How to treat the phenomenon of "temporary husband and wife" of migrant workers?

Our company is in engineering. I was in charge of a project in Tangshan at that time, because most people had to live on the construction site. After a long time, I realized that the phenomenon of temporary couples on the construction site did exist. For some reasons, some men go out to work and some women go out to work. Everyone has secular desires and physiological needs after a long time, which will naturally form a temporary couple. But this practice is not only harmful to ethics, but also harmful to the family, which will eventually harm others and themselves.

This phenomenon is especially common on construction sites, because most of them go out to work in a place or a nearby village, and some have relatives. Young men and women have been together for a long time, and they have a good impression on each other. It is inevitable that they will cheat. Migrant workers are the most bitter and respectable people. Most people don't have much knowledge and don't think much about things. There are many temporary couples in the huge group of migrant workers. To put it bluntly, temporary couples are cheating or betraying their marriage.

It is also often reported on the Internet that people kill people because of cheating. In any case, people should not choose temporary couples, because this behavior is a betrayal of ethics and morality, and temporary couples are playing with fire. Temporary couples will not be accepted legally or morally. However, from the perspective of human nature, it is also normal. How do temporary couples come into being? A netizen revealed his situation! A casual meeting spoke my mind. I met several times and learned that this woman's home is very tired.

This guy said, anyway, I rented the house. One person has so much money, and two people have so much money. Why don't you return the house and stay with me? At first, the woman disagreed. Later, the family was waiting for money, and I also thought that the buddy was right. So they live together. After consultation, the diet system is AA. The man still pays the rent. After work, whoever comes back early will cook. This looks like a normal married life.

But there is no windtight wall in the world, and finally one day this buddy's business was known by his wife. Find a place to live, have a fight, and get divorced. Later, I was persuaded by many people and finally didn't leave. Although the family relationship is still maintained, it exists in name only. So don't take the road of husband and wife. Judging from this incident, there are many reasons for the formation of temporary couples. The rent is high and the salary is low. In addition, there is a human side. Being single forever is really lonely.

Not to mention people, even bugs and animals need a companion. This reminds me of seeing some migrant workers' brothers with their wives on the Internet the other day. Because they can't afford to rent a house, they can only live in the dormitory with a piece of cloth. These things do exist and cannot be solved. In short, life is not easy, but life is hard. Although the temporary couple solved many practical problems, it was cold at home as soon as it was exposed. Don't do this.

This phenomenon is quite common. Last winter, I went deep into an enterprise to do a survey and found this problem. There are more than 800 migrant workers in this enterprise, 132 stay in the enterprise for a long time, and the rest live at home. Of the 132 people, 2 1 couple are "temporary couples". In addition, four women live at home and have long maintained normal relations with men.

This person lives in different dormitories in this enterprise, but these people sometimes live in small hotels next to the enterprise. Third, people in some enterprises don't avoid people at all. They eat together and go shopping together. Women are very open to washing clothes for men, and men are also very open to helping women do heavy work. When others say it, they all laugh it off.

Don't think that as a temporary couple, one party can get anything cheap! Something happened, it's too late to regret it!

There is a woman among our relatives. I call her cousin!

Cousin drinks all the year round, which is not good for health. No husband and wife, all relatives know that they have been separated for 20 years! My cousin left her at home in order to earn tuition for her daughter who went to college. I went to a pig farm in Xiao Yun, Xiamen alone to cook for the workers.

The workers in the pig farm are all men her age. She hit it off with a man who often helped her and opened a temporary husband and wife pig farm. The conditions are not good. They rented a house outside, and their cousins were full of joy. With physiological needs, the man will give her an extra 1000 yuan. The good times didn't last long. menstruation's lower body ached and itched. Got condyloma acuminatum, which is a sexually transmitted disease. The man admitted that he was infected with the disease with his young lady and passed it on to her. The disease cost 20,000 yuan and has never been cured. Men only paid half of the treatment fee.

My aunt quietly went back to the local area to see a doctor, only to be found by people in the village when she was watching sexually transmitted diseases. There was a lot of noise in the village. Naturally, it reached my uncle's ears, and my uncle knew that he had offended my aunt. Instead of divorcing his cousin, he went to the pig farm and had a quarrel with the man. People have already left, and it will be cold when people leave! It took 65438+100000 to get better in menstruation, which is like beating a chicken with an egg. All the money earned from part-time jobs is used to see sexually transmitted diseases. From then on, menstruation regretted it and suffered!

Yes, what a short couple. To put it bluntly, it is adultery If you do such a thing, if you are known, you will accept the moral accusation of others, that is, rubbing your spine. Being looked down upon and scolded can only hide from crying! So don't joke about such things!

