Love my God course? First morning interaction? Looking for gifts from suffering? Note arrangement

On the first morning of the course, I love God, and I interactively seek gifts from suffering and organize my notes.

The first kind is the pain that cannot be changed.

This kind of suffering is caused by natural laws such as birth and death, natural disasters and man-made disasters.

So we can only accept suffering.

[Rose] The second kind is called other sufferings.

What about other pains? You may find it strange. Do you have all this?

But why do I only put it in this category?

Because this has a * * * nature, this * * * nature, in fact, our understanding makes us painful.

These pains are not real pains, but are caused by our understanding.

When our husband offered to divorce us. Many people think this is their own hardship.

But if, I mean, if it really happened, you would have wanted to leave him. You were actually very happy when he asked you for a divorce. You don't think of this as pain.

So why do we feel differently when the same thing happens in different situations?

In fact, what is different is our understanding.

A notable feature is that, for example, it is very cold. It was the rainy days for several days that caused the clothes to dry.

This kind of suffering can only be said to be a small suffering, right?

Many people will complain about such small sufferings, which are determined by God and cannot be changed.

You will find many such people around you, even saying such things.

Gee, it has been raining for several days. How painful I am, how difficult it is to dry clothes at home, and how uncomfortable it is.

I haven't said such a thing for many years. I didn't mean not to say it, because in fact, some difficulties in my heart were decided by God. Then there is no need to say it, because you have said this sentence, which is useless.

All our parents who have taken the Happy Woman class know that dreams come true and the law of attraction.

When you complain, you are in a state of low energy, and your mood will be bad, so it will attract some bad things and consume your energy.

Judgment will bring energy consumption and attract more low-energy things.

So you may find that people who don't like rainy days always seem to have a lot of unpleasant things happening in rainy days.

God will not be merciful to this.

So I don't say these words. I won't spend any energy on these situations, and I won't even think about them myself.

These are impossible to change, so don't even think about it, just accept it. [yi tooth]

Thinking too much will only consume your energy [love]

What about the other one? The other is other sufferings.

I won't go to the detailed classification with you anymore. Investigate its reason, boil down to one kind, it is our understanding, let us suffer.

What has happened is over. Is it useful to fight the past? You will only waste your energy in vain.

You can think about this problem. Users who ask this question have both acceptance and rejection in their hearts. These two choices, but do you really have two choices?

See what Director Ma says. Director Ma said, do you still have the right not to accept such a bad thing? Do you want to kill yourself? Then, or I break up with my children, is that acceptable?

Son, he can't get into high school. Whether to accept it or not has no effect on this matter at all.

Case: My husband Ge You is lying on the sofa relaxing. I was overwhelmed by two children, and my husband turned a blind eye.

Besides being angry and unhappy, what reaction can we choose?

Stephen Covey, he once said.

In other words, there is still a space between stimulus and response called choice.

Let's write this down first. This sentence is worth savoring.

Let's start with a case. This is American President Roosevelt. He used to have a case where his home was stolen and stolen. As for his friend, he wrote to comfort him. He said you were sad and told him not to be sad. He wrote back, he wrote back, he said so, he said me. I'm glad I'm not sad. Then, he wrote down three reasons for his happiness. The first reason is that the thief came to the house and stole it. Just some things. Not all of them were stolen. This is the first point of his happiness.

The second point is that it's a thief, but stealing won't hurt him. This is the second point.

Third, he said it was a thief, not me. So I am very happy.

I think I'm happy. I'm satisfied with all three points.

Think again, Roosevelt's house was stolen, and our ordinary people, our normal people's first reaction is very sad. Or just angry, all kinds of reactions, right?

This stimulus is that thieves come to his house to steal things, which is also the same stimulus, but what about Roosevelt's reaction? He chose another reaction.

Understand this sentence again, and you can understand every stimulus. We can't choose this kind of stimulation. There is a space called choice. Someone may point at our noses and scold us today. We have no choice but to avoid this stimulus. But you can choose to react. Between stimulation and reaction, she has a space, which is called choice. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt, Foreign Minister

This sentence means that no one can hurt you except yourself. Allow yourself to be willing.

It's your choice. Those who choose to hurt themselves, in the end, no one can really hurt you.

For this matter, many of us. What we did was just the opposite. We instinctively face difficulties and pains. When this kind of suffering comes, it is what we call excitement. This kind of stimulation is brought to you by others.

What is the external stimulus when my husband Ge You lies? My husband turned a blind eye, and I was so busy that he lay there. But what's our reaction? Who gave this reaction? If you can understand what Stephen Covey said about the relationship between stimulus and response. There is still a space called choice. Please answer me below. What kind of reaction can you make?

