I was crazy about my ex-husband's remarriage, and I can't lose myself no matter how much I love it.

"Yesterday, Li shook her red curly hair and looked radiant, which made her look like she was not 38 years old at all. Li, who runs a grocery store in a community in downtown Ningbo, has been divorced for 4 years. Some time ago, he was a guest of Qidian Psychological Counseling Center in Ningbo ... No matter how crazy the sample is, it should not affect his son. Just after the Spring Festival this year, his son, who is in the sixth grade of elementary school, came to tell Li, who is distributing goods in a small shop: "Dad is getting married." "Oh." In response, Li slowly put washing powder on the food shelf, and his son was so anxious that he repeatedly reminded him that it was misplaced! It's misplaced-"Li married her ex-husband in 1992. In her eyes, her ex-husband is 1.75 meters tall, handsome, has gone to college, and works in a public institution. However, she just graduated from junior high school and worked as a shop assistant, and her job is unstable. Apart from being beautiful, she has almost no advantages. So she took the initiative to do all the work at home: cooking, washing dishes and cleaning ... Every night before going to bed, Li had to boil water, pour mouthwash and squeeze toothpaste for her husband. Even after giving birth, in the second month, as soon as she was able to go to the fields, she treated her husband as usual. After the divorce, "I always felt that he would read my kindness and remarry with me." She turned off the blind date arranged by her family and friends. Unable to accept her ex-husband's remarriage, she never contacted her ex-husband, and began to call and send messages to her ex-husband. Keep telling her ex-husband that she should be kind to her son and take good care of her son ... One day, she stopped her son on his way to school. She put her arm around her son and said, "Will you tell Dad not to get married? Stepmother won't be nice to you ... "The son is a little at a loss." Mom, but my aunt is nice to me. " "I just want to arouse his sense of responsibility to his son in this way, and don't marry others easily." Ms. Li smiled wryly. Not long ago, she stopped her son again: "You told dad that you don't want an aunt, just a mother, okay ..." The son who just left school was going to play football. When he saw his mother's face gaunt, he didn't feel good at all: "Aunt is fine. She gave me a lot of lucky money when she went to their house in the New Year!" With that, I left without looking back. "I cried at that time. I cried like that for the first time in my life. I almost fainted on the road when I cried. From that moment on, I knew I was wrong, and I lost my dignity in front of my son. " Li caressed the wrinkles that were not obvious in the corner of his eyes. "Moreover, the child must have the shadow of marriage in his heart. This is my most wrong place." Diagnosing an unbalanced marriage is far from happiness. Gao Mingxia, director of Ningbo Qidian Psychological Counseling Center, analyzed Ms. Li's marriage. She said that marriage and family is a complex system, and to maintain it and make it work well, it is necessary to achieve a balance. To create a happy family, you should generally have several elements: an independent self, a harmonious relationship and a balanced model. She analyzed that Li has lost the "qualification" to pursue equal marriage in this marriage. She is used to humility and obedience, and she is used to looking up and waiting. An unbalanced marriage is not happy. Especially, when she only takes children as chips, it is even more impossible to get happiness in this state. Fortunately, Li has now come out of the shadow of this failed marriage. That beautiful curly hair was made when she was shopping with friends last month. She also bought herself some new clothes and began to try to get in touch with the opposite sex. During her four years of independent life, she also realized that she can live independently and take care of everything in her life. These are her advantages, and it is entirely possible for her to get a balanced marriage and happiness.