Mask machine recruitment

Go on with the last article. Although I can't make excuses, I know everything, but I can't do it. ...

Desperately saying "I just want to be better, but this is my ability" can't relieve anxiety and distress, essentially because "what I want" is not satisfied.

Solve anxiety and distress and get inner satisfaction!

Now that the problem has been solved, we must find the source of the problem.

What is the inner "worry and distress"? In the words of the book, I hate myself. So the question becomes: Why do you hate yourself?

Because I have no confidence in myself, I am afraid. I don't want to get hurt in interpersonal relationships. I am very afraid of being rejected and denied! For example, I am afraid that no one likes my articles, that I will fail in confession, that I will disappoint my parents, and that I will not be a perfect mother. ...

If so, then admit it first, accept "who you are now", and then summon up courage to solve problems in interpersonal relationships.

Because it is impossible not to get hurt in interpersonal relationships. As long as you get involved in interpersonal relationships, you will be hurt, big or small, and you will hurt others.

When individuals want to survive as social beings, they will encounter interpersonal relationships that they have to face (this is the subject of life). Three topics in life: making friends, work and love. Distress comes from feeling inferior and competitive in interpersonal relationships:

Inferiority is a sense of inferiority, a feeling of less value, a feeling of having no value or only a little value.

Inferiority comes from subjective judgment and has nothing to do with others.

But inferiority is not bad, the key is to need an upward attitude:

1, we can't change the objective facts, but we can change the subjective interpretation at will. We can't change what has happened, but we can change the behavior of the present.

2. Inferiority can also be an opportunity to promote efforts and progress. For example, because of the disadvantages of academic qualifications, more efforts will be made; For example, because the logic of expression is not clear enough, we learn evolution and write articles.

But if you have a negative attitude, it is inferiority.

The theory of "you can't do B because you have A" in daily life has gone beyond the scope of inferiority complex, which is a kind of inferiority complex. For example, because of low academic qualifications, I feel that I must not do well; Because the logic of expression is not clear, you say nothing and think nothing. This is just using inferiority as an excuse. I don't want to really change, I don't want to really work hard, I don't want to sacrifice time for entertainment and play, I don't want to succeed.

From the morphological point of view, inferiority may also develop into "superiority". Specially boasting, pretending to be excellent, and then immersed in a false sense of superiority. For example, "if I get enough education, I can succeed" and "I am only influenced by the way of expression, in fact, my views are very powerful"

? Adler clearly pointed out that "if someone is arrogant, it must be because he has an inferiority complex". If you are really confident, you won't be arrogant. It is because of a strong sense of inferiority that I am arrogant. Actually, I want to show off my Excellence on purpose. I'm worried that if I don't do that, I won't be recognized by people around me.

Another manifestation of inferiority is "boasting about misfortune", that is, those people talk about and even boast about all kinds of misfortunes in their growth history. Moreover, even if others want to comfort or help them change, they will use "you can't understand my mood" to push away their help. By exposing your inferiority complex as a weapon, you can become "special" and "weak" and dominate others. For example, the common online saying "I just have a low quality and never went to school, so you have to ..."

From primary school to university, to recruitment and job hunting, our success and progress are all achieved in the top ranking, so when it comes to "pursuing superiority", it is often easy to be considered as the pursuit of trying to surpass others or even get promoted by crowding out others.

Although in life, it is inevitable to compare yourself with others. But everyone's conditions and circumstances are different. For example, some people live in wealthy families, have received elite education since childhood, and are familiar with many languages; Some people went to college and were admitted to hot industries after 10, such as AI and data analysis. These are things we can't change.

A sound sense of inferiority does not come from comparison with others, but from comparison with "ideal self". The so-called "pursuit of superiority" means that you are constantly advancing, not superior to others.

Even so, I still "can't really wish others happiness"!

That's because we consider interpersonal relationships from the perspective of competition and regard the happiness of others as "my failure", so we can't give blessings. Similarly, if you change the comparison object into yourself and treat others as partners, will you not be jealous of others at all? But if you envy others' ability, you will be full of strength to act and make yourself better.

Recently, due to the epidemic, the business of large and small companies has been affected. I saw an article "A self-help sample of a startup company: My team and I live by selling mask machines every month", which described the self-help experience of this startup company, just confirming that Taizhou, where it is located, is listed as the hardest hit area and cannot serve customers at home. In such an irreversible crisis, instead of sticking to the main business of intelligent manufacturing, passively waiting for the market to improve, or giving up starting a business, we should quickly judge the market and make a decisive transformation.

Therefore, when there are obstacles on the road ahead, I might as well jump out of the embarrassing state and want to win quickly. What else can I do?

Three notes on the courage to be hated;

Seek without worrying 1, but the excuse is fragile.

Nothing to ask for 2, the real reason.

Seek without distress. Please take courage.