Why do kindergarten teachers abuse children?

My friend told me that she was angry because the kindergarten teacher yelled at her baby. I said, you should give the teacher a present quickly. China people give gifts for two purposes. One is that they have wild desires, and these wild desires do not belong to you. You have to fight for it, such as finding a job, taking a project, making an appointment and so on. , all belong to this category. The second is to buy road money, which originally belongs to you, but the fate is in the hands of others, so you have to change some blood. Do you want money or die when you meet a robber on the road? Go to a department to do something, please approve it quickly and so on.

The second reason why friends want to give gifts to teachers is. Being kind to the baby is the natural duty of the kindergarten teacher, and it is also something that the baby should enjoy, but the baby will not stab the knife, punch and kick, and even cry to defend himself. It's not up to the teacher to decide whether it's round or flat. You have to spend money to buy a road.

How will the teacher react after receiving the gift? That is, when they see your baby and think of the gift you gave them, they will feel happier and relaxed at ordinary times. Even if teachers are not greedy for money, they are not good at it, but they are short-staffed and short-mouthed. This truth is well known in China.

In fact, whether the baby will be beaten, yelled at or abused depends entirely on the teacher's mood. No matter how dedicated and kind the teacher is, her boyfriend cheated last night, her home was stolen, her bank card was cheated, the heating pipe leaked, the wifi was broken, and the iPhone X fell into the water. We also expect her to go to kindergarten the next day, which is impossible. It is human nature to be in a bad mood, but taking it out on children in a bad mood is a matter of personal quality and cultivation.

How many children have been abused, or on the verge of being abused, such as being yelled at, insulted by words, and treated rudely? Although I didn't do detailed investigation and statistics, I'm afraid less than one-tenth of them can be exposed in newspapers and online. I am afraid that less than one can be found afterwards; As for those rude actions and verbal insults that did not cause substantial harm, it is hard to imagine. So we should ponder a question: Why are so many kindergarten nurses and teachers in a bad mood?

There are two main reasons, one is lack of money, and the other is low social status. Working to earn money to support the family is the original meaning of working. If a nurse can get 10 thousand yuan a month, taking care of the baby is definitely better than taking care of the parents. The well-known institution Red, Yellow and Blue Kindergarten, the international class costs 4,800 yuan per child per month, but the parent-child teacher with children costs more than 3,000 yuan a month, and those who run the market can get more than 5,000 yuan. But the waiter in Beijing restaurant earns 3000+ bonus every month. Of course, the slogan of recruiting nurses and kindergarten teachers in kindergartens must be: not the best, but the minimum wage. After all, it seems that kindergarten teachers only take their children to play, run and jump, while nurses only serve Lazar. This kind of work seems to have little technical content. Auntie with 789 babies and rural sister with three or four or five younger brothers and sisters all seem to be good hands. This kind of low-end job takes a lot, so it seems that I am not too embarrassed to pay a high salary.

In such low-end positions, the vast majority of employees have not received a good education. After all, it seems that they can serve Lazar without a doctorate, singing and dancing with their babies. It is inevitable that they will be despised and have no social status. Anyway, for so many years, I haven't seen anyone say "I'm a glorious kindergarten teacher" brazenly.

Of course, these are not excuses for child abuse. You can quit if you have less money and low status. Now that you have done it, you should do it well and do your job well. This is the major. But this logic does not apply to China people.

Hundreds of years ago, people in China liked order and asked everyone to take their places. What the emperor does, what the eunuch does, what the father does, what the mother does, what the son does, what the farmer does, and what the businessman does have clear rules, so everyone just does it. If you are a slave, you must be willing to be a slave from the bottom of your heart, without any wild desires. After all, in reality, there is no good channel to turn slaves into masters and farmers into county grandfathers except reading and rebelling.

This idea is still in the blood of China people today. Nowadays, in costume dramas, writers often criticize those restless slaves with modern thinking: just be your slave and kill you if you have any crooked ideas.

But slaves are human beings, and eunuchs castrate their lower bodies, so there is no need to behead them. But people with low status want to turn over and be masters, and people with high status want everyone to be their own slaves. Over time, people think that if you are in a high position, you should take a step back. If you are in a low position, don't try to dream unrealistic dreams and be equal.

Equality, of course, is not equal if you climb high, what's more, many people think that everyone is equal is wrong. Many people think that everyone is equal. You have two wives, but I don't. Just give me one. This is egalitarianism, not equality. The essence of equality is that the dung digger does not feel inferior to the president from the bottom of his heart. He can talk arrogantly to the president, take out his hand with the smell of shit and urine, smile and give the president a high five. The president naturally has the same mentality and attitude towards dung diggers. At the same time, there are many channels for this society to rise, and the opportunities are fair. As long as we work hard, we all have the opportunity to change the status quo.

The ascending channel is relatively easy to handle. At least for now, everyone in China is facing the biggest, widest and fairest opportunity to rise and the channel to change their destiny in history. You can get an iron rice bowl after you finish studying. If you can't study, you can do business. Can't do business, can start a business, can't start a business, can fool. If you can't muddle along, you can speculate on houses, bitcoin and stock futures. Anyway, all kinds of wealth, Pan Changke? Curtains. What's this? /p & gt；

However, it is not so easy to change a nation's heart. It is necessary to change the culture and customs of this nation. It will take hundreds or thousands of years, and there will be no fundamental changes. China people, for example, are psychologically divided on the issue of equality.

People with more money, people with bright status and people with high status can never completely get rid of the superior ideas of thousands of years. You don't have to bother to find real examples. Just go to a restaurant and you can see the attitude of China people towards restaurant waiters at a glance. Few people can really feel that begging, picking up garbage, sweating and moving bricks by the roadside are equal to themselves in personality. What is common to everyone is the comparison between formal establishment and temporary workers, and the comparison between 985 and the aunt who sells pancakes. The memory of the upper computer is full of arrogance of "how can I compare with such a person?"

People with less money, ugly status and low status can't completely get rid of the thinking of inferiority for thousands of years, but they yearn for equality infinitely, so they are extremely struggling inside. In the face of more powerful people, they often bow and scrape on the surface, as if they were very pious in front of their grandchildren, turning their backs and cursing secretly, vowing to step on others one day. In the face of people who are worse than themselves, they sometimes hypocritically show courtesy and care for the public, and sometimes they show the majesty and privilege of their superiors with impatience and arrogance.

Therefore, we can imagine that a kindergarten teacher who is defined by society or positioned as a lower class will inevitably fall into the struggle of inferiority, depression and desperate desire for equality. Both society and them have solidified their social status in occupation and income: I am inferior and not respected because I have no status as a kindergarten nurse and teacher and my income is too low; We are equal. Why should I do such a humble job, serving three-year-old children with shit and urine, singing and dancing, and serving others? So, why should I be dedicated and take good care of my children? Every time a diaper is changed, perhaps the nurse's heart will be less identified and more angry.

True equality has nothing to do with fame, occupation, income and fatness. However, whether it is kindergarten nurses, teachers or many of us, we are all in an anger that we are inferior and eager to be superior, but we just lack that kind of supercilious calm.

It is quite dangerous to entrust the child's fate to the personal cultivation and moral standards of kindergarten teachers. Only when this society inspires many well-educated college graduates to be happy as kindergarten teachers and regard kindergarten teachers as a recognized profession can everyone's babies live well in kindergartens.

But those who are born without love can't really explain their inner distortion with reason and words.

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