How to ask a good question when asking questions?

When it comes to asking questions, when reading, I am often taught by teachers to be "sensitive and eager to learn, and not ashamed to ask questions". Those students who often ask questions to their teachers can always be praised, and some students must ask their teachers and classmates if they can find the answers in books, because it can prove that I love learning.

This way can not only deceive teachers, but even touch yourself.

I don't know that this is essentially just covering up the truth of my lack of learning ability and my lack of progress.

The problem of "ask if you don't understand" mainly lies in "just", emphasizing "right away" and "right away" However, if you want to get a good learning effect from a question, you should slow down "just" and buffer three steps first:

? Can ask a high-quality question.

? Be able to express your problem clearly.

? Can make people willing to answer your questions.

Only by satisfying these three steps can we ask a good question and have a greater chance of getting a satisfactory answer.

First, how to ask a high-quality question?

This must be clear: what kind of questions are high-quality questions? -I think it is the product of "thinking+action".

When you encounter a problem, throw it directly to others without thinking. This is not so much a problem as asking others to think for you-this is an escape and a sign of laziness. Of course, the quality of such questions will not be very high.

I just want to get ready answers from others. What is the nature of laziness?

Too lazy to think, too lazy to explore, too lazy to look up information ... You are persistently lazy, even if you seem to get a bunch of things, but your brain is just a hard disk full of correct answers and mechanical steps.

As a result, we are getting closer and closer to computers and farther and farther away from knowledge. There are more and more routines for rote learning, and the results of independent thinking are getting less and less. ...

Until one day, you will find that you have lost confidence in your study and future, and you are full of fear, because you seem to have learned a lot, but you are still ignorant and ignorant, because such people do not have the ability of sustainable growth, but a mechanical tool ability, and it is difficult to understand the connection and creation of knowledge.

The purpose of asking questions is to solve problems, so that you can learn to think independently as soon as possible and get answers by yourself after exploring the thinking logic of the whole question, instead of asking questions and relying on others to guide your work, study and life.

Therefore, we should try to do some exploratory actions by thinking about problems. In the process of acquiring knowledge and learning skills, actively coping with difficulties will amplify the sense of accomplishment gained in both knowledge and learning.

For example, you can search for related keywords or experts on Baidu, Weibo, WeChat, Zhihu and Answers, and you may not be able to solve the problem by yourself, but in information screening and reading, first of all, the perspective and depth of thinking about the problem itself will gradually change, and even some new related questions will be introduced to maximize the learning effect. Secondly, the ability to search and solve problems will be sublimated with each exploration, which is of great benefit to long-term learning.

Second, how can I express my question clearly?

After my own thinking and action exploration, I still can't solve the problem well, so it is understandable to ask others for help.

But can you explain the problem clearly?

Not exactly.

The reason why I feel very clear is because when you ask this question, there are still many related pictures, words and scenes in your mind ... You subconsciously think that the other person can get these. Do you think the other person can read minds?

For example, some boys don't give girls any information, just ask others "one is what I love and the other is what I love." Which one should I choose? "

Well, choose one with big breasts ... ().

So I think this question is silly, and you think my answer is insincere, and the two sides broke up in discord. Therefore, in order to improve the efficiency of both sides, not to mention that your language is concise and organized, you should at least "check yourself twice" on your own problems-

? Self-examination 1: Is the background clear?

Someone asked: Should I take the postgraduate entrance examination?

-What's your major? In which school? What is the current professional academic performance? Which school and major do you want to enter? What are the family conditions? What is the attitude of parents? ..... Four long years in college, but you didn't even learn to ask a question, and being admitted to graduate school can't save you.

For another example, someone took his own speech PPT and asked how it was done.

-Do you share it publicly or internally? Share it with professionals or white people? For leaders or for colleagues and subordinates? ..... These are not explained, and it is impossible to comment. No matter what the occasion, it is possible to be fired by the next Baidu director.

Without background explanation, the questions you ask others are basically invalid questions, wasting both sides' time and energy.

? Self-examination 2: Are the definitions consistent?

Someone asked: What is the growth of my present job?

-Growing up? Do you mean the improvement of personal workplace ability, salary increase or promotion space?

If you want to ask about the salary increase, but I answer from the improvement of workplace ability, then the answer is not what you want.

This is because the two sides have different understandings and definitions of "growth".

Therefore, when we ask a question, we should think about it. Everyone's aesthetic can be different, so the other person can have different understandings of your questions about open words such as "growth", "excellent", "good" and "appropriate".

Therefore, if you simply explain your own definition in the question, the interviewee will give specific answers in a directional way, which will be easier to understand.

In fact, if you can do this well, throw the question to Zhihu and answer it alone, it will be enough to get a high-quality answer. Therefore, a good question can often inspire many good answers and lead to many new propositions.

Third, how to make others willing to answer your questions seriously?

You should pay attention to asking questions to others, after all, it is a kind of interpersonal behavior. Since it happens between people, we must follow the way of getting along with others. If we ignore this point, we will inevitably suffer.

There is a saying that "one yuan is worth ninety-nine points".

This sentence says, if a physical object is worth one dollar, it doesn't matter if it is cut to 99 cents, because things won't change, you get the original object and you can bargain;

However, if a person's service is worth a dollar, and if you cut it to 99.9 cents, even if the deal is made, the quality of the service you get is likely to decrease, because due to emotional and psychological factors, his degree of involvement and attitude will become negative, which is human nature. Therefore, at this time, not only can not be cut, but also take the initiative to give him a piece, in fact, did not pay too much extra, but can get great returns.

