Can't find a topic to chat with blind date girls.

The first date with a beautiful woman must be very nervous, and I always don't know what to say. You might as well show your affection for her first, and then induce the topics of interest to each other with a relaxed and natural conversation. Here are ten common topics: 1, brothers and sisters? What should we talk about when we meet for the first time? Let's talk about parents. It's a little inappropriate. If her parents separate or divorce, it will cause her unhappiness. The usual topic is talking about brothers and sisters. Talking about brothers and sisters can deepen understanding and enliven the atmosphere. Moreover, if you want to know about her family and show that you like her, it is easy to win her trust. ? 2. Places of interest? What places of interest have you been to before? She is happy to answer this question and will not be wary. In order to make her talk, ask her to introduce you again. As long as you are a loyal listener, she will soon have a good impression on you. At this time, you can ask her where else she wants to go. If she says so-and-so always wants to go, your chance will come. Bravely said, "I've always wanted to go there." Let's go together one day and realize our dreams together? "She will gladly accept your invitation. In fact, having said this, you will know a lot about her knowledge background and hobbies. ? 3. favorite food? If you are dating in a restaurant or bar, talk about your favorite food. This is a pleasant topic. Talking about food, we can not only understand her taste, but also find similarities, so we don't have to worry about no topic anymore. If she has a skill, she should praise her first, and then ask her, "Let my mouth water. Let me eat it some day. "Even if she knows you are complimenting her, she is very helpful. If you have hands, don't forget to invite her to taste your craft. ? 4. Future plans? Can you talk about your life in college? Do you still want to go to school? She may be interested in these topics, talking about girls' student life, interesting things, various honors and so on. However, she may be indifferent, just saying that her current job major is wrong, and then changing the subject. However, no matter what happens, I will give you a good opportunity to praise her. ? 5. How is the work? If you work for a while after graduating from college, talking about work is a good topic. However, you should control the initiative and don't let her ramble about some trivial things that bother you in life. The more she talks, the more unhappy she is, and the more you listen.

Patience, however, most people talk about work, even if they are bored, they will talk nonsense. It doesn't matter, you can at least know whether she will be a workaholic or a good housewife in the future. ? 6. Friends around you? Talk to her about her friends. Maybe you don't know them, but it doesn't matter. She will be happy to talk about her friends, the details of their communication, the time and place of meeting. Maybe you are not interested at all, but don't worry. This is a good opportunity for you to get to know her. Do you want to continue with her? Start by getting to know her friends. ? 7. hobbies? Do you like collecting stamps, singing or dancing? Do you like sports? What music do you like to listen to? You have to ask these questions, otherwise how do you know her hobbies? And she also wants to show herself, so why not? ? 8. Don't mention her old love? On the first date, a man should never ask about her old love. If she doesn't mention such a topic, you can't speak rashly. She may still love him, or she may still be in the pain of lovelorn. When we meet for the first time, don't think that talking about her past lover, enlightening her and comforting her will win her favor, which is often counterproductive. If you want to please her, don't let her recall the past and talk about happy things. Remember, your purpose is to win her, not to wipe her tears. ? 9. childhood ideal? Let's talk about our childhood ideals. This is a very interesting topic, which can not only relax and enjoy, but also enhance feelings. However, don't cling to the conversation. Let her talk. The happier she speaks, the better your chances. ? 10, send an invitation? If she is talking well, her eyes will light up when she looks at you, and the distance between them is getting closer and closer, then there is a game. You can talk to her about your plan and invite her casually, but don't be too hasty, it will scare her. But don't worry, if she is happy, she will be happy with you and won't refuse you easily.