I have seen a real example, a migrant worker, in the vicinity of his work and women all kinds of WeChat. Needless to say, it really makes sense to cast a net to catch more fish. He hooked up with two women as he wished, one to buy him clothes and fruit, and the other to take him shopping after work to buy a mobile phone, which can cost more than 3000 yuan at a time. The problem is that both women have husbands and children. The man is married and has children in his hometown. It may be said that it is more appropriate to be ambiguous, but the important thing is that two women also know each other, so there is no way. I can only suspect that the man is too capable? But nothing is not leaked. The husband of one of the women knew about it and took a knife to the door to cut people. The worker jumped off the wall and never came back. Everything is not cleaned up. Later, he called his boss to ask for a salary. Personally, I think, after all, you are not a reasonable and legal lifelong partner. Don't hurt yourself and deceive others for the sake of illusory loneliness. In the final analysis, this is a bad thing, something that destroys the family. What did you say?/Sorry?

I think it's nothing to be a temporary couple, as long as it doesn't affect both families. Three chapters of the contract. I am a playboy, and my wife is at home, but everyone has worldly desires, so it is impossible not to have sex all year round. Even men can't stand it unless they are sick.

In 2008, I found one from Guizhou, but I said first that it was for fun, not real. For example, if one party calls home, the other party can't make a sound. There is AA system for renting a house, but I still have to pay more. When we were away, we were husband and wife, and we went back to our hometown to find our mother during the Spring Festival. If one family is in trouble, I will borrow it from another family, but I must repay it. For example, my family needs money to buy a house. She lent me 60 thousand yuan, which is not enough. She borrowed it from her hometown, and I have to return it. The year before last, her husband died of drinking, so I sent her to the car. Last year, her family built a house, and I lent her 35 thousand. The money she lent me before has been paid back. In fact, we trust and support each other, nothing. Now I ask her if she is still looking for a husband. She said she wouldn't. She will stop working and go back to take care of her grandson. Find a husband and ask for it. But she is very strict with me and is not allowed to play with other women. If she finds out, she will hit that woman, which is more severe than my wife. My brother and sister-in-law come to my house to play. She also called her brother and sister-in-law, and it doesn't matter. My son is here. It's good for my son. As long as it doesn't affect the family, it's okay to keep it a secret. We have been together for ten years. She cried once when we were apart. Please shut up and don't scold.

Physical needs are normal and temporary couples are immoral. 15 years ago, after my divorce, my colleague introduced me to a 5-year-old lady. We all work in Shanghai. She has a family. When she said she wanted a divorce, I really loved her. Her brother and sister-in-law also live about 50 meters away from me, and they are all very familiar. Her brother and sister-in-law didn't object to our being together. During the period, my relatives in my hometown introduced me many times, and I politely declined many times. After being together for a long time, I found that she didn't want a divorce. Later, I focused on her and her family, and she told the truth. When I learned that her husband loved her very much, but he couldn't satisfy her physically, I chose to persuade her. After all, life is short, and they have a lovely and well-behaved daughter, so they should cherish the hard-won complete family. Later, I proposed not to be together, because I still want to find a wife to get married and I want to have a perfect family. She agreed that I could find a wife, but every time my eldest sister-in-law asked me to go home for a blind date, she seemed so helpless and tried to stop me. Later, I changed my place of work and moved away. Although I was carsick, I was found. She said that as long as you don't find a wife, I will stick to you forever! Later, my uncle introduced my present wife to me. My wife came to accompany me for the last time two days before she came to Shanghai. She cried all night. Although only three or four years of feelings, but I will never forget!

Temporary couples will not be accepted legally or morally. However, from the perspective of human nature, it is also normal.

How do temporary couples come into being? A buddy revealed the details. He earns 4000 a month and rents 400. Excluding living expenses, I can leave 2000 yuan a month. There is a woman near him with a salary of 3000. If there is not much left except rent and living expenses. A casual meeting, I spoke my mind. I met several times and learned that this woman's home is very tired. This guy said, anyway, I rented the house. One person has so much money, and two people have so much money. Why don't you return the house and stay with me? At first, the woman disagreed. Later, the family was waiting for money, and I also thought that the buddy was right. So they live together. After consultation, the diet system is AA. The man still pays the rent. After work, whoever comes back early will cook. This looks like a normal married life. But there is no windtight wall in the world, and finally one day this buddy's business was known by his wife. Find a place to live, have a fight, and get divorced. Later, I was persuaded by many people and finally didn't leave. Although the family relationship is still maintained, it exists in name only. So don't take the road of husband and wife.

