Is it really a painful thing for adults to go to work?

You must make a choice, or you will suffer for a long time. Doing what you like will make you gain more.

Some time ago, whether in qq group or WeChat group, you can see such pictures:

In our work, such people are really everywhere, as if suffering from work syndrome: Monday, depression! Because I have been free for two days, I suddenly want to restrain myself. Because there are a lot of things waiting for you when you go back on Monday, which seems to make you breathless; Tuesday, great pressure! Go back to work a little, but this day is the biggest peak of a week's workload, and people generally feel at a loss, so you still feel a little depressed; Wednesday, anxiety! People are more likely to feel anxious and worried on Wednesday, because this day is "the lowest point of the week and the time when they feel the heaviest burden." Thursday, relax! The end of Thursday means that there is only the last day of the week, so this day is the most meaningful to quench my thirst. I began to think about relaxing activities on weekends while working! Friday, come on! I have no intention of working, but my heart has been on vacation. "Saturday, completely put it down, because this day is completely out of the depressing work that makes you breathless; Sunday, fear! Because the end of Sunday means the arrival of Monday, people are often more afraid of the unknown than the present!

I don't know if this is everyone's mentality.

There are many people who come to the company with a sad face every day and work in a state of extreme depression. Facing the complicated interpersonal relationship and complicated work projects of the company, they feel extremely disgusted but persist! I have met many people who have enviable jobs and high salaries, but they are not happy. They are a group of lonely people who don't like to communicate with others and don't like Mondays. They regard work as a curse and have to work in order to survive.

Too many people lack enthusiasm for their work, because what they do is not what they like, and they lack a sense of mission. Maybe they are well paid, but they regard going to work as a routine.

? Their state is to complain about everything at work while working. Complain that the workload is heavy, the tasks assigned by the leaders are not completed, the salary is low, and I often work overtime until 9 pm, my colleagues are not good, and other departments do not cooperate. So you often want to avoid work, and you think that work is just a means to support you. If you are in this state, you don't like your present job at all. Your dislike of work leads to the complete separation of your work and life. They divide their time into two parts, one part is spent on the work they have to do to make a living, and the other part is for their favorite entertainment.

? Many people's lives are estimated to be like this all their lives, living in a state of division. We didn't like a major from the time we were studying, but we kept reading and then spent a lot of time studying our favorite major after class. After work, I am doing a job I don't like, but because I want to work stably and don't want to change, or because my salary is ok, I go to work in a particularly bad mood every day, and then I try my best to do what I like after work. Marry for the sake of marriage, the other half is not what you like, and you have to be together for the sake of your children. This situation will not end until the end of life.

A friend once told me her story:

There is a friend whose father just died after graduation. In order to accompany her mother, she chose to go back to her hometown. Because the university major is chemistry, but there are no chemical enterprises in my hometown. In order to survive for a period of time, I worked in a concrete pouring company for statistical work through family introduction.

This job is very simple, that is, I often have to work at night. Because construction companies often do their homework at night. Her daily job is to count the amount of concrete pumped by the operator and the fuel cost of the car. In addition, it is necessary to check whether there is any abnormality according to the recorded information every month, and then input the information of each employee into the group system.

In addition, her daily work content, in addition to constantly filling out forms, sorting out all kinds of employee information, making EXCEL forms, will also be responsible for some simple personnel recruitment procedures. ...

This job is a very good job in my mother's eyes, because except for the occasional night shift, it is relatively leisure and the salary is good. Moreover, this company is a large company in the local area. Because my work is relatively idle, I just sit in the office and knock on the computer every day. In the eyes of the elders in my hometown, this is a good job. In their eyes, girls just need to find a stable job, not too hard, and then find a good family to marry.

But slowly, she found herself beginning to hate this boring job that anyone who can use EXCEL spreadsheets, even junior high school students, can do.

In order to get rid of the mountains and go out to see the wonderful world outside, she ignored the opposition of her family, went to a university thousands of miles away from home, and then returned to her hometown for her family. Now doing the work that junior high school students can do well, she always feels no happiness!

She once wanted to leave her job and told her family many times, but they all opposed it, saying that it would be good for girls to have a job to support themselves. So, she stayed in that company against her will.

