What is the wedding custom in Gaozhou? What do bridesmaids need to do?

Bride's side

The custom of wedding in Gaozhou is to give candy to the whole village when marrying a girl (this kind of food is difficult to explain. According to Guangzhou and Hong Kong, tea and fruit are relatively close foods. The simple process is to add flour and flour, roll it into thin slices, add mung beans, pork and other fillings, put them in a mold, and put them on the leaves of Poirot or banana when steaming. Not just weddings, Chinese New Year, or some important festivals. Please come to my house and try it in the future. Because tomorrow is the highlight, I just ate something at my aunt's house and went back to the hotel to rest.

The next day, I came to my aunt's house early. After breakfast, several sisters were busy, putting on makeup and planning how to play the groom's game.

Pick up the bride (in a sedan chair) for the wedding.

Of course, if the groom wants to meet the bride at the door, it will be profitable to open the door. There will inevitably be obstacles from sisters in the future. We thought about the game of "four wins" and came up with the concept of "three obedience and four virtues", which is not Peter's. "Side" eats, drinks and dances.

Drink cola with bitter tea, vinegar and soy sauce. Originally, I wanted to add spicy, sweet and sour, but the bride looked miserable and said, put more coke! Hehe, the bride begged and let the groom go.

Food-that is, the small cake is added with pepper, and the small cake can be eaten one at a time, which hides the pepper well. Seeing this, the bride said to herself lightly, fortunately, she is used to eating spicy food at ordinary times.

Singing-that is, singing nine love songs for a long time with good intentions.

Dance-one dance, of course, and nine dances. Hehe, this dance was shown to many relatives and friends in the living room after entering the gate.

This groom really has nothing to say. All projects will not lose money, so we should do it one by one to make a good start and benefit the market. The weather is cool. I have never seen such a cooperative groom and brother. In the end, I didn't play much, so his brother was much lazier and didn't share it with the groom. Moreover, the elders at home are watching the time, always reminding me not to play for too long, and I will miss the auspicious time. Finally, after reading the declaration of love aloud, the groom entered the bride's room as he wished.

At this time, the custom in Guangzhou is to find the bride's shoes, take her out of the boudoir, worship the gods, pour tea for the elders, and then the bride goes home.

From this time on, the customs of Guangzhou and Gaozhou began to be different.

After the groom enters the boudoir to meet the bride, (Note: The boudoir here is not the bride's room, but her mother's room. As the saying goes, "A woman leaves her mother's home", and she takes the bride out to worship God. After the worship, she goes back to her room and can't stay in the living room any longer. Afterwards, relatives and friends were divided into two groups, one group helped the bride prepare the dowry and the other group ate.

Eating is also a custom in Gaozhou, that is, before the bride gets married, relatives and friends have a meal at home. What do you mean? I forgot to ask. Some relatives and friends may not be available for dinner at night.

The dowry now is different from before, that is, beds, boxes, buckets, washbasins, toiletries, sewing supplies and so on. It's a long list, because it's all women workers and so on. There used to be furniture and stuff. When I was a child, the wedding cars were all tool cars, with the couple sitting in front and the dowry in the back compartment, and the compartment was not closed. Better show passers-by the dowry in the carriage. Hehe, it reminds me of the team that Volkswagen moved.

What's interesting is the bed. You have to put a lot of intentional things in the quilt.

Like a pair of gourds-meaning giving birth to a baby boy;

Five red envelopes-meaning that five children have been admitted, that is, women had better have five boys, and all five have won the first prize, meaning that five children have been admitted. At that time, there was no family planning, and this concept has been retained until now. )

A bag of candy, sugar, biscuits, lotus seeds, red dates, olives and so on. It's all about having children early or something. The maid of honor said that the custom in her family (Guizhou) is that the bride has nothing to eat within three days of her marriage, so she will hide these things in the quilt and prepare a big bag. I feel a little dizzy. Are there any girls who want to get married? )

All the ceremonies have been completed, and everyone is waiting for the auspicious moment of taking pictures. ...

When the auspicious moment came, the two brothers first moved their beds, then Rodin, then the bride and groom, and then the sisters followed with buckets and boxes. The bride stipulates that you can't look back after going out, stop your feet and walk all the way to the front of the car.

The groom's house

Back to the man's house, fortunately, the brothers there did not have the habit of playing with the bride and sister, so they went home smoothly.

The first thing to do when I return to my husband's house is to enter the new house. The couple lit two kerosene lamps together, which indicates that everyone will work hard for the same family in the future. There is a custom in it that the flame of that person's lamp is high, which means that he has the right to speak at home. Hey hey.

This lamp next to it is also very interesting. There are two consecutive cakes, two Zhuang Yuan cakes, two pieces of sugar wrapped in red paper, two red envelopes, and two packages of olives, which means early birth, full house of children and grandchildren, and high school champion. (From this point of view, the idea of imperial examination system has continued to this day)

Pull out the filament in the room, that is, come out to meet relatives and friends of the man's family. Relatives and friends also played by the way.

Hang candy, apples and red dates for the bride and groom. It's fun to play this, too

After that, I was waiting for dinner.

dinner

Apart from the exciting speech of the host after the bride and groom entered the venue, the dinner didn't have many features. Our sisters are busy helping the bride change clothes and make up, and then propose a toast.

Duties of bridesmaids:

1. Sometimes bridesmaids will take the responsibility of keeping red envelopes. Please prepare an exquisite but bulky handbag in advance, and remember to give it to the financial supervisor or parents designated by the couple before the ceremony, and ask them to keep it properly.

2. Remind the couple not to forget the ring, or keep the ring for the couple, and make sure to give it to the designated person on the stage before the ceremony.

3, holding a ring pillow, the bridesmaid undertakes this work, must remember to pay attention to their position, so as not to become a "third party" in the photo, and then help the bride pick up the flowers and take off her gloves. If flower girl is holding a ring pillow, please ask the bridesmaid to take good care of him or her.