Judging from this incident, there are many reasons for the formation of temporary couples. The rent is high and the salary is low. In addition, there is a human side. Being single forever is really lonely. Not to mention people, even bugs and animals need a companion. This reminds me of seeing some migrant workers' brothers with their wives on the Internet the other day. Because they can't afford to rent a house, they can only live in the dormitory with a piece of cloth. These things do exist and cannot be solved. In short, life is not easy, but life is hard. Although the temporary couple solved many practical problems, it was cold at home as soon as it was exposed. Don't do this.

Text/Zhu Ge

My view on the phenomenon of "temporary couples" of migrant workers is: reasonable and unreasonable, absurd but helpless.

About 10 years ago, I came into contact with a temporary migrant worker couple. Xiao Xue, a man, met at a hometown party. Because we are not far away, we have left home, so we have frequent contact.

Xiao Xue was 28 years old, his wife and children were in his hometown, and he was working as a construction site alone in other places. With the deepening of understanding, he told me that he had a lover who was also cooking at the construction site, aged 26. Her husband and children are both in their hometown, and they are both foreigners like him.

One morning, I went to the construction site to find Xiao Xue and happened to see two people sleeping together. When the woman saw me coming in, she quickly got into bed with her head covered, and there was a bra and underwear beside the bed ... Xiao Xue was used to it and didn't feel shy at all. I retired. After Xiao Xue got dressed, we left together. The woman was well dressed and greeted at the door, but plain clothes could not cover her plump figure.

I asked Xiao Xue, do you live with women outside, regardless of your wife's feelings? Xiao Xue shan shan said, he has been out for at least a few months, sometimes a year. He is a normal man with needs, otherwise what should we do? I said I didn't want to find a lady. Xiao Xue said I did. First, it costs money to find a lady. He doesn't earn much, and secondly, he is afraid of getting sick.

In the long run, Xiao Xue hooked up with the woman who was cooking on the construction site. Both of them were working outside, and the other half were in their hometown, so they started a temporary couple. On the one hand, it solves the physiological needs, on the other hand, it also makes a temporary partner to warm each other in a strange city.

Zhu Ge's point of view:

There are a large number of migrant workers in China, who are forced to leave their homes for their livelihood, but they also have physiological needs. For various reasons, they chose the safest and most economical way, which is to find a woman who is also a migrant worker and get married as a temporary couple.

The temporary couple of migrant workers is reasonable but unreasonable, because it is a betrayal of the other half, but there is no other way, absurd but helpless. Although I don't approve of this phenomenon and behavior, I understand the difficulties of migrant workers. Who wants to leave their homes and abandon their wives and children?

Text/Zhu Ge

In 2002, I worked with villagers in a small toy factory in Tang Zhen, Pudong New Area. There are many boys and girls, many men work outside and women stay at home to take care of their children.

Something will happen after a long time.

There is a woman who looks like Huoshan is not tall, but she can talk with her mouth and has a pretty face. This happens to many men.

There's a mechanic, a printer, a security uncle. It's a mess.

In the printing workshop, there is also a couple who are fellow villagers. One is the wife (male) and the other is the husband (female). After a long time, they go out to rent a house and go to work every day. Life is very nourishing!

Later, the man's wife (female B) came, probably because the children at home have grown up. The woman's husband (male B) is also here. I heard that he knew about them. One night, two women tore up a man (A) because his wife caught him looking for a woman (A). The man said she lent me 500 yuan and asked her for money. That woman's husband (B male) found that your business in recent years is not worth 500 yuan?

Then there was a fight, and the whole factory knew about it.

There is also a Sichuan woman whose husband is from Lujiang. It seems that her physiology can't satisfy her. She went out to rent a house with a fat man. The whole factory is owned by Lujiang. You said that everyone in the family knew that it would be bad if her husband came! Finally, under pressure, Feidong resigned.

It is also in Pudong, Shanghai. This time it was at the toy factory in Lujia Village, Guangxin Village. The man is the workshop director and the woman works in the workshop. Because she is more active and smart, she is particularly eye-catching. In 2004 and 2005, there were fewer mobile phones, so the interaction was more frequent. Finally, they actually changed their mobile phones. Then his wife found out and scolded the woman. The girl's brother tried to beat the director's wife, and then the director's brother-in-law came up to beat her brother, and then he fought with her.

There is another girl in the printing workshop from Huoqiu. Girls should never work in the printing workshop. The workshop director hinted at her from time to time. The wife of the workshop director is in the printing workshop, and she dare not expect anything.

