When you get old, will you let your children stay with you?

I pushed my mother to go to the High-tech Park. During the break, I met an aunt walking around alone, so my mother chatted with her. The aunt said that she is 76 years old and lives in Gaoke Garden with her husband. The mother asked about her children, and the aunt proudly talked about her two twin daughters.

My aunt’s eldest daughter is now a practicing lawyer in Canada and has a child. The second daughter studied abroad in Singapore. After graduating from graduate school, she worked as a teacher at a university in Mianyang. She later obtained a doctorate from Hefei University of Science and Technology. She missed the childbearing age because of her further studies and now has no children.

I was very envious of my aunt for raising two excellent daughters. I also had some questions, so I asked her: "What should you do if you get sick? The children are not with you." The aunt said that they are still in good health. Healthy, if you get sick, the old couple will help each other, or they can hire a caregiver temporarily.

The aunt said that she has been to Canada three times. The eldest daughter has now completed the immigration procedures for their second son to go to Canada. Because of the current epidemic, she has not gone until the epidemic improves. Just go to Canada.

I asked my aunt if she could adapt to life abroad. She said that she stayed in Canada for 10 months the first time, 13 months the second time, and 20 months the third time. . She said that Canada is a country of immigrants, and there are many Chinese people there. There is no way I can live with my children.

I asked the aunt: "Why can't you let a child stay with you?" The aunt said calmly: "The children all have their own careers. You can't force the child to stay because you are old. By your side. If your child is capable, let him fly!"

We chatted for a while, and then Auntie went home. The mother looked at the lonely back of the aunt and said that the aunt was really pitiful because she had raised the child, but she felt sorry for herself when she got old and had no one to rely on. I understand what my mother means. Just like this time, my mother sprained her foot and my sister took care of her for more than two months. On May Day, my father was hospitalized again because of cerebral infarction. My sister sent my mother home for my sister and I to take care of her. She took care of my father in the hospital again. It just so happens that I am retired now and can take care of my mother full time at home. If we are not around and our parents are sick, the old man really doesn’t know what to do!

This morning in the WeChat group of our community, a neighbor sent a message asking for help. She was looking for a part-time worker to accompany her mother to the hospital for chemotherapy for 15 days. They had no sisters to help them, and the couple worked and had no time to spend with their mother, so they had to find part-time workers to help.

Seeing this information, I feel helpless for the parents of an only child. I also only have one child. What should I do if I get old or sick and the child is no longer with me? Will I let my child stay with me to work in the future?

I told my mother about my problem, and my mother suggested that I keep my child by my side to work in the future so that I can be taken care of in the future. I think of what that aunt said: "If the child is capable, let him fly." Yes, having children is to give them a better future. If he is a little sparrow, let him stay; if he is a wild goose, let him fly. Raising children for old age has become a thing of the past, and it is now the wish of most parents to let their children have a broader world.

I hope that my children will become wild geese, not little sparrows beside their parents. So, from now on, exercise well and don't get sick.

Health is the first priority, not only for your children, but also for yourself!