Secular, everything depends on human effort.

It is often said that the cheapest thing in the workplace is emotion.

What is emotion?

Emotion is the psychological gap that you think you are the center of the universe, but you are not.

On the contrary, the Buddhist scriptures say: the three realms are idealistic, and all dharma is only knowledge.

It means that everything you see is not the world itself, but is reconstructed by your cognition.

Therefore, the more people with low cognitive ability, the easier it is to get emotional.

As the old saying goes, life is unhappy, nine times out of ten.

Everyone's life will be more or less difficult. If you are always immersed in these emotions, you will not only feel uncomfortable, but also affect the people around you.

My personal assistant Xiaoxian once talked about her roommate.

Xiaoxian said that she left her hometown for the first time to apply for a job in Beijing. Because she couldn't find a better job for the time being and her salary was relatively low, she had to share an apartment with the company's single mother, which saved money and had company.

Xiaoxian, who just came to work in Beijing, is dissatisfied with her work, and her roommate likes to complain. Many times, the little fairy feels that the sky above her head is gloomy.

Xiaoxian admits that getting along with this roommate is not only unhappy, but also adds a lot of troubles.

Because this "Xianglinsao" is very sensitive, if she doesn't pay attention to her words, she will get out of control and even go on the rampage.

Not only that, but also often convey all kinds of negative emotions, such as accusing customers of being unreasonable, complaining that boyfriends are irresponsible, and colleagues in the company are cold-blooded and heartless …

Xiaoxian is a very gentle girl, because of this endless complaint, she almost collapsed;

Finally, I had to change my company and rent a house again. She said, "Boss, negative emotions are really contagious!" "

I remember when I just graduated, my first boss once said:

"Positive people always try to clean up and digest their emotions; And negative people, except complaining, never seem to get out. "

When a person can't control his emotions, it is difficult for him to control his life, and the real workplace, the character of "Xianglinsao", will always keep people away from him.

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A bottle of water was knocked over. Do you collect the spilled water first, or help the bottle protect the remaining water?

People always have something they value, whether it is lost or overturned, it is an instinct to have emotions;

But being able to control emotions is a skill.

I remember that when 20 10 first started its business, I often felt great pressure and couldn't sleep every day because I had to do bidding promotion for Baidu and some search engines.

Why?

People who have not experienced it may not know that the promotion of Baidu and some search engines is divided into regions and keywords. The greater the scope of your promotion, the more opportunities you have to show and clinch a deal;

But it also means that the more expensive your promotion costs.

I was born in an ordinary family in Qingdao, all working-class. I didn't see much of the world at that time, just an ordinary child.

The promotion fee of 20 10 is 5000 yuan a day, which is the source of all my anxiety.

Every day, the expenses are spent, and recording the utilization rate of expenses every day, whether it is the bounce rate or the transaction rate, is something I can no longer struggle with.

At that time, I was very confused and didn't know how to make up for the expenses spent and the lost investment.

Until one day, my father came to see me He asked me, what is your investment cost for one month?

Me: "A month is about 65,438+10,000 yuan, which will be adjusted in different off-seasons."

Dad: "How much money do you have left this month?"

Me: "I spent 20 thousand, and I jumped out. I consulted and didn't buy it …" "

Dad: "I asked you how much money you have left this month to tell you that this month has just begun, even this year's promotion has just begun;"

What you have to do is to be optimistic about the remaining capital in your basket, rather than obsessing about how much you have lost;

Doing business is unprofitable. Everything is the same. If you cling to what you have lost, you will fail in everything you do! "

Indeed, people are always obsessed with what they have lost, but in the process of losing, they forget that they still have a lot of things.

We always lament the lack and sadness, but forget that we are the ones who should create happiness for ourselves.

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Kazuo inamori once said, "Don't feel meaningless when you succeed."

I'm impressed.

I saw this conversation in a circle of friends the other day:

The students of Lakeside University asked Cai Chongxin, Alibaba's permanent partner:

"What's the saddest thing for you these years?"

His answer was to the effect that:

"Are you asking something sad or something difficult to handle? As if nothing sad, just experienced some difficult things ... "

The greatness is: there is nothing sad, and everything is difficult to handle at most.

Work is work, not personal feelings.

Ma Dong is a very successful entrepreneur. He resigned as the host of CCTV and set up his own studio.

Miwei Media, a subsidiary of Miwei Media, has successively released Romance, Qi Qi Da Hui, The Temptation of Dinner and Summer of the Band, with a valuation of several billion.

Ma Dong said that his company has recruited many employees and interns, but he will attach great importance to one detail when assessing, that is:

Does this person feel that "things come first"? And has always advocated that employees should have the consciousness of "putting things first".

What is "birds of a feather flock together"?

In other words, since I have come to work, things in my life are another matter. Don't bring too many emotions in your life to work.

Resolving contradictions in the face of contradictions, solving difficulties in the face of difficulties, and not bringing emotions into it, this is "everything depends on human effort."

If you put emotions first when you encounter something, such a person is "people are in advance", then he still needs to grow up.

Although there are so many people cursing, I still want to say that what Xu said is really reasonable.

Imagine what a terrible thing it is to be a colleague with someone who is "ahead":

Breaking up with her boyfriend, she wants to show her face to the following people; Had a quarrel with her parents, and she smashed her cell phone directly in the office.

As long as he is in a bad mood, he won't answer your phone even if you need him for work.

He puts personal feelings first. When she meets a little problem, her first thought is not to solve it, but to complain, pass the buck, or simply escape …

When you meet such a colleague, you can't temporarily change people for emergency projects. When he is in a bad mood, everyone can't comfort him and his work can't advance. You can only do something urgent. Is this still work?

Go back to kindergarten.

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There is such a passage in the Capital of Life:

At any time, a person should not be a slave to his emotions, and all actions should not be subject to his emotions, but should be controlled in turn.

Whether at work or in life, if your heart is chaotic, you will see that the world is chaotic.

As we grow older, we understand more and more that emotions can't help us solve any problems.

Therefore, it is better to quit unnecessary emotions.