Whose youth has never taken detours?

Having been an HR for so long, I have met many people who are confused on the way to youth and growth. There are college students who are new to society and don’t know what to do, and friends who have worked in the workplace for less than 5 years and want to change careers but don’t know how to make a choice.

Four years ago, I met a very special fresh graduate. Our company is recruiting for an overseas sales position. One morning, when I opened the company's recruitment information, I found that my entire inbox was flooded with a resume named "The One and Only Liu Yu." After reading it, I thought to myself, it must be some "annoying job seeker" who has invested in Haitong again. In fact, HR people have always hated candidates who aimlessly re-submit their resumes. But his title attracted me to click on it.

That is a very simple resume. As a college student majoring in English, I had no job search goals, no practical experience that caught my eye, and no skills that made me excited. So I shut it down right away.

The next day, I received a phone call. There was a boy on the other end of the phone. He said his name was Liu Yu and he read his resume yesterday. I remembered him immediately.

He said that he is outside our company now and hopes to have a chance to meet. I didn't ask him for an interview, but he came to me on his own. He was very sincere and kept saying give him a chance. I seemed a little impressed by him, and I had just finished what I was doing, so I told the security guard to let him in.

After he came in, when he saw me, he said that I wanted to give him a chance.

I asked him what position you hope to apply for. He said, I don’t know what I want to do, but I think I can do a good job in sales. I follow the company's arrangements, as long as it gives me a chance.

I asked him, aren't you afraid that choosing a career at random will make you take a detour?

He paused and said, "Compared with taking detours, I'm more afraid of going nowhere!"

After listening to it, my heart trembled a little!

For such a special interviewer, it took me an hour, 30 minutes longer than usual. I try to find out that he has more qualities that match the company's position. But in the end I found that Liu Yu was indeed not suitable for the position we were recruiting for, but I felt that he was suitable for a sales position in a company of my friend. So later, I recommended him to my friend, and later, he successfully joined the company.

Half a year later, my friend told me that Liu Yu resigned. He went to work in sales at an English training company. Two years later, Liu Yu sent me an email telling me that he was now an English teacher. This is the result of his continuous attempts. He is very happy and very good at it now!

It turns out that there are some detours that many people have to take.

We have read many books, and many people will tell us that the first job after graduation will determine the direction of your life. But for many college students, they simply don’t know what they can do or what career is suitable for them. The biggest feeling at that time was that there was no way to go. When you have no way to go, try taking a detour, which is often your best way out!

Even if we learn from professional career planner consultation what career is suitable for us, we still cannot 100% tell ourselves that this career is suitable for us. Because everything is just floating in the air until you practice it.

So we must experience it! With experiences there will be setbacks. Whose youth does not take detours? Only those who have no experience will not take detours!

Detours are not scary, it will make you grow faster

Setbacks and detours are not scary. The scary thing is the fear of detours. Fear of detours means refusing to succeed. The detours are impressive. There will be no great success without going through detours.

Shi Yuzhu took many detours in the process of starting a business.

From being the 8th billionaire in the country when he first started his business, he fell to a loser with more than 200 million in debt. He returned to the world in 1997. The health care products business he created became the number one in the industry within a few years, and the bank stocks he invested in also It made a fortune and returned to the IT industry in 2004. It was listed on the New York Stock Exchange in three years and successfully raised US$1.044 billion. Giant Network became the leading online game developer and operator in China. Shi Yuzhu said in a later interview that his greatest wealth in his life was the detours he had taken in the process of starting a business, which gave him a better understanding of how to run his business more smoothly. Perhaps without that failure, there would be no Giant Network today.

Jordan also took detours in his career. After winning the NBA championship in 1993, Jordan, who already had three championship rings, began to feel that his basketball career had become dull and "there was nothing left to challenge." Jordan's enthusiasm for basketball began to wane. It happened that year, his father died unexpectedly. Before his father died, he once hoped that Jordan would become a baseball player. His father's departure fueled Jordan's desire to do something. His choice was to retire in mourning. Half a year later, he began his career as a baseball player.

"Every day, he is the first one to arrive on the field and the last one to leave." His coach said. Jordan would arrive at the sports field at 6 a.m. every morning, practice by himself, and do some training before his teammates arrived. Then practice hitting a 34-ounce (0.96 kg) bat forward and back 300 to 400 times. At the end of a day's training, Jordan would also say to his hitting coach: "Can we practice a little more? I think I'm getting a little started."

Unfortunately, his efforts were not successful. Make him the best baseball player he can be. On April 8, 1994, Jordan participated in his first professional baseball game. But after one season, in 127 games he participated in, his batting success rate was only 20.2; he stole bases 30 times and was struck out 114 times. He hit only three home runs in 436 at-bats and had 50 at-bats. The performance hovered near baseball's legendary line of frustration, the Mendoto Line.

The dissatisfaction on the baseball field made Jordan rekindle his passion for basketball. Later, as everyone knows, he won 3 more NBA championship rings.

Later, Jordan said in an interview that the detour in his career allowed him to profoundly re-understand his basketball talent on the baseball field, and it also made him understand failure and cherish success more.

Every detour will not be in vain, as long as you keep moving forward!

What is more terrifying than taking a detour is that you stop trying

I have a friend N who has been working for 6 years this year. He suddenly wanted to change careers. In the past 6 years, he has always felt that this job is not suitable for him, but he has never made up his mind to change. Maybe it’s because you hate changing the status quo, maybe you feel comfortable at the moment, and maybe you don’t want to take too many risks. Because the job he is currently doing is not what he likes, he has not specifically used this time to improve himself and build his core competitiveness.

