What are the hidden rules in the workplace that everyone must understand?

If you have a job with good benefits, but you are isolated by your colleagues, what will you do?

Some people say that work is for making money, not for building relationships. So what if you are isolated, as long as you have enough money.

Some people also say that the ultimate purpose of human life is to obtain happiness. We spend a large part of our lives at work. If you are isolated in the workplace, you will easily hit a wall at work, you will also be unhappy, and your professional happiness will be greatly reduced. Changing a job, even if the income is slightly worse, but the happiness is doubled, it is still cost-effective.

Both of these views make sense if you think about it carefully. But Lao Wang wants to say that there is no need to turn it into a multiple-choice question, because it can have a better answer.

Lao Wang has met a consultant who was struggling with this before.

“I’ve been in the company for a year, and my colleagues don’t seem to like me very much, and some even target me. I want to resign, but the company’s treatment and development are pretty good, so I’m a little confused.”

This consultant is a copywriter. She has good working ability and has done many good cases, but she has never been very popular in the company. She had been struggling with the issue of whether to stay or leave, but after asking about the situation, Lao Wang came up with another idea - to solve the problem of her isolation.

Because, if the reason for her isolation is the corporate culture or individual colleagues, then a change of environment can indeed solve the current problem. But if the problem lies with herself, then even if she changes to N companies, the problem will always exist.

The consultant believed that she was isolated because most of her colleagues were old people in the company. They had worked together for a long time, got to know each other, had deep feelings, and were relatively repulsive to newcomers. But in fact, after Lao Wang learned about it, he discovered that she was isolated because she violated some workplace taboos at work.

The workplace is like a river and lake. No matter how big or small, there are intricate relationships between people, and there are bound to be some rules. Once you accidentally touch some taboos and break the rules, it is easy to be isolated.

Although you don’t have to please everyone in the workplace, it will be very difficult if you fall into an isolated and helpless situation. Lao Wang also summarized the following four workplace rules for this situation.

1. Don’t rush to abdicate responsibility when something happens. People who are responsible are more attractive.

Many people often have such a habitual thinking. When something bad happens, they will immediately tell the people around them that it was not their fault, and they will not think about how to deal with it. Solve the problem.

Such people like to shirk responsibility and have no sense of teamwork. They just complete their work steadily and no longer care about anything else. It always gives people the feeling that "it's none of their business, it's just a high priority". And the effects between things are mutual. Similarly, other colleagues will definitely not be willing to get close to such a person who hides when trouble arises.

Lao Wang suggested that every working person should take responsibility as a basic quality. Only when you regard yourself as a member of the team, are willing to take on your responsibilities in the team, and are willing to lend a helping hand when others need help, can you truly integrate into the team and into the workplace.

2. Don’t use suspicion to build a “prison” for yourself. Being suspicious will only make your life more tiring.

Competition in the workplace is fierce, and it is not easy for everyone to work hard all the way. Faced with the ups and downs of gains and losses, some people will reflexively develop an excessive sense of precaution.

The plan was rejected by the leader. Are colleagues behind it?

The promotion failed. Did a certain leader deliberately vote against him because he didn’t like me?

The leader’s attitude is not good. Is there someone who secretly puts “little shoes” on himself?

Some people find this idea ridiculous, but it does happen every day.

In their minds, the workplace is dangerous and cruel, so whenever they encounter a problem, they are always full of suspicion of the people around them, and cannot calm down to think about the real cause of the problem.

Lao Wang believes that colleagues who cheat others do exist in the workplace, and some people suffer because of them, but there is no need to be suspicious of everyone around you. Being suspicious is like creating a self-imposed "prison". This approach will not only make you farther and farther away from your colleagues, but will also make you live a trembling workplace life and lose the happiness you should have.

When you open your heart and show kindness and trust to your colleagues, you will gain more positive energy and gradually become an attractive person.

3. Don’t show your emotions on your face, let alone show your anger to your colleagues.

Emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and joy are human nature, and they accompany us in our work and life every day.

We cannot control the ups and downs of our emotions, but we cannot always show our emotions on our faces. The workplace is not your own stage, and it certainly shouldn’t bear your own joys and sorrows.

Some people always have their emotions written on their faces. When you are happy, you are as bright as the sun. When you are sad, the clouds gather. When communicating with colleagues, you will also unconsciously bring your own emotions.

People who do not restrain their bad emotions are actually unscrupulously destroying the emotional environment in the workplace. Lao Wang believes that everyone has no right to release his emotions on others. Therefore, a person who displays his emotions on his face all day long, no matter how good he is, will still be kept at a distance.

The consultant mentioned at the beginning of the article actually violated this article. She usually works very seriously and has strong working ability. But she is a sentimental person, and she doesn't know how to hide or restrain herself. She always displays her melancholy and bad emotions unconsciously on her face.

The busy work is tiring enough, and no one wants to face another person's bad mood all day long, so colleagues have always kept a distance from her. On the contrary, a person full of positive energy, like the warm sun, will attract many people unconsciously.

4. Communicate with colleagues on an equal footing. Excessive humility and excessive narcissism will make you farther and farther away from the crowd.

Being isolated in the workplace is essentially a problem of interpersonal relationships.

Lao Wang believes that the best relationship between people is equality. This is true whether it is with friends, lovers, or colleagues.

A person who is too humble will leave a humble impression in the workplace. This may make people feel polite at first, but over time, it will also create a sense of distance. feel.

“Whenever there is a limit, going too far is not enough.” Only by maintaining appropriate humility can you maintain a comfortable distance from others.

A person who is too narcissistic or conceited will also leave people with a sense of distance. Such people are always self-righteous, condescending and unable to communicate with others on an equal footing.

But Lao Wang believes that true strength and excellence in the workplace depend on strength rather than arrogance.

Every working person cannot escape interpersonal relationships in the workplace. Lao Wang suggested that you must keep a calm attitude when dealing with others, and don't be too humble or too arrogant. Only by being equal to each other can we achieve a state of balance and achieve comfortable and harmonious interpersonal relationships.

Written at the end

Wherever there are people, there are arenas, so the workplace is the biggest arena for us modern people. Being in the world, we can never cut off the connection with others.

Although we don’t have to deliberately make friends with others and please others, we can’t close ourselves off and move forward alone. Only by knowing the rules of the workplace and staying away from untouchable boundaries can you comfortably integrate into the workplace, flex your muscles, and gain a sense of accomplishment and happiness.