What should I do if I run a quiet coffee shop and am used to heavy SP to reduce stress when I am stressed?

In my personal opinion, the education you received in your native family makes you don’t know how to release the pressure on yourself, so you can only adopt methods like SP, when the original pain cannot help you. When releasing stress, you may even consider upgrading your strength to do SP. From the entire self-report, I see that you suppress yourself and attack yourself. When these negative emotions interfere with you, you don't know how to face the current situation. Learning how to deal with stress, or finding some ways to release it, is what you want to solve now?

Find out the source of stress

To deal with stress, you first have to find out , what makes you stressed? Is it worries about business, family factors, or maybe I don’t have any other interests? This requires you to search carefully, be aware of it, find out what is affecting you and create stress, and record it on paper. Find out what triggers negative feelings of anxiety in you. Get to know the root cause of your stress. Is it because of living conditions, interpersonal relationships, or family of origin? Only when you understand the true source of your anxiety and stress can you develop strategies to deal with your worries.

Focus on what problem you most want to solve at the moment. The business conditions of Jingba, your lack of plans for the future, and other things, what made you feel great pressure? You can try to write down what happened to you on a piece of paper and see what problems you need to solve. Then rank the importance of things according to your own feelings, and find out the problems you most want to solve at the moment.

After you find the problem you most want to solve, you can see if you can solve this stress source. If you can't solve it yourself, can you ask someone to solve it? Then see if there are any resources around you that can help you solve this problem? You can try to discuss it with your family members to see if there is any way to help you solve this problem. When facing the anxiety caused by stress, learn to breathe deeply. Taking a few minutes to breathe deeply can help you calm down and concentrate on solving the anxiety-provoking situation.

When taking a deep breath, it is best to sit there quietly in a relatively quiet environment, doing nothing or thinking about anything, just feeling the breathing in and out. Deep breathing can help people relax their mind. If you encounter stress, you can quickly adjust your state by breathing for a few minutes.

List the worst outcomes

What is the worst outcome and what is the most unacceptable outcome for you? List them all and see if you have any strategies to deal with them, or if you really can't accept them. Instead of you being anxious here, worrying about this and that, facing these unknown pressures, it is better to list the worst consequences yourself and prepare coping strategies as early as possible. When it really happens, you will also respond according to the strategies. If you deal with it, will your stress become less severe?

Look at the pressure you need to face. Is it really beyond your control? If you can control it, will your stress be reduced? What you need to know is that there are always more solutions than difficulties. A gentleman in Tian Xingjian strives to constantly strive for self-improvement and wants good results. Only by constantly facing the true self and pursuing a good self can we get good results.

Watch your mantra

To help you turn negative emotions into positive ones, replace these negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, replace “bad” with “bad” or “can still be improved,” and replace “disaster” with “challenge” or “inconvenience.” Constantly remind yourself to "calm down and keep working hard", "this will definitely be accomplished", "go all out and achieve success" or "I will accept things that cannot be changed."

Regular activities reduce stress

An effective way to resist stressful emotions is to get active. If you want to get rid of stress and make yourself happy, then please get active, go outdoors, get in touch with fresh air and sunshine, and let yourself move.

During exercise, blood circulation will be accelerated, and the brain will feel more comfortable when it receives sufficient oxygen, which relieves the tension in the nervous system. During exercise, the brain will secrete a happy substance, and you will experience this feeling after exercising. This will encourage you to use exercise to dispel stress. Going out and participating in some activities regularly can not only relieve stress, but also help you explore new interests and find ways to relieve stress in new interests. When you can devote yourself to new interests, you may be able to shift your current stress, and even find new ways to help you calm down now!