Until this year, his original company was about to close down. He was going to lose his job, so he had to change. But on the one hand, he is older, and on the other hand, his own abilities have not been improved to the corresponding level, so he submitted many resumes, but no company invited him for interviews.

In fact, friend N knew that he had taken a detour when he first started - the previous job was not suitable for him. But instead of taking action to change, he stopped trying, so he kept walking along the detour.

When you take a detour for a long time, this road becomes a one-way street in your life. The further forward you go, the harder it will be to turn around. Therefore, it is not terrible to take detours sometimes. The key is that we must learn to "taste and stop". Once we find that we have taken detours, we must learn to find a two-way street in our life, so that we can achieve overtaking in corners.

How to find out that you have taken a detour

Many times, many of us have taken a detour without knowing that we have taken a detour. This is better than knowing that we have taken a detour but not changing it. Still dangerous. So I compiled some standards for taking detours to wake everyone up.

1. When your efforts and returns are inconsistent for a long time.

In a job, you may work very hard, but never get the rewards you want, whether it is material rewards or spiritual rewards. When a person's efforts and rewards are inconsistent for a long time, either you have not worked hard enough, or there is something wrong with the path you have chosen.

If you are obviously not satisfied with the return you want, it means you have taken a detour.

2. When you face a job and you feel tired.

A job that is in line with your inner values ??will make you passionate, and a job that is in line with your interests will not get boring. If your work is tied to your life mission, you won't get bored. So how can we detect that our work is not in line with our values, interests and mission? We can use a very simple method to judge.

Think back, when the alarm rang in the morning, what was your first thought when you opened your eyes? Are you thinking about going to work again? Are you afraid of going to work? Are you worried about the invisible trivial matters after returning to the company? When you think about this, you immediately want to sleep for a while. You are still very excited as soon as you open your eyes, and you immediately know what you are going to do today. Today is a new day for you, because it means that you can spend another meaningful day. When you think of this, you I immediately jumped up excitedly, brushed my teeth, washed my face and went to work. If your thoughts are the first, it means you may be taking a detour!

3. When you try your best but cannot complete your job well.

Career development is about you being able to do your job well. Therefore, choosing a career based on what you are good at will make it easier for you to achieve career success. Therefore, ability is the basis of career development. If you try your best but still cannot do your job well, it means that you may not have the talent for this profession. Even if you stay in this profession for a long time, you will not be able to achieve the achievements that others can easily achieve.

For example, I have a friend who has practiced guitar for three years, but unfortunately has no musical talent, so no matter how hard I try, I cannot achieve the level of Jay Chou. He once wanted to make music his lifelong ideal, but when you are not good at it, you cannot do it better than others. Therefore, it is difficult to achieve greater achievements.

So he knew immediately that he had taken a detour, and he quickly changed careers. He once felt that he was not suitable for pursuing the path of music, but he would not give up until he tried. After he tried it, he finally knew that he was really not suitable. But he did not stay away from music, because he became a music teacher.

What we must know about detours

If we had not experienced many things, we would not be willing to accept them! Because no matter how good or big the cake others draw for you, or how thrilling they describe the workplace, only you can know it by experiencing it. However, life does not allow you to take detours often. Therefore, regarding detours, you must do the following points so that detours will not become factors that hinder your career development.

1. Shorten the time of trial and error.

It doesn’t matter if you are already on the wrong road. The key is whether you are still moving in the wrong direction? Therefore, we must learn to judge whether we have taken a detour and quickly correct our mistakes. What are the most important capabilities in the 21st century? It is the ability to cope with changes. Strong people have a strong ability to correct mistakes in life. They can quickly grab what they want in an environment where information changes rapidly, and boldly give up the choices that seem good but are not suitable for them, thereby shortening the trial and error time. . Many people feel that they may not be able to find a career that suits them even if they spend their entire lives.

But can it really be found? You may have never looked for it seriously, but stayed in the wrong direction for a long time.

2. Reduce the number of trials and errors.

The sooner you find a career niche that suits you, the sooner you can achieve success. However, for many people, they are not so lucky. You may change jobs three times a year. Such frequent trial and error will not be beneficial to your future development. Therefore, we can try and make mistakes, but before starting any career, we must do a good analysis and career planning, and do not blindly change careers.

3. Let every detour leave you with wealth that will allow you to grow.

Many people have taken many detours, but never learned any lessons, so they are always taking detours. Shi Yuzhu said: "As those of us who have failed, or at least have had the experience of failure, we should always learn something from it. People cannot learn anything when they are successful. When people are in good times, when they are successful, they sink. If you don’t put your mind down, what you summarize will naturally be very false. Only when you fail, the lessons you summarize will be profound and true.”

How to make detours an asset for our growth is a question that each of us needs to think about. No experience is wasted. When they go through detours, they will be able to know more clearly what they like and want, making them more determined in their next choice and more likely to succeed!

Taking detours is the best time for you to increase your value!

Everyone will go in a direction far away from the goal for a period of time, but no matter how far you deviate, as long as you never give up, you will eventually be on the right path. Whose youth has not taken detours, and who has not wandered at the crossroads of life, confused and desperate? However, no matter how tortuous the road is, please have hope. "Thousands of sails pass by the side of the sinking boat, and thousands of spring trees stand in front of the diseased trees." This is because there is no tomorrow that cannot be reached in this world. All we need to do is to be grateful, smile, and live confidently with our chests raised.