When did you feel that the generation gap between you and your parents was really big?

At that moment, you felt that the generation gap between you and your parents was really big.

The year I graduated from college. I really feel that the generation gap between me and my parents is too big. It can even be said that it is difficult to communicate.

The year I graduated from college. I decided to work in Shenzhen. And also signed a contract with a company. But the parents firmly disagreed. And immediately called me back home from college. Because my parents arranged a job for me at home. The place where my parents live is a third-tier city. All aspects are relatively backward. It is crowded with first-tier cities like Shenzhen. There is no way to compare it. But they do enjoy living there. I always feel that their place is better than Shenzhen, which is not good at all. It's all hard work. Or put your health to work. I don’t know where they heard it from. He said that in Shenzhen they work overtime until 9:10pm every day. The work is very hard and the money is not very much. Especially college graduates who have just entered the workforce. There are very few policies. So much so that it is difficult to maintain life in first-tier cities. So they go through some relationships at home. Let me return to the business where my parents work. There is nothing wrong with this enterprise. It is a large central enterprise. The work is done step by step. Basically no need to work overtime. You don’t have to go early to go to work in the morning. Get off work on time. It can be said that life is carefree. But I don't like this lifestyle. I like the hard-working feeling of big cities. I like the bustling lights of big cities. They are not fighting for their lives, that is different. He advised me earnestly. Let me go back to work in the city where my parents are. They have already contacted me. Just come back and sign the contract.

It really bothered me at that time. How do I tell them how to look at you? To no avail. They just can't listen. My parents liked to let me live in this kind of comfortable job. Finally, due to pressure from parents. I gave up my job in Shenzhen. I entered a central enterprise chosen by my parents, but lived in a third-tier city. Overall, ok. Truly parentless, that is. Commuting to and from get off work is on time. No one makes you work overtime. Not to mention there is no need to work overtime. The amount of work assigned to each person every day. It's almost painless and can be done in maybe two hours. The rest of the time it was pretty much just chatting. Read the newspaper or something. Do something else. That's your own. But I really don't like this life. Baggy. There is no tension at all every day.

I have no choice but to live in this kind of company. I can only reluctantly give up my love. Later, when I fell in love and got married. Parents still have difficulty communicating. I think a loan to buy a house is a good thing. But don’t parents dare to do this? You have to buy the house in full. In the end, I couldn't defeat them. It’s still a house bought in full. And the house I bought was too big. Just after we got married, the two of us bought a two-story house with an area of ??160 square meters. It really feels too big. My spouse and I returned home feeling empty. According to my partner's point of view. Just buy a house of 80 to 90 square meters. Even if there is a little child in the future. It's also completely sufficient. But they disagreed. He also said that children should have their own independent space. Elderly people who come to help take care of their children also need a separate room to rest, etc. There are various reasons. Come contrary to my point of view. So in the end, I didn't give in to my parents and bought a big house.

On the issue of having children. We also have very different perspectives. According to the perspective of our young people. Time to play for a few years before having children. But the parents disagreed. I have been urging myself to have a child all day long. I often urge you to just live a life. You don’t need to take care of me. After the child is born, they will take care of it. This is not the case! My wife and I always feel that children should still live with their parents. In short, no matter what, it will still be the same in the end? The parents' wishes gave birth to a child. Our parents really helped us a lot. We basically don’t have to worry about a series of things like taking care of the children and housework. Looking back now there are these generational gaps. Maybe there's nothing wrong with that. In short, our family of three is living very comfortably now. Our parents are still willing to help us. But fortunately, he never interfered with our housekeeping. They never asked us what to do at home. If there is a generation gap, there will be a generation gap. All in all, not many things in life go as expected.