People who are introverted or have suffered setbacks on this issue. Because these people are influenced by their own personality, psychology, and ideological characteristics, when they meet for the first time, they will inevitably face the same distress problem: knowing the past (these introducers have already introduced them in advance), but they don't know what to talk about next. Then, let's try it from the following aspects. ? ● Looking for the "bright spot" of the topic around career pursuit? Career is the foundation of human life. Any young man who is diligent in his career and tireless in his life will fly once he talks with others about the topic of work and life. So, grab some of his "bright spots" in this respect and dig into the topic, and you will have a lively chat. Su Xin is an enterprising girl, but she is introverted and unsociable, so she became a big girl in her twenties and has lived alone since then. One day, a colleague introduced her to a policeman, Li Ming. When we met for the first time, the introducer made a few routine remarks and left. The two of them remained silent and were in an awkward position. When Su Xin saw this scene, she was in a hurry and seemed to say casually: "Your work as a policeman is very hard, your life is in danger at all times, and your family and relatives are also suffering. This is really unacceptable to ordinary people." Hearing this, Dawn was in a hurry and immediately took over Su Xin's words, expounding the greatness and pride of her career from the aspects of career and ambition, life and pursuit, dedication and demand. More than two hours of dating passed unconsciously in each other's laughter. Finally, Su Xin sent an affectionate smile to Dawn. In the "crisis moment" of the first date with Dawn, Su Xin caught the bright spot of the other party's love of work and looked for a topic. Seemingly "casual", in fact, she deliberately threw out the proposition "which is more important, family or career" to examine his pursuit of career and life, which not only effectively solved the problem of having nothing to say when meeting for the first time, but also achieved the purpose of enhancing mutual understanding and communicating ideas. ? ● Looking for the "* * * sound point" of the topic around hobbies? Everyone has his own hobbies. Even taciturn people will speak freely as long as they talk about their hobbies. However, when we first met, you still didn't know what his hobbies were. It doesn't matter what we do. Let's talk about our hobbies first, and then seek the best points in each other's hobbies to increase our understanding and deepen our feelings. Ah Yue met Ah Tong through personals in the newspaper. Both of them felt uncomfortable when they met for the first time. Like reciting lines, they chatted simply around the storm, the sun and the moon for a while, and then there was nothing to say. After a moment of silence, Ayue had a brainwave and offered, "How about going to karaoke?" "Karaoke?" O hesitate to ask 1. "Yes, sitting in the booth, while enjoying the fragrance of green tea and coffee, listening to warm or affectionate music, the troubles and worries of life, the tension and fatigue of work, like a wisp of smoke floating in the wind, will be accompanied by your relaxation, comfort and happiness." Ah Yue paused and stared at Ah Tong affectionately. "Are you right?" "Although I don't like singing and dancing, I listened to you.

Through wonderful exposition, I feel the inspiration and power of music to life. No wonder readers criticized my work for lack of passion. ""You mean, do you like reading and writing? This feels good, music and writing, culture and art, this is a? Family? All right. "When the dialogue between Ah Yue and A Tong was unsustainable, the clever Ah Yue took the opportunity to introduce her hobbies to A Tong first, so as to explore his hobbies. When her hobbies deviated from A Tong's, she skillfully extended the other's hobbies to a broad field, thus finding the voice point of "family". ? ● Looking for the "starting point" of the topic around the environmental atmosphere? Ambient atmosphere is a dynamic, random and rich topic. It is not a romantic moaning, but a grasp of this topic reflects a person's level and taste in thinking, morality, wisdom, treating people and other aspects. It can be said that a person who is good at observing things, analyzing problems and handling contradictions will have endless power as long as he pays attention to the environmental atmosphere. In Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces, blind date usually involves the man going to the woman's house. On this day, Yi Group separated from Chunhui and dated alone at home. Chunhui walked into the room and casually commented on her home. But Yiqun is a typical conservative and introverted girl. When Chunhui finished, she stopped answering the phone. The conversation reached a deadlock, and the whole room was only the twittering of "Princess Zhu Huan" on TV. Both of them looked at the screen quietly, and no one spoke again. At this time, Yi Qun's heart was anxious. But she did lack the courage to face Chunhui, so she said to herself in front of the TV: "Now there are more TV channels, but fewer wonderful programs. Look at this "Pearl Princess". The whole story is a farce, with no taste and no practical significance. ""Yes, look at that little swallow ... "The lost topic suddenly awakened Tan Xing in the spring glow." What do you think of Channel 2' s single-handedly saving the little swallow and Wei Zi from prison? ""I admire Ertai's integrity, chivalry and courage. Now there are very few such friends ... "When Yi Qun had difficulty talking to Chunhui for the first time, she took local materials and focused on the TV programs being broadcast, which made people feel natural, casual and relaxed. At the same time, she is good at using topics to find what she needs to know. On the surface, she is listening to Chunhui's evaluation of the second child's life, but in fact she is investigating Chunhui. ? ● Looking for the "excitement" of the topic around social life? Social life covers everything. You will always have some deepest feelings, words you want to say, people and things you hate or like most, and things you care about or want most in life. Then, when you are caught up in a conversation with a friend, pick a point that you are most excited about. According to the arrangement of the introducer, Xiaoqing walked into the park with a magazine in his hand and met another boy, Ayi, with a magazine in his hand. After they signed up for their home like a recruitment exam, they walked silently by the lake in the park. Xiaoqing thinks that since she is here on a blind date, she should always talk and learn more about it.

