wife because of the child. The terrible thing is that the boy grows stronger and stronger, but he is getting older and older. If a man quarrels with his mother, he is likely to jump on his stepfather and give him a good beating. After all, he is a stepfather, not related by blood. In order to protect his mother's interests, he will fight, and no one can say that he has made a mess. Even if things get tricky, mother and son have a way out. When the child is older, she can take care of her mother. It doesn't matter whether you are there or not.

The most terrible thing is that after a boy marries a wife, whether she has a husband or not, her mother feels that she has something to rely on. This gradually loses tolerance, and any contradiction and quarrel between husband and wife may lead to "parting ways."

Therefore, a woman with a boy must think it over before divorcing, and then decide whether to divorce. If you are determined to get a divorce, it's easy. There are two traditional choices before you:

One is to give the child to a man.

The second is to be prepared not to remarry and raise children alone.

There is also an unconventional choice: that is, choose a national marriage and marry overseas. In foreign countries, due to the western system, there is little pressure for a European and American man to support a child brought up by a China woman. Primary school, middle school and university are all compulsory education. Although I say so, some people will say that I worship foreign things and flatter foreign countries, but in fact I am "not"! Today, China is playing an increasingly important role in the international arena, and the impression of a great eastern country has penetrated into the soil of the west. At this time, western men come to China to marry their wives with admiring and praising eyes. Unlike some rumors, foreigners who come to China to marry their wives can't find them in Europe and America. In fact, anyone who knows a little about the changes in Europe and America in recent years will know that with the change of women's economic status in Europe and America, more and more western women do not agree that marriage can bring them happiness. On the contrary, most of them advocate long-term cohabitation or simply being single. This objective social phenomenon makes it difficult for European and American men to marry. However, this does not mean that their own conditions are poor or their character is poor. Let's list a set of official figures for your reference: 1950, single women without heterosexual partners accounted for 35% of the adult female population in the United States, which rose to 5 1% in 2005 and fell to 49% in 2007. In American families, the traditional monogamous family structure has now become a minority. More women choose to marry later or not, and some women only live with the opposite sex and don't get married. At the same time, due to the extension of women's life expectancy, many elderly women who have lost their fathers refuse to remarry and live alone. Some divorced women who are not interested in remarriage seem to enjoy the new freedom of being single. But not in China. China's economy has not developed to that stage in Europe and America, and the issue of women's liberation in China has not been fundamentally solved. If one day, women in China can buy their own cars and houses, just like women in the United States, and they are spiritually independent of men. Then, women in China can also enjoy being single freely, and they don't have to remarry after divorce. Needless to say, you don't have to frown and sigh for the difficulty of remarriage. The crux of the matter is that China has not yet reached that stage. What about so many divorced women? Divorced, you can only admit it? If every divorced woman has to bear this, then this is the greatest destruction of human nature!

Knowing that transnational marriage is a way of remarriage, Ms. Hua will also face many problems, and they have many worries and concerns. For example, what if the language is not good? What about cultural differences? Men's economic ability is not good, what should they do if they are hungry and cold abroad? In fact, these problems can be solved and customer service can be provided. Let's talk about language first. Most western men who plan to marry in China are ready to accept the fact that China women can't speak English well or can't. Now there are many artificial intelligence tools, such as electronic dictionaries and translation software. Humans have good creativity and can express themselves through body language. In fact, the key to learning a language is to have a good context. Generally, western countries will arrange for immigrants to receive two years of free language study, so that they can better adapt to local life again. In other words, going abroad is like changing our life in China. People from other places will definitely not understand a word of Shanghai dialect when they go to Shanghai. Going to the market to buy food is like treating chickens as ducks. However, if a foreigner lives in Shanghai for a few months and then goes to the market to buy food, don't bargain too much! The same is true of learning a foreign language.

Speaking of cultural differences, I personally think that differences are a double-edged sword. Some people think that differences are beneficial and can bring some interest to each other's life. Some people accuse this of being an obstacle. Mainly depends on how the two sides view this issue. Some women will say that people of the two races have great differences in living habits, personalities, diets, etc. These problems are insurmountable and difficult to change. If you ask me, as a person, no matter what race they come from, their personalities can be roughly divided into four categories: peaceful, lively, perfect and powerful. At this point, some foreign friends around us will find that their thinking is not fundamentally different from ours. Sometimes, you will find that people who don't understand you don't understand you, even if they speak the same language, which is most closely related to you. Remarried women will feel whether this foreign gentleman is suitable for them in the process of communicating with foreigners. What suits you, choose bravely, and what doesn't, follow your heart and don't force yourself. There is a scientific data: a person in this world, there will be 2000 opposite sex is the happiest. However, these 2000 suitable members of the opposite sex are not necessarily located in the region, city or even country where you live. Wouldn't it be a pity to miss our happy marriage just because of the limitation of making friends? Thanks to Bill Gates. He invented the internet. As long as single women are willing, they can completely put aside the differences of region, culture and race to find their intimate lover!

As for the economic problems of European and American men, sisters who want to remarry need not worry. When they immigrate, their personal financial ability needs to be examined by the Embassy of China and the National Immigration Bureau for Men. Don't you feel at ease that the government is guarding you? ! They will never be poor, because their country is not stupid. If he is a poor man and imports a beautiful Mrs. China, he hopes that the state will support his children and let his wife and children enjoy all the welfare benefits. That's impossible, unless, of course, this person makes a great contribution to the meeting. So how to measure a person's contribution to society is, of course, his economic strength. Therefore, it is impossible for a woman who gets an international marriage through normal channels to starve and freeze. Don't worry too much. After you get married, the man treats you badly, quarrels and divorces. In fact, western men are more worried than you. They are very cautious about international marriage. First of all, they are worried that these lovely oriental beauties are only for money and green cards. Secondly, they are also worried that one day, their Mrs. China is homesick and will not live abroad with them, so they have to pay a heavy economic price for this international marriage, because according to the laws of universities in several western countries, if a man divorces, he will share his property with a woman, and if a woman has children with this man, she will get more.

To sum up, single sisters, don't lose heart in the future, plan your life and make the choice that suits you best! (This article is too lethal, not my opinion, for reference only) Share it with.