Children are exposed to the internet, and parents are anxious. In the digital age, how to make the Internet a new space for parent-child interaction?

Internet, online classroom, mobile phone? In the information network era, surfing the Internet is easy. Huo, director and researcher of the Family Education Department of China Children's Center, pointed out: Internet access is getting younger, and the family has become the main place for primary school students and preschool children to access the Internet, which deserves the most attention. It's summer vacation again. How to carry out family network literacy education, how to improve children's network literacy, and how to build a digital family relationship with parents and children?

Blue Book for Teenagers: Report on Internet Use of Minors in China (202 1) shows that by the end of 2020, the number of Internet users of minors aged 6 to 18 in China has reached1800,000, and the internet penetration rate of minors is as high as 94.9%. How to improve the network literacy of minors? How to implement home network education? How to cultivate minors' consumption concept and online habits? How can we achieve network security? A series of realistic and urgent problems need to be solved urgently.

The survey shows that parents' influence on teenagers' network management, network values and cognitive behavior is obviously insufficient.

How about teenagers' network literacy?

? According to the five-point system, the average score of teenagers' network literacy is 3.56. If converted into 100 points, the current level of teenagers' network literacy is about 70 points, which needs to be further improved. ? Fang Zengquan, director of the Network Literacy Research Center for Minors of Beijing Normal University, said.

In May this year, the Beijing Internet Court held a court session? The first common future? Press conference on network judicial protection of minors, informing the society about the trial of network disputes involving minors since the establishment of the hospital and releasing typical cases. The case reflects four major problems in minors' internet use: first, the behavior norms of minors' internet use are insufficient, and the problem of internet addiction is more prominent; Second, minors' awareness of network security is weak and vulnerable to bad information; Third, minors are both victims and perpetrators of the infringement of personality rights; Fourth, minors lack rational consumption habits and are prone to impulsive consumption.

The Network Literacy Research Center for Minors of Beijing Normal University conducted three large-scale large-scale data sample measurements on 20 17, 2020 and 202 1 to explore the influence of family factors on network literacy. The survey shows that parents' influence on teenagers' online impression management, online values and cognitive behavior is obviously insufficient.

Ma Ying of Tencent Minors Service Center and his colleagues call them children with network problems? Children hidden in the game? . After investigating and analyzing hundreds of real cases, Ma Ying found that most of these children were incompetent, insecure, lacking in social interaction and suffering misfortune. ? We need to constantly guide parents, pay attention to the real motives behind children's behavior, find those deeper needs and meet them in real life. Only in this way can we really solve the children's problems. ?

Bian, a professor at China Collaborative Innovation Center of Basic Education Quality Monitoring in Beijing Normal University, believes that family education should pay attention to the unity of teenagers' learning needs, relationship needs, independent needs and value needs. High-quality companionship of parents helps to establish intimate relationships, meet the needs of children's independent development, and drive children to realize their self-worth, thus achieving their healthy growth.

In family education, a warm family and good parent-child relationship are becoming more and more important. China Collaborative Innovation Center of Basic Education Quality Monitoring of Beijing Normal University analyzes hundreds of thousands of children every year, and finds that the problem of children's internet addiction can be reduced by 7% to 8% for every increase in parent-child relationship.

? Parents should set an example and take the first responsibility to accompany the growth and development of teenagers. ? Fang Zengquan suggested implementing the family network literacy education plan, including: improving parents' network literacy level; Pay attention to communication, increase temperature and reduce unnecessary control; Get online safely and guide teenagers to identify harmful waste information; Guide teenagers to participate in network interaction correctly and surf the Internet in a healthy and civilized way. Parents should be the first tutor, create a healthy family education atmosphere, and teach their children to make good use of the internet to shape their own image. Encourage children to change from online content consumers to content creators, and standardize their online value cognition and behavior.

Experts call for establishing a sense of responsibility and being parents who know, understand, abide by and use the law.

Children touching the net make many parents very anxious and may yell at their children many times a day. What problems does this reflect?

