It is better to improve yourself than to cling to others.

The popular ode to joy is over. All five girls have their own love destinations except Guan Juer. Starting from Xiaoqu, Dr. Zhao and Andy chose Bao Yifan after experiencing the singularity. After being hurt by Bai, she finally met He Fan. She wanted to climb the ladder, but after some twists and turns, she chose Wang Baichuan, a down-to-earth and struggling man who loved her.

Andy and Qu Xiaoyu don't say much. They have superior conditions and they have the ability to choose what they like. Qiu Yingying is down-to-earth and has no lofty aspirations, so engineering male like Qin Ying is also suitable for her. However, Guan Juer and Fan, who seem to have no choice, chose to improve themselves. A man was heartbroken by all kinds of excuses of "rich people" and refused to marry her. Finally, he found that only Wang Baichuan, a struggling man, was really suitable for her.

She was sad that Guan Juer had a girlfriend in front of Dr. Zhao, who had a crush on him, but instead of accepting Brother Lin, she continued to work hard. Guan Guan seems to be a good girl, but in fact she is a girl with her own ideas. She knows that it is more important to try to improve herself than to rush to sell herself. Therefore, becoming a full-time employee of a Fortune 500 company is her most important goal. Even if she has never tasted the taste of love, she must have worked hard and will shine with time, so the footsteps of love will not be too far away from her.

On the other hand, Mei Sheng, a fan, wants to sell himself first, not improve himself. Take advantage of your own HR work, try to mix circles and make friends, hoping to successfully enter the upper level one day and make yourself struggle less for N years. However, when her father was seriously ill but had no money to pay for the operation, and all the calls she made to the so-called bosses, wealthy businessmen and even "boyfriends" were rejected, insulted and cornered, she really discovered that those people didn't take themselves seriously at all, and they had no weight in others' hearts. In this way, she gradually realized that there was a threshold for the circle where her flower girl cooked into a leftover woman, but she was not qualified.

Compared with Andy and Qu Xiaoyu, when they encounter difficulties, they can call their friends and leave at once, while so-called successful people like Lao Tan, Singularity, Bao Yifan and Yao Bin all love to work hard for them. Fan's experience is really tragic. But who can blame this? Those who don't pay attention to equality of interests and exchange of values, her fan Mei Sheng has no available value to those people, so they all avoid it, let alone give timely help. She finally understood the truth. Fortunately, it's not too late. Wang Baichuan, who regards her as a goddess, has been waiting there. She can fight with him and create the life she wants. Although it will be very bitter, my heart is steadfast. In the face of men who are evenly matched with themselves and go hand in hand, there is no need to look up and smile in front of others and pretend to be grandchildren to cater to others' preferences. Her choice seems helpless, but it is actually a new understanding of life.

Guan Juer's non-choice and Fan's suboptimal are two extreme examples, which just reflect the ultimate unity of two people's different values. To sum up, it is not advisable to eat food. The revolution has not yet succeeded, and comrades still need to work hard. Therefore, each does his own thing and has his own wonderful things. Bringing their experiences back to reality is actually the same. Your ability will always match your life. When your ability has not reached a certain level of BOSS, please keep your feet on the ground first. Don't dream of winning the lottery and meeting a perfect overbearing president, who just pesters you in all aspects. Such a thing will happen in Mary Sue's romance novels, but it is extremely unlikely in real life. Just like Qu Xiaoyu's comment on Fan's "hooking up with women" behavior: those so-called successful people with status and money are just playing with her. If we really want to talk about marriage, people have to find a rich woman.

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A distant relative has a sister named Su Mei, who is beautiful and tall in life. So many people like her since childhood. Sister Su Mei's grades are not very good. After finishing high school, she went to work in Wuhan and worked as a front desk in a restaurant near Wuhan University. Once, a boy and his classmates went to that restaurant for dinner. They fell in love with the beautiful Samui at first sight and got up the courage to ask her for her phone number. After that, various text messages and phone calls were invited to express their love for Samui. After half a year, the boy finally caught up with Samui.

However, Samui was not as happy as everyone thought. She said that she had always had bad feelings and was not practical. Because the boy is a graduate student of Huake Shuobolian, and he is just a working girl who went out to make money after graduating from high school. The huge cultural difference between them made Su Mei feel uneasy. Although the boy has repeatedly stated that he is interested in Samui's people, not Samui's education, Samui still can't agree with this disparity. She knows that even if he really likes himself and really wants to be with himself, she can't accept the combination of a doctor and a high school student, because such love and marriage are unequal from the beginning, and she doesn't want to live in his light and rely on him to get a higher level of life. So, she resolutely gave up her job choice at that time and continued her studies.

