Don’t magnify your “shortcomings” in the workplace

At the end of the business training, each trainee took the stage to give a report at the closing ceremony. The PPT template of the report is unified. One of the items requires everyone to talk about "personal strengths and weaknesses." Sometimes this question is also expressed as "personal strengths and weaknesses."

This problem is also common in general recruitment interviews and open selections. As a non-professional HR, I often ask candidates this question during interviews.

Once, a business manager talked about his three shortcomings in a report. Because he only mentioned one advantage but three shortcomings, I was particularly impressed. He said, "My shortcoming is that I have a poor memory and forget everything." There is another one I forgot.

These two shortcomings sound terrible enough to me. In the workplace, just think about it, which manager or company would be willing to hire an employee with a "poor memory and forgetfulness"? If you give him a special task, will you feel relieved?

As a new graduate who doesn’t have much workplace experience, I guessed that he was exaggerating his shortcomings, so I asked: You said that you have a poor memory and forget about things. Please give me a recent example of when you missed things.

He didn’t think of the examples behind this “shortcoming” for a moment, so I reminded him, “Did he lose something while taking a taxi, or did he forget to bring his keys when he went out? Or something else?...” He thought for a while and said: For example, my mother Call and ask what you had for breakfast or lunch? Often can't remember.

I laughed. My daughter eats at the schoolhouse for lunch every day. When I go home in the evening and ask her what she had for lunch at the schoolhouse or what she had for dinner at her grandma’s house in the evening, she will most likely answer me “forgot.” In fact, the dialogue between mother and son or mother and daughter about "what to eat" is a formal concern. The person as the child most likely does not pay attention to such questions, and the answers are perfunctory. It is not that he (she) has a bad memory. For example, when I first started working, my mother asked me almost every day what time I would go to work? Now I often ask my daughter what time school ends. She told you today, and you will ask again tomorrow. That is a daily conversation at home, and it does not mean that my mother or I have a bad memory.

I often "flaunt" that I have a "very good memory". When I feel that my memory is good, I am actually giving myself a psychological hint that I want to have a good memory. "Good memory" is the state I want. So I became a person with a good memory in the eyes of others and in my own mind.

If you really have a bad memory or forget everything, you have to accept your "shortcomings". Only by accepting can you allow yourself to improve and improve, because you can't remember everything in detail. , or you can't remember to explain that the thing itself is not important. (m.taiks.com) More than ten years ago, a former colleague took a taxi and left a computer worth more than 10,000 yuan in the taxi. Fortunately, he found it later. When others despised him, he said, "I don't believe you were not careless and negligent?" I still remember the look in his eyes.

Regarding talking about your own "strengths and disadvantages", the advice given by professionals is: don't talk about more than three advantages (be specific or emphasize the advantages you talk about); it's not too much to talk about only one shortcoming. .

Therefore, as a professional, when you have the opportunity to talk about your strengths and weaknesses in front of the public, talk about your strengths and weaknesses more to enhance your self-confidence; as for the shortcomings, one is enough, and some of them are enough for you. The "shortcomings" that you have dug out through your own picky and "private words" are likely to be magnified countless times by others, affecting your so-called "career." Because many so-called managers in this world love to be critical and find fault with others.

For example, I used to be.

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"Your strengths and weaknesses" examines the candidate's (professional) correct understanding of themselves and their ability to evaluate themselves comprehensively and objectively. The answer to this question can tell whether the candidate is confident or proud or inferior.

Although the answer to the advantages and disadvantages is a personal subjective evaluation, which is greatly affected by personal confidence, value orientation, etc., the advantages and disadvantages described may not be consistent with the actual situation (such as the above situation), but you The statement will affect the examiner's judgment of your ability to a certain extent.

1. "Avoid the truth and focus on the fictitious", talk about insignificant shortcomings, rather than being too frank and exposing major flaws in your ability structure.

In addition, there is another "speculative" method, which is to talk about your "security shortcomings", which are shortcomings that are shortcomings in some situations, but may be advantages in other situations. For example, if you are with Those who are irresponsible for their work are difficult to get along with, and they often cause delays in work due to demanding perfection in their work.

However, this "safety shortcoming" can easily make experienced examiners think you are "glib", so you should use it with caution!

2. When talking about advantages, you should pay attention to your expression, demeanor, tone, etc., and please handle it in a "low-key" manner. Sometimes it can express your hope and efforts to "get to the next level";

When talking about your shortcomings, don't stop at the shortcomings themselves, but focus on your determination and actions to overcome the shortcomings.

3. Don’t talk in general terms. You can give specific explanations with examples, even if the examiner does not explicitly require it.