What kind of reaction can you make besides being angry? Besides being unhappy, what kind of reaction can you make besides complaining and blaming your husband?

I have seen many people make different choices.

Different choices, all good, I saw a lot of people, very positive.

This question seems to be a small detail.

A small detail of life is also a small process of inner change.

But this is really important. Because if we practice, we can make different choices.

Maybe if you focus on other things in the future, it will not be easy for you to feel uncomfortable.

It's our bad temper, and you will find that it's actually because of you, the choice in your heart.

Let me also say, if I were in this situation, what would I choose? In fact, my first reaction, I will. Of course I want him to help me, right?

But my first reaction was that I knew what was going on in my head.

If he doesn't help me. Then I would feel uncomfortable, so I gave up the idea first. Me, what choice do I make?

What choice did I make in that space between my stimulus and my reaction? My choice is that I can assume that he won't come back.

Maybe the sofa is empty, he is not at home, and these two children are pestering me. What should I do? I will take care of it properly.

This is the first level.

What about the second level? When I can think of this step, I want to make myself more comfortable. All my goals are not for others, but to calm myself down and make myself happier.

Then my second thought will become. Yes, he is lying there now. When the child doesn't come back, I can treat him like a child.

But ... he was lying there. At least he doesn't need my care. He didn't say, bring me some water. You bring me foot washing water. It wasn't him.

Moreover, he is not ill, and I need to take care of him and increase my workload, so at least he doesn't need me to worry about at present.

I am even more gratified that I thought of it here. At least he came back and didn't work overtime. Find someone else to play with, but go home.

Think about it, when you think about these two levels, you are actually lying there for him. Actually, you have no choice.

When you choose to face this stimulus with this mentality, your heart is actually very calm. Even you will think, wow, this husband is great. Look, everyone is out playing cards.

My husband will come back as soon as he has time.

In fact, our husband himself, everyone should know, when you are in no mood. When you gave him some smiling faces, he actually played there for a while and felt guilty inside. After a while, he went to play with the children again.

So in fact, many times we have too many plots in our hearts. Imagination is too rich. Wow, mine is too bad for me. You see, I have been paying, and he has been playing there.

Every suffering is accompanied by a gift.

Take the three questions of the soul mentioned earlier today, and we can look back carefully. Think about this case again. The first point is what happened to me?

You can see, what happened to me? At that time, I was arrested. My husband is lying there. I can't see my own hard work and enjoy myself there. So I'm not happy.

Everyone must be very clear, take off other things, if it is because. What happened last night made you unhappy, and you know it very well, just like this one now. Separate, a lot of things don't mix together to consider.

What's wrong with me? It's me. Now, now. Is this the reason now? What's wrong with me? I know myself.

So what happened to him?

He may be on the phone now, what I see is. He is playing with his mobile phone, but is he really playing with his mobile phone?

Maybe he is dealing with a work problem, maybe someone else is talking to him, but this matter is very important. In fact, many times we will misunderstand.

What happened to him? Does he really care about me?

Ask yourself, you will wonder what happened to him, and the answer will come out. Is he really like this at ordinary times?

Is the performance at the moment what he wants to express? All this, you have to go. You must answer correctly. What happened to him?

What happened to him?

I might be angry with the company.

Maybe the boss is noisy.

Maybe I didn't sleep well last night.

Maybe I just want to lie down for a while

He didn't accuse me, and it's no use taking it out on me.

Then what should I do?

In fact, everyone knows exactly what I should do. Now you are jumping and quarreling with him to make him unhappy, and then he feels that he can't lie on the sofa when he comes back. Is this the result you want?

Definitely not. You want him to go home easily. So he likes this home, which is very warm for him.

Then what should you do? This is very simple.

So when we talk about misunderstanding now, we will find it easily. We often talk about these sufferings. Let's look at these sufferings that are still answered by dragons in the group. Everyone thought someone else brought it to them.

Then, I don't accept these sufferings, and then I insert a knife every day. Refuse to forget. So it led to the frequent divorce incidents we talked about today. 74% of them were put forward by women.

Suppose you are divorced. What are the important conditions for you to find another man in the future? When your child is very young. You will find that an important condition for a woman to find another man is that he should be kind to my children. Right? This is a premise. It's no use being nice to me. You have to be nice to my children.

But now the father of the child naturally meets this requirement. But you should give up easily. First of all, you have to deny this person. This is a big bend.

So ... I always recommend everyone. When children are young, don't worry. Don't talk about it yet. I want a divorce now. If he doesn't devour you like a black hole. Don't worry yet.

Solve your own problems first.

Looking for gifts in suffering, was our suffering just a little bit? It is my husband lying on the sofa. This little bitter, he can't see my hard work.