"Question" obviously belongs to the latter.

It is very important to feel good in the face of things related to human nature.

So how can you ask questions to make others feel comfortable? Please try to make "four choices"-

? Choose the right person.

Sometimes, your questions can't be answered well. It's not your problem itself that has a problem, but that you have a problem when choosing the problem object.

We often fall into complete trust in an excellent person and think that the other person is Decathlon, and all kinds of intractable diseases can be perfectly answered.

So it appeared. After the college entrance examination, someone asked me if his score could be applied to XX University.

I have graduated for several years, and I don't know the current college entrance examination situation or the questioner's situation. Obviously, you can't get a professional and reliable answer to my question. You should consult your school teacher or a professional consulting organization familiar with your situation.

You see, choosing the right questioner is the premise of getting a good answer.

Do your homework before asking questions, such as thinking about what the questions are about. Is the object of my question good at or has handled this kind of problem?

? Choose the right platform.

Choose the right object to ask questions, and choose the right platform to ask questions.

Generally speaking, we should pay attention to the places where the questioner is active and compare the effects of asking questions on different occasions.

For example, I want to ask @ Uncle Akiba a question. He is active on the Internet, so it is more appropriate to ask questions through the Internet. But there are many ways to contact Uncle Akiba through the Internet. For example, you can send Weibo @ him, you can send a private message, you can leave a message on his official WeChat account, and you can also ask questions on the answer. ..................................................................................................................................

If your question is expected to be answered as soon as possible, it is a better choice to pay for it in the sub-answer;

If you want to answer the question privately, it is better to leave a message in the background of Weibo private letter or WeChat official account;

Of course, if you want to spread problems similar to PPT works, posting Weibo @ Autumn Leaves is obviously the best choice.

Returning to our life, university teachers always leave after class, and it is difficult to contact them at ordinary times, so recess is the best time to ask questions and leave a good impression on teachers.

It is also a good choice to ask the questions of seniors and sisters in private, and it is also a good choice to have a drink and talk slowly, which shows sincerity.

If you want your questions to be answered systematically by professionals, you can pay for an appointment.

If you want more people to have different views on your question, you can ask questions on Baidu Know, Sina Aiwen, Zhihu, forums, post bars and other related websites, so that more people can help you answer them.

? Choose the right three: choose the right measures

The so-called discretion means not to make the interviewee feel offended or disrespectful when asking questions.

For example, how do you ask a newly lovelorn person how to pick up girls?

For example, your question involves other people's confidential work?

For example, we are doing online courses, but you ask me where to download pirated software?

Such a question is certainly not liked and will not be answered in the affirmative. So pay attention to whether the content of the question is appropriate before asking questions. Don't be ignored by others because you offend first, thinking that the other party is deliberately putting on airs.

? Choose the right four: choose the right method

First of all, be polite.

Even if you ask an informal question, you should introduce yourself first. Don't think that others should remember you just because of online interaction.

You can't force others to reply. You should say thank you first. Whether you reply or not, at least people should take the time to read your questions.

Before asking questions, you can praise me appropriately. For example, I have been paying attention to you for a long time, or I have read your work or article, which is very enlightening ... This is not a courtesy, but gives the other person a feeling that you are not asking questions in the net, but choosing to ask him questions after you have learned something. This is actually to show respect. On the other hand, everyone likes to listen to compliments and try to answer naturally when you are in a good mood.

If the question is long, you'd better add a simple self-introduction. Who wants to be suddenly hit by a question of several hundred words? I wonder who asked it?

When the other person answers, remember whether you are the questioner or keep a low profile. Of course, you can have different opinions or have more doubts. The two sides can continue to discuss. The result of high quality is the result of thinking, but there should be no comments such as "Hehe, isn't it ..." "What you said is wrong" and "I think what xxx said is more reasonable".

Second, it can be mutually beneficial.

Sometimes your question needs a lot of thinking or research before you answer it. You have to evaluate whether you want to ask questions or be lazy. If you want to be lazy, you should first consider paying for other people's labor, instead of despising others and refusing to ask questions under the banner of free sharing. This not only shows respect for knowledge, but also encourages more knowledge sharers to contribute more valuable knowledge. This is the dignity and demeanor that a learner should have.

"Usually pour a drop of water, and there will be the Pacific Ocean if it is difficult." Remember: sincerity is mutual.

I remember that many university clubs invited me to give lectures before, and the time was inevitably in conflict, but I deliberately declined some invitations and tried my best to coordinate the time for a university president to help him complete the activities smoothly. The reason for this is that every time I post Weibo, he always helps me transfer it, and he is the first to reward me when I post WeChat articles ... Over time, I remember him and even feel that I owe him something.

It can be seen that if you ask a Daniel, people will answer your questions for free. In addition to conveying their gratitude to him, you can also publicly thank him for holding a handful, or you can see Daniel's good works or articles and actively spread or reward them, and leave a message or like them under WeChat articles. When you can, spend money to support Daniel's products. These things are small, but doing them shows your special sincerity and hard work. Keeping in touch with Daniel may even lead to greater contact.

In short, the questioner and the interviewee should be equal, that is, as a questioner, you should have the value of being answered.

However, I think the most ideal state is that you can find a direction first, become an expert or an expert, big or small, and use this knowledge to contact, ask questions, communicate and learn from more experts, so that you may gain more knowledge in the most equal way.

Look here. Excuse me, can I ask questions now?