Do women still live a married life with their husbands after cheating?

The relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of marriage. If the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, it will easily lead to various problems in marriage. They can easily accept other temptations or seek other emotional comfort to seek emotional compensation.

And if married life is lonely and monotonous, if it makes people feel disappointed and unsatisfied, many people will also look for other ways or stimuli to satisfy and balance their psychology.

Unlike men, cheating is mostly because of sex. Women who cheat are often tempted outside marriage and indifferent inside marriage. So is it really that easy for a woman to find an extramarital affair? What kind of "thoughts" do they have when facing the life of husband and wife?

1, Ms. Tian: I feel guilty and scared. I have no face to face the life of husband and wife. It takes an adaptation stage to find various reasons to avoid many things. When a woman cheats, her heart is usually very tormented. These women will feel sorry for their husbands at home. These women will also feel guilty when facing their husbands, and generally can't live a normal husband and wife life. But after a period of time, some women can balance the relationship between lovers and husbands well, and they can also face the sexual life between husband and wife normally. You may feel guilty at first, but you will get used to it later.

For example, Ms. Tian, after a colleague had a drink at a party, it happened that the husband and wife quarreled again, so she took advantage of the opportunity to let her male colleague who usually had a little affection for her send her home. Where did she think of her colleagues looking for an excuse to go back to her house? Ms. Tian feels that she has self-control. As long as she sits, she will send herself home, never take the last step and never have sex. But in the crazy love, after the male colleague went in, he realized that he was finished. I feel sorry for my husband.

Since the derailment, Ms. Tian said: "I spend every day in the fear of having a guilty conscience. I feel a pair of eyes staring at me all the time, and even when I walk on the road, I feel someone pointing at my back. Especially in the face of husband and wife life, my inner shame makes it difficult for me to be honest with him. I subconsciously feel dirty and don't want him to touch me. My derailment made her husband very embarrassed, and it was difficult to face her husband calmly under self-blame. "

She doesn't even know how to keep close relationship with her husband. In her opinion, she has become dirty because she is mixed with men outside, and she is no longer worthy of having sex with her husband.

2. Ms. Zhang: I feel guilty inside. I instinctively hide my instinctive reaction. I'm afraid my husband will find some women, and I don't think my husband is so good. Instead, I think men outside marriage are perfect. Because they know how to seduce women and how to coax them with sweet words. The husband, however, has been working hard and slowly ignored his wife. Therefore, once a woman has an affair, she will miss the man outside.

Ms. Zhang's husband runs business all the year round, and husband and wife get together less and leave more. As a young woman in her thirties, Ms. Zhang feels very empty. She needs someone to take care of her and accompany her. At this time, colleague Xiao Li slowly came to her side, and the two soon had a relationship.

Since Ms. Zhang had a relationship with her lover, she said, "I worry about my husband discovering his abnormality every day. When I lived with him as a husband and wife, I was always unable to devote myself wholeheartedly, and I was always nervous for fear that he would find out what was wrong with me. For this reason, I always find excuses to quarrel with him, in order to avoid living with him as a husband and wife. In order to make their secret actions with their lovers last for a long time, they usually face lovers with perfunctory evasions and cover-ups. Because my feelings are gone, I am no longer interested in my husband and pay attention to others. "

She said that she felt guilty, felt sorry for him, didn't know how to face it, and lived with guilt every day. Although living a normal husband and wife life, my heart is getting heavier and heavier.

3. Ms. Wang: I am very tired and I am very resistant. I don't want my husband to see myself. I just want to admit to my lover that some women have high expectations for love, especially when they fall in love with a man and even want to spend their whole lives with each other, but they can't get happiness. Perhaps, the unsatisfactory marriage makes them have a lot of complaints and dissatisfaction with their partners.

Ms. Wang and her husband were introduced. Because I am not young, I want to find a family to settle down. They had no emotional foundation, so they decided to be together hastily. After getting married, Ms. Wang discovered that the difference between herself and her husband was too great. He is a businessman and Ms. Wang is a civil servant. Cultural and experience differences make it really difficult for them to live happily together, but because of face, neither of them wants to file for divorce. Ms. Wang finally couldn't bear loneliness and embarked on the road of derailment.

She said, "I met one of my clients. Rich and romantic clients always surprise her. She looks very handsome. Slowly, I fell in love with him and we had sex. Since then, it has become even more out of control. I don't want to go home to see my husband more and more. Sometimes, my husband sometimes wants to marry, but I always resist. I don't want to have an intimate relationship with a man I don't like. I am truly happy only when I leave home and stay with my lover. "

As an adult woman, I should know what I can and can't do after marriage. If there is still love, please love it deeply. If there is no love, please turn around and leave. Don't play this two-faced trick.

Marriage is a very important part for a woman. When she decided to marry a man, the woman had entrusted her life to this man. When two people have conflicts, the first thing to do is to communicate. Only by solving the contradiction can she be happy. Cheating is not the solution to the problem, but it will lead to the breakdown of a marriage.

I want to say to all women: never cheat in marriage, it is always women who get hurt. I hope you will turn around quickly and don't hurt this family with your selfish thoughts! Cheating is the most unforgivable thing between husband and wife. Don't hurt your partner, cherish the person in front of you.