? Family education has the problem of parents' lack of ability. ? Zheng Ning, director of the Law Department of Communication University of China, said that there are provisions related to network literacy in laws and regulations such as the Family Education Promotion Law, the Law on the Protection of Minors and the Law on the Prevention of Juvenile Delinquency, emphasizing that the state, society, schools and families should strengthen network literacy, publicity and education for minors and safeguard their legitimate rights and interests in cyberspace.

? Parents? Take the baby according to law? First of all, you should know the law yourself, and the most important thing is to obey the law. ? For example, Zheng Ning said that information and rumors that endanger national security, obscenity, violence and terror, and infringe on legitimate rights and interests cannot be sent; The website needs the special consent of the guardian to obtain information, and the parents are in the circle of friends? Baby sun? Don't expose your child's personal information; Be careful when giving authorization information to mobile phone software.

Since 20021,the demand for guardians in the field of network protection for minors has become more and more clear. However, in the actual landing process, there are still phenomena such as guardians actively providing adult accounts for minors and guardians actively assisting minors to complete adult face recognition, which makes the anti-addiction system ineffective. Many experts call for the establishment of a family? Family is the first class and parents are the first teachers? Sense of responsibility, take the main responsibility of family education, educate minors to develop good thoughts, conduct and habits with correct concepts, methods and behaviors, and be parents who know, understand, obey and use the law.

In the view of Zheng Suxia, deputy dean of the School of Journalism and Communication of Zhengzhou University, compared with? Word of mouth? Parents? Lead by example? It is more helpful to restrain children's online behavior. The combination of parents' words and deeds has a good effect on restraining teenagers' online behavior, and parents' words and deeds are more likely to aggravate teenagers' bad online habits.

In the digital age, the network has become a new space for parent-child interaction.

? What are you doing? Give me the phone! ? Many parents don't know what their children are doing with their mobile phones.

According to the Survey Report of China Teenagers' Internet Literacy released by Beijing Normal University, 14.76% of parents know what their children are doing online, 33.8% know a little, and nearly 7% don't know what their children are doing, so they can't control their children's surfing online. Parents' ways of disciplining their children online are sometimes ineffective, and 37.23% children will not listen, thinking that their parents' ways of disciplining their children online are rude.

? A common problem of parents is that they always play mobile phones. After returning home, many parents can't wait to play with their mobile phones as soon as they have a little leisure and relaxation, and most of them are unwilling to learn new ways of using the internet and new lifestyles brought by the online world. Children are aborigines in the online world, and we are immigrants. They are born with the ability to use and update the Internet. At this time, parents should learn more from their children and take care of themselves. ? Mr Said to:

Whether doing psychological counseling, clinical intervention, or field research, Liu Qinxue, an associate professor at the School of Psychology of Huazhong Normal University, found that many parents are rigid in formulating supervision methods and always tell their children what they must do today, no matter what the situation is. Parents want to carry out the effectiveness and enforceability of the rules to the end, but children will implement them in different situations or special circumstances. If the parents' active supervision boundary is not flexible enough, it will eventually lose its due role. He suggested that parents actively supervise, including establishing effective rules of network behavior, bilateral rules, open discussion and flexible boundaries, and solving problems through discussion and consultation. At the same time, take the network as the same space and link for parent-child activities, develop the positive instrumental use function of the network, and avoid recreational use addiction.

In the digital age, on the one hand, parents need to guide, guide and emotionally support their children on the premise of companionship; On the other hand, in the formation of digital family, we have established the concept of digital inclusion and digital equality with our children, and parents and children work together to bridge the digital generation gap between the two generations.

The experience of Zhang Haibo, executive deputy director of china national youth palace association Media and Education Working Committee, is that the family is the foundation, the first classroom, the school is the center, the connecting center of education, and the society is the resource. Network literacy education is not only the education of adults to children. In the era of education, the best way is to let children participate. Children participate as subjects rather than objects. Children take the initiative to speak out, driving the influence partners around them, thus forming a better educational model and method.