What is not talking? She frowned and the plan came to her mind. "What's the magazine in your hand? Can you understand it? " "Just bought China cosmetics. This magazine is very good and tasteful. " Ah Yi briefly introduced the magazine and handed it to Xiao Qing. "Wow, I can't see that you are quite good at beauty and fashion." "You don't praise me so much. I'm just a hobby. You see, in the past, beauty was just a woman's fashion. Now people's living standards have improved, and their pursuit has long changed. Why can't men live a brighter life? " They talked about fashion, from makeup to fashion, from "cool" to black, and when they broke up, they were already like a pair of lovers who had been in love for a long time. Xiaoqing's cleverness lies in her belief that a book always leads to many book-related topics. Even though Ayi is just holding a book for show and is not interested in books or a certain topic, he is always interested in many social life topics triggered by books, so their first conversation was very successful and tacit.

Blind date psychology

Now, there are more and more ways to make friends, such as the Internet, telephone and so on. It should be said that the chances of free love are increasing. But we found a strange phenomenon, that is, more and more people are dating, which may be related to the lack of social security and social anxiety.

In fact, blind date is not as smooth as expected. Many blind date friends will have some problems and need to go through some psychological stages. Let's take a closer look at the three psychological stages of blind date between men and women!

The first stage:

At the beginning of the blind date, it may not be what you think. At this time, you will have some bad emotions, such as disappointment and depression, but you will make some adjustments in disappointment and depression.

The second stage:

The failure of blind date may hit you hard. At this time, you will lower your standards and be willing to meet anyone with roughly the same conditions.

The third stage:

The mentality begins to be peaceful, and you can slowly treat blind date objectively and calmly.

What needs to be reminded here is that don't jump to conclusions when dating. As long as it's not a blind date that makes you very disgusted, you can get more contact and know more. In this way, you won't only see the surface of each other, but you can't really understand each other and lose opportunities.

Blind date transformation

I miss you day after day, stay up all night and look forward to meeting you. In ancient times, the marriage of men and women depended entirely on "the fate of parents and the words of matchmakers", and accordingly the matter of blind date was also worried by matchmakers and parents. It is difficult for men and women to meet before cohabitation. Although this kind of marriage is against humanity in the eyes of modern people, few people divorced at that time.

In modern times, although people have autonomy in marriage, due to the influence of traditional blind date customs, the communication between men and women still depends on the matchmaker. Even if the matchmaker arranges a date, when they meet, they will still be "flushed with shame and their hearts will be pounding" because they both regard marriage as a top priority in life. Once the blind date is successful, both parties will not say goodbye easily, because premarital love, divorce and pregnancy were despised by people at that time.

However, looking at the current blind date, it has been injected with entertainment, business and other elements by modern values, marriage views and social psychological changes. Blind date has become more of a show and a major way for young people to socialize. With such an "open and free" blind date, social phenomena such as trial marriage, early marriage, flash marriage, divorce, polygamy, joking marriage and disorderly marriage follow one after another. To this end, I hope that young friends regard blind date as a serious and important thing, correct their mentality and sincerely invest. At the same time, we call on people from all walks of life to pay more attention to the transformation of blind date today and guide people to establish a correct outlook on life, values and marriage.

From Yuyao Daily Yuan

Editor's Note: This paragraph is about experts' ideas, but psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania in the United States published a paper in the latest issue of Evolution and Human Behavior, pointing out that blind date is actually very important.

The researchers conducted the research through a professional matchmaker company. They found that before arranging a blind date, the matchmaker company usually compares the ideal situation of their "other half" with the reality in detail, and thinks that they are a good match before making a decision to arrange a blind date. However, no matter how well the written materials match, most people decide to stop dating after meeting for a few seconds, and women have less time to make a decision.

Kurban, an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania who led the research, believes that blind date is not a "game world". ? In "speed dating", people are not judged by written materials, but are driven by intuition. From the first sight of each other to the formation of judgment, the whole journey is only about 3 seconds, which is too late to be measured by "snobbish" factors such as money and power. So, don't give up the opportunity to let your intuition make a judgment.

It took a lot of effort to sort it out. ? I hope I can help you! ~? Happy new year! ~ hope to adopt