Gradually, she lost her enthusiasm for her work. Instead of arriving at the company as early as at the beginning, she began to be late for work every day, absent-minded, hoping to get off work quickly every day and escape from the place she hated. She began to resist the job, because she didn't like it, so she met problems at work, and instead of trying to solve them, she avoided them. When a colleague has a problem, she no longer patiently explains it, but shows boredom. She is in a bad mood every day. Her bad mood is reflected in her health, which is getting worse and worse. She always catches cold easily. After half a year, she felt as if she were a few years older.

Where the focus is, the result is there. I used to be very happy at work, so I feel that work is a kind of happiness. I often take the initiative to learn and strive to improve the skills needed for work. Now she is tired of this job and no longer takes the initiative to study. After work every day, turn on the computer to watch soap operas or play games to relieve the work pressure.

Gradually, she didn't want to pay attention to her work at all. I will try my best to delay what I can, and I will perfunctory what I can. Any work, whether you do it with your heart or not, will be directly presented in the results.

This job lasted for half a year, and finally ranked last in an assessment and was dismissed by the company.

I think there are still many friends who, like the above friend, are doing jobs they don't like, but they have to stick to them for various reasons! Maybe it's because I don't know how to change, or maybe it's because I don't have the motivation to change. No matter what the reason, we are always reluctant to give up, just like people's marriage. Once you get married, even if you have no feelings for each other, you will continue to maintain it.

List the jobs you like and dislike.

There are many motives for our work. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, there are physiological needs, security needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs. Everyone has different needs. For example, the motivation for many people to work is to earn more money. Here's how to calculate the bill for jobs you like and jobs you don't like.

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Characteristics of doing your favorite job: You are more willing to pay, your mood will be cheerful every day, you will take the initiative to improve your ability, you have high demands on yourself, you want to do your job as perfectly as possible, and you will spend more time thinking about how to solve problems in your work.

? The result is: your work efficiency is very high every day, and you can't wait to finish the task given by the leader at once. In order to do a good job, you will take part in study and training in your spare time to improve your ability. When your ability is constantly enhanced, your work will be more handy, so your performance will be better and better. When your performance gets better and better, the company will recognize you more and more, and your career development will get better and better. You have achieved the unity of body and mind, life and work.

? The characteristics of doing a job you don't like: you will be perfunctory, you will be rejected in the face of work pressure, you will be in a bad mood every day, and your work efficiency will be very low. Every day after work, I will run away from the workplace immediately, and then do something that has nothing to do with work but can relax you, such as watching TV. Because I'm not interested in work, I can put off the problems at work if I can. You won't improve your ability to improve your work performance. You may learn some skills that have nothing to do with your current job outside of 8 hours. But time is always limited. So your life and work are completely separated. In your eyes, work is just a tool to support yourself.

The result is: because you don't put all your energy into your work, your work performance is much worse than others. So it is impossible to have a good career development. Over time, your ability has not developed. Your present job has not developed and your ability has not improved. Over time, you will slowly fall into the bottleneck of career development. All kinds of career development problems will appear. This is a vicious circle.

Doing a job you don't like is a waste of life. Because what you get, you can't get anything positive except that little salary.

Dyke once described many people's views on work in his classic works: it is difficult for many people to hide their dissatisfaction with work. They often complain. The general worker said, "I am a work machine." The teller at the bank said, "I feel like I'm in a cage." The steelworker said, "The monkey will do what I do." The receptionist said, "Students who graduated from junior high school can also do my job."

Most of these people regard work as a tool to make money. They don't put their work into life at all, thinking that work is to separate life. Work is a hard job for them. Monday looks forward to the weekend, weekend fears Monday, and never feels the pleasure of work.

However, successful people can break through the wall between work and play-they do what they like. They feel great happiness and sense of accomplishment from it.

