Of the 76 children who committed suicide, 29 were from teachers' families.

In China, about 654.38 million teenagers die of suicide every year. 1 1 people die of suicide every hour. According to a set of official data, China has been the largest country in the world for many years.

In the age arrangement of suicides, 90.2% are concentrated in1-14 years old, among which 12 years old is the first (40.3%), followed by14 years old (22.7%) and/kloc. In the gender comparison of suicides, girls are much higher than boys: girls account for 72.7%, while boys only account for 23.7%, largely because girls enter puberty earlier than boys and their thoughts are more precocious.

On September 2, 2004, Koizumi (a pseudonym), a 0/2-year-old boy from Changshu/Kloc, was criticized by his mother for his learning problems. At 7 o'clock before going to school, he jumped from his window on the sixth floor and ended his life.

On April 12, 2005, Shenzhen Evening News reported that two junior high school students were scolded by their parents, scolded by their teachers and misunderstood, and could not bear great psychological pressure. They agreed to take sleeping pills to commit suicide, and finally recovered their lives because they ate "fake drugs."

2014165438+1in mid-October, two female junior high school students in Henan province committed suicide by jumping off a building on the same day. It happened together in Nanyang and together in Jiaozuo; The former was criticized and punished by the teacher during the exam, while the latter was suspected to have been punished for a long time because his homework was not completed.

20 16, 16, a primary school student in Huimin county, Shandong province hanged himself at 9 pm.

On may 24th, 20 16, a fifth-grade senior high school student in yingde city, Guangdong province was found hanging from the window of a teacher dormitory. A "suicide note" left by Xiao Tu said, "His parents expected him to study hard, but he did many bad things uncontrollably." He also bid farewell to his parents in the book of death, "I hope my parents are well."

2017 65438+1On the afternoon of October 26th, an 8-year-old boy committed suicide by locking his door at home in Anning District, Lanzhou