There was a child in Fuyang who worked hard and the boss liked it very much. He ran to the workshop when he had nothing to do. As soon as he caught that Huoqiu girl, he just hugged and rubbed it. It was screaming all over the workshop! (To be continued)

With the increase of migrant workers in rural areas, many bad habits have emerged, especially the "temporary couple" we are talking about today. It is stated here that "temporary" nature is not a real couple. In fact, this word belongs to beautification, strictly speaking, it belongs to marital infidelity. Once caught, it will do great harm to both families and even children.

This was the case with my team leader when I was an intern in Shandong. My hometown is far from the construction site, and the elderly and children at home need to be taken care of, so my daughter-in-law didn't come. We are turners, responsible for the first continuation of the workpiece in the workshop. After the workpiece is processed, the transportation team sends the workpiece to the opposite workshop for the next process. Because the workpieces are transported by vehicles, the labor intensity is not very great, so most of them are women.

Our captain and one of the female drivers formed a temporary home. At first, the two of them were more concerned about the eyes of their colleagues. They just wash our team leader's clothes every day. Because our team leader is an "old employee", we left work ten minutes early, just to help the drivers make a meal. After a long time, it is not a secret. The two of them simply move in together and live like this on weekdays. They went home on holiday a few years ago.

It was also peaceful. Both of them have their own places and help each other in life, but paper can't cover the fire. One year in April, our group leader's mother fell ill, and I heard that the condition was quite serious. It happened that our team leader's mobile phone was crushed at work. His daughter-in-law worried that the old man had no money to see a doctor, so she took a taxi to our factory and asked the team leader for some money. Coincidentally, she just bumped into the team leader and the driver, and his daughter-in-law hit the team leader with a slap in the face.

The leader quickly coaxed his daughter-in-law into saying that she didn't see it. The leading daughter-in-law said nothing else, but went home. Later, the leader never came to work. Somehow, the husband of the female driver also knew about it, and was beaten for a while, and later divorced for it.

It can be said that it hurts others and harms oneself, only for one's own temporary needs, ruining the happiness of two families, which is confusing.

I even heard from some friends that my daughter-in-law knew that she was engaged in "temporary husband and wife" outside and secretly engaged in it at home. She's such a big foe that she dare not say anything. I can say "I asked for it".

This kind of "temporary couple" is not a case of migrant workers. It can be said that all classes have this situation, but the names are different. You are like a mistress. Although the names are different, the damage to the two families is the same.

If your friend is making such a mistake, please correct him in time and let him go. No matter what the greatest harm is to him, even if I complain to you now, it will be a hundred times stronger than hatred in the future.

This social phenomenon is normal. I haven't seen the "temporary couple" of migrant workers with my own eyes, but I have seen N temporary couples of underground workers. Some employees of coal enterprises come from all corners of the country, such as workers from Zhejiang, Liaoning, Jilin, Inner Mongolia, Yunnan and other provinces in my previous unit. They all have their own houses or land at home, and their wives work or farm at home with their children. For children's study, no family moved here. They work in our unit, and part of the money they earn every month is sent home and part is reserved for themselves.

Some of them are restless, go to baths and massage parlors, and more often find a divorced or widowed woman nearby to live with. Like husband and wife, they go out shopping, buy food and cook when they are free, and live more like husband and wife than lovers. Due to the high mobility of employees, some employees resigned and returned to their hometown. They can't leave with women. The two sides will make up, break up peacefully, and make no noise. This woman will find another one after a while and continue to live like this. Moreover, even if you have just come to this strange area from other provinces, don't worry. As long as you want to find it, there are advertisements like this on the telephone poles near the unit, and the telephone number is clearly written. A colleague of mine in my previous unit got along well. Up to now, he has found two. He just came back from shopping with a lady a few days ago.

For such a thing, people in the unit are used to it and never look at it differently. A man works outside to earn money, and his wife and children are far away. He also has his own physiological needs and life pursuits. Find a woman to live temporarily, one who is willing to fight and the other who is willing to suffer, so as to avoid drinking too much outside and causing some disasters and social instability. But there is one kind that is very different and makes people uncomfortable. It was this man who left home and gave the passbook to his temporary wife, who would open it no matter how much it cost. There is a friend named Li in the company. Because of this, my wife came to the mine many times and asked to be transferred back to work in this province. Finally, this friend named Li went back to the province and hasn't contacted for several years.

We can't just see the phenomenon of "temporary couples" of migrant workers. In fact, all walks of life have different existences, but everyone is shielding them. As long as the population is mobile, as long as there is demand, it will exist forever.