Because she resigned, her parents scolded her for fooling around and didn't want to provide her with tuition. Colleagues laughed at her ingratitude, and she felt inferior when she met a rich husband. Even the closest sisters are trying to persuade her not to waste her youth. It is as important as anything to tie up a doctor. However, Su Mei applied for the undergraduate course of China Normal University. Since then, after leaving books for many years, she has re-entered the campus and started a difficult road to study. During this period, she even thought about it, hoping to take an examination of a graduate student with the same academic ability. But because of the limited foundation, I'm really out of my depth.

Four years later, Su Mei graduated successfully, and the boy graduated with a doctor's degree and became a teacher in a university in Guangzhou. The two successfully got a marriage certificate. At this time, everyone advised Su Mei that she finally came out and could go to Guangzhou to enjoy retirement with her husband. The family also hopes that Samui can settle down early and have a baby. After all, she is almost 28. However, Su Mei didn't want to be idle, and she reached out and asked her man for money. She does some clerical work, but the salary is average and she can't afford the high price in Guangzhou. Thinking of doing it herself, she scraped together some money to open a small clothing store and start a clothing business. Taobao just caught fire in those years, and she also opened her own shop on Taobao. We think she's just tinkering around. Every morning, she buys alone, orders alone and delivers alone, staring at the news of Want Want in the middle of the night. A few years later, online and in-store business is booming, earning more money than her husband who is a university teacher. They bought a house in Guangdong, added a baby at home and lived a happy and beautiful life.

Now Su Mei doesn't have to take care of her own shop. She hired someone to look after the store, and she just bought the goods and then managed Taobao's store at home. My relatives and brothers in my hometown all came to help me order and deliver the goods. She has become a successful small boss.

Although there is still a certain gap with doctoral students in academic qualifications, Samui is very confident. Because, her life is made by herself bit by bit, and she has never been touched by her husband's light. Moreover, it was her husband who always said that Samui was the biggest contributor to this small family.

Imagine if Samui spent her whole life relying on men's attention instead of studying to improve herself and trying to earn money to support her family. In that case, even if the wealth created by men can make her worry-free, it will never make her confident now.

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I know a beautiful woman, top student, who is comely, watery, fair-skinned and graceful. I wonder how such a beautiful girl could have anything to do with top student if she didn't go to school in the same city. But the fact is that she got 650 points in the college entrance examination and was afraid to apply for a better school, so she went to Nantah. I got the first place in the university exam, so I switched from chemistry to biology. I got more than 600 points in CET-6, and both TOEFL and GRE got high marks. Not only that, she also has a boyfriend in the same class, who is not only handsome, but also has high grades.

It seems that this person's life is not at the same level as our ordinary people, so when we are considering whether to take the postgraduate entrance examination or work, she is considering whether to study abroad or stay at home. When we were crowded at the recruitment site and rejected by those cold HR for various reasons, her class teacher urged her to make a decision whether to go out for graduate school or stay in our school. If she doesn't want to stay in our school, the opportunity will be left to the students behind. When we were at a loss how to solve our graduation thesis, people had already started experiments with professors from the Institute of Biology, Chinese Academy of Sciences. I will graduate soon, and I haven't even found a job, but people are struggling to stay in our school, go to Chinese Academy of Sciences or go to America. The head teacher is waiting for the number of places for insurance research. Her boyfriend doesn't want to go abroad, and her family wants her to go abroad. So she was so anxious that she didn't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do compared with ordinary people who can't even find a job. It should be a lot of high-end atmosphere. I'm afraid we ordinary people won't even have a hard choice for these three levels of offer in our dreams, so top student's life height is different.

But these heavy achievements, not because she brought her own aura when she was in top student, but because she earned it day after day during her four years in college. Everything was permeated with the girl's efforts and sweat. For four years, when we were shopping with our classmates in Confucius Temple, she was doing experiments in the laboratory. When we were singing HIGH until midnight with my roommate in KTV, she recited TOEFL and GRE words in the all-night study room of the school. On weekends, we woke up naturally and got up in the afternoon. She has chewed half a professional book in the library. During the holiday, we did nothing, and people took dozens of hours of trains to the northeast to take the TOEFL test. Because there are too many people in Nanjing. In the countless precious time we squandered, she never slackened her efforts to improve herself.

Behind top student's glamorous resume is a bleak and simple family environment. His mother is a full-time housewife, his father is a truck driver, and his sister is also in college. My father ran around from morning till night, barely making ends meet. In this way, in addition to providing her with the most basic material life, the family can't give her a richer and better life. So she can only change the status quo through her own efforts. Whether it is the high score in the college entrance examination or the higher education pass when she graduated, she is using her own efforts and strength to prove her Excellence.

Such a radiant woman makes people ignore her poor and ordinary family. People only remember her dazzling present, but they never care whether she is from a prominent family. As the saying goes, heroes don't ask the source. So, when there is no one to rely on, try to improve yourself. As long as we work hard, everyone will become stronger one day.