How did everyone live when they immigrated to Canada?

How do the elderly in Canada live a good life? This topic is needed not only by the elderly in Canada, but also by the elderly in China. Because once you retire, life will change a lot, which is often different from when you go to work. At this time, it is very important to adjust your mentality-there are still decades of sunset life behind you, and it is also the second or third life. Don't underestimate it. Old age is not to kill time, but to live a more wonderful period of time.

How do the elderly manage their own lives? The word management is very important. Marriage depends on management, not overnight. In Canada, it is often heard that democracy and society depend on management, not nature. In fact, our life is even more so.

Let's talk about the first concept and start a new life. This is also my concept of immigration-immigrant life is really a completely different life. Some people find the phenomenon of "difference" novel, while others find it repulsive. However, no matter what you feel, whether you can take the initiative to accept it or not, the difference is objective. Things in the world are very different, but the same things are few and far between. Even a family often has different views on the same thing. When you don't resist something, you will find that, oh, it's not so hard to accept.

Accept the reality and start a new life. Life is very different. For elderly immigrants, there may be at least two realities to accept.

On the one hand, when you come to Canada, there are great differences in language, culture and customs. Especially, if some people have lived in their families' homes or communities for many years, their neighbors know that it is convenient to go anywhere to buy things, they all know what shops sell, they have mastered the local pace of life, and when they come to a new place, their whole life will be completely different.

On the other hand, after the reunion of relatives, the elderly found that their children's home was someone else's home-they were completely unfamiliar with their spouses and children, let alone familiar with them. Coupled with economic issues-who spends money, how to spend it, and so on. It has become a reality that has not been fully considered before.

How to adapt? It is suggested to "shut up and take your legs."

In western social culture, the sense of boundary is very important. This is worth learning from China people. No matter how much you have paid for your children before, don't always keep it in mind and often take it out to complain. Spending money to train children is for their future, to fulfill their parents' responsibilities and to satisfy their wishes. When children study abroad and immigrants take root, parents' wishes will be met. Don't expect children to do this and that again.

Only seek cause, not result, let go of hope, there will be no disappointment, and life will be less troublesome. When you don't have much hope for your child, his parents feel good about everything he does-he always takes care of his parents more than strangers, right?

Try to judge the child and his family less and focus more on yourself. Keeping your mouth shut will reduce many disputes.

Open your legs-socialize more, communicate more with people, experience and be familiar with Canadian society and life, appreciate Canada's beautiful natural scenery, participate in social activities and be more volunteers. Volunteer service is a very good opportunity to exercise, learn more and be happy-when volunteering, many people will thank you, and we will feel the happiness of dedication and dedication.

The horizon is your world. The world is very big, but the width we can only feel is limited by our own vision. Therefore, there are frogs at the bottom of the well, leaving their homes and being blind. Adler said, "No one lives in the objective world, everyone lives in his own subjective world". What we can do is to learn more, observe more and expand our subjective world. Whether we are 50, 60, 70 or 80, our understanding of the real world is very, very limited.

Everyone has his own wishes. After retirement, try to do what you want, live the life you want and not interfere with others. Some old people find it difficult to help their children take care of their families and children. In Canada, when you don't want to do these things, you can do less or even nothing.

It is necessary to develop the habit of communicating with children and let them know their parents' wishes. Generally speaking, children who are already familiar with western life can respect their parents' wishes. Parents should also have full will and consciousness to care about themselves, and don't think that they are willing to be a willing ox just because they are alive. Live to enjoy life, not to suffer.

What can I do to buy my own time? You might as well satisfy your existing wishes, cultivate new interests and learn new knowledge and skills. The more interests, the more contact with the world, and the more interesting life will be. Cultivating interest is also a process of self-discovery and a journey of self-exploration. Be brave and put it into practice. For example, some people have made good achievements in painting, ballet, yoga and even pole dancing after retirement, but we must understand that behind their achievements are their efforts and actions. The ideal that you don't take action to realize is always an illusion.

Finally, keep in mind your "immigration mission"-to make yourself happy and make your family comfortable. The improvement of happiness includes two aspects:

On the one hand, everything goes well, you can do whatever you want and get whatever you want, which is absolutely full of happiness. Of course, not necessarily. Some pessimists can often see dissatisfaction among thousands of satisfactions. Therefore, it is more important to adjust the mentality on the other hand, for example, don't compare with others, be more empathetic to others, and don't pursue perfection in everything. My conclusion is that we should stick to the principle and accept it in our daily life.