Is this little suffering the gift we are looking for?

In fact, in this process, we found that we did not find the mentality to deal with the problem correctly. If you find this, it's what I just said.

Then you actually have an ability in the future, and you have an ability to choose between stimulus and response.

The gift is: learn to look at the problem from another angle.

I found many advantages that my husband had never seen before.

Why do you say that suffering always comes with gifts? Maybe everyone doesn't know that case clearly.

Then we can think about the recruitment requirements of working years, which often includes working years. He would say, work for three or five years, at least three or five years.

. Let's think about it. What is the core requirement behind this working years requirement?

Suppose we have two engineers who have worked for five years. Suppose A, who has worked for five years, encounters many difficulties in this process. Suffering at work, we call it suffering.

What about this engineer B? It's always been smooth sailing. He basically has no difficulties, and he has all kinds of difficulties. He also worked in this job for five years. The most he can deal with is the problem of a normal person working for one year. He is very lucky. He always solves things automatically, and others help him solve them automatically.

So ... you can think about these two people. If you were the boss, who would you recruit from these two people who have worked the same for five years? Then why?

In fact, you will find that after we encounter difficulties, we will solve them. Difficulties are always final and will bring us extra gains. This is what I call talent.

In fact, you will find that after we encounter difficulties, we will solve them. Difficulties are always final and will bring us extra gains. This is what I call talent.

Suffering won't leave you because you don't accept him. On the contrary, he will stay until you accept him. Before he left.

As a living horse doctor, Dead Horse should practice his hands first in this marriage to improve his own problems. Then give up. It doesn't matter. I can swim to the next swimming pool or to a better swimming pool. It's okay.

Sometimes we resist suffering. You see, when we wish the New Year, we all say it's smooth sailing, right? Everything goes well.

Everyone says so, but suppose there is one person. I have been fascinated by this spell, and everything is going well. You think this man has been working for five years, and you are not hurting her? [Laughter]

You said that you had a smooth sailing in the past five years, and everything went well. What's your state now? You are still a recent college graduate with good working ability. What is there to bless? [yi tooth]

So I often tell you that when we are sad, it is suffering that knocks on the door with gifts. For example, today my husband was lying on the sofa, and then I was very sad. Don't be sad this time.

You must enjoy it, you must accept it. But many people's first reaction is to resist. What happened to him again, which made me sad.

Don't treat these sufferings like this.

Just now, n people have been victims. I believe that the first reaction in everyone's mind is to remove it.

But at this moment, I want to refresh everyone's understanding. You have to accept this kind of suffering. This kind of suffering, he came with a gift. We must solve it. What we have to do is how to solve this kind of suffering. Don't let him torture himself.

Next, I send you a poem.

Wake up

If love can't wake you up,

Then life will wake you up with pain.

If pain can't wake you up,

Then life will wake you up with more pain.

If greater pain can't wake you up,

Then life will wake you up with disappointment.

If loss doesn't sober you up,

Then life will wake you up with greater losses,

Including life itself.

Life will use the way of life,

In infinite time and space,

Wake you up endlessly.

Living with the experience of life,

In the endless cycle of life and death,

Wake you up endlessly,

Until you wake up.

The first step, we should face up to suffering, that is, you should not resist him. He is here to help us.

[Rose] The second step is to face it rationally, that is, the three questions of the soul mentioned by Director Ma, and everyone should use it.

Although we may not find the right answer because of lack of practice, we always ask again and again.

What is wrong with me? What happened to him? What should I do? If you look for the answer repeatedly, the answer will come out.

Therefore, this soul 30 thousand dharma must be used repeatedly in times of suffering and difficulties.

Ask yourself over and over again and find the answer.

Be sure to choose a conclusion that is beneficial to you and respond. This is what we emphasized earlier. There is a space between stimulus and response called choice.

Well, after talking about so many solutions, it actually comes down to two sentences.

We should be rational in the face of suffering.

In the face of happiness, we should be emotional.

I chose sensibility when I was suffering.

I feel very painful. I don't think he treats me well. I think I'm getting a divorce. I can't stand it any longer, but it's all emotional.

The second is to be emotional when you are happy. When you are unhappy, you say, what is there to be happy about?

All I know is that it makes me happy. What am I happy about?

Happy things are good for you, so stick to the conclusion that is good for you.

If you don't cling to your unfavorable judgments and feelings, you will easily get happiness.

Stick to happiness, and you will be happier.

You will turn yourself into a happy magnet and attract more beauty.

Netizen sharing: No wonder I always feel that happiness is far away from me. It turns out that I am treating happiness rationally ("What's so funny?" Always pop out in my heart).