CIO (CEO) of Apple Computer and Pixar Animation Studio? On June 12, 2005, Jobs gave a speech at the graduation ceremony of Stanford University. In this speech, three stories about his life were told. He said: "I am very lucky-I found a job I like when I was very young. When I was 20 years old, Woz and I started designing Apple computers in my parents' garage. We work hard. 10 years have passed, and the scale of Apple has grown from two people working in the garage to a large company with more than 4,000 employees and assets of 2 billion US dollars. Just one year later, we released our proudest masterpiece-Macintosh. I was only 30 years old then. "

But later, he was fired. In the first few months, he didn't know what to do. He became a well-known loser and even thought about leaving Silicon Valley. But there is a glimmer of light in his life-I still love my old career. What happened at Apple didn't change his love for it at all. Although he was forced to give up, he still loved it. So he decided to start all over again. In the NeXT five years, he founded Next's company and another company, Pixar, and fell in love with a very attractive lady who later became my wife. Then, Apple bought NeXT, and Jobs returned to Apple. Are they next? The developed technology is the core technology for Apple to regain its glory.

The only driving force that can support Jobs' progress is his love for his career. The same applies to work and love. Work will occupy a large part of your life, and the only way to satisfy you is to do what you think is great. The only secret of doing great work is to like your work. If you haven't found a job you like, find another one. Do not stop. When you finally find it, you will know that this is what you want. Like all great feelings, as time goes by, it will only become more and more suitable for you. So, keep looking for a job you really like. Don't stop until you find it.

Because I like it, I will always keep it in my heart. You will try to do a lot of work-related things. When you come across anything that is helpful to your work, you will want to write it down. When you encounter any phenomenon in the industry, you will want to know about it and discuss it with others ... Many times, a job does not require too much talent, and whether a person can succeed in his own field often depends on whether he can focus on it for a long time. And the best way to focus is to like it.

Kazuo inamori, a Japanese business sage, once wrote in his works that to achieve great things, one must be a "spontaneous" person who can burn passion. That is, "self-immolation."

Substances are divided into three categories: first, flammable substances burning near fire; Second, even if it is close to the fire, it cannot be burned; Third, it can produce spontaneous combustion substances.

Doing the work you like and are interested in will make you deeply passionate and make you a "spontaneous combustion type". Many things are done by myself, and no one needs to rush them.

In the recruitment process, we will often examine the internal drive of candidates. To see if a person likes his present job and regards it as an important part of his life, I mainly look at the highlights. First, whether this person will constantly learn new knowledge and skills in his spare time to improve his work performance. If he doesn't like his present job, he certainly won't do anything related to it. For example, I like human resources, and I will always pay attention to human resources forums, study and participate in various human resources professional forums. The second is to see how much time he spent at work. Most successful people work more than 14 hours a day. There is no such thing as a weekend off. Spend the weekend at work. What makes them pay so much is their love for this job. Can you do it?

Likes and dislikes will change.

The definition of liking is that you can do anything for the person or thing you like willingly. It's an emotion. Emotions can change. Just as you like a person, you may not like it over time. So like and dislike can be converted. Many times, we don't like a job, often not because we have rejected it in our hearts, but because our ability is not enough to support the work well, so we have no sense of accomplishment and don't know much about the meaning of the work, so happiness is impossible.

I have a friend who sells credit loans. He is a typical science and engineering man. He chose to be a salesman simply because he didn't want to work in front of the computer all day. He is eager to work with people.

However, at first, because of my poor eloquence, I couldn't do this job well at all. I stayed in the company for half a year and didn't make a deal. He began to doubt his choice and whether he was not suitable for the job. But his leader advised him to stick to it for another six months.

He chose to insist. In the next six months, he kept practicing his eloquence, improving his ability to communicate with others, learning product knowledge and visiting customers. Finally, in the ninth month of joining the company, he successfully clinched a deal. Due to the accumulation of half a year, he broke out in the last month of the first year of the company, signing 25 orders a month, an average of one order a day, creating a record for the company to sign orders a month.

Praised by the company leaders, he was hired as the sales director of the company. He began to feel the sense of accomplishment and value of this job, and he felt that everything he did was very meaningful. "I like this job." He told me later. Now he is the department manager of a product in the company.

So a person doesn't like a job, probably because he doesn't feel the value of the job. If you are this type, please stick to it. But in the process of persistence, we must constantly learn work-related skills to make our work better. But the results of your work are slowly coming out and being affirmed by the company. You will like this job.

This is the process of changing jobs between jobs you like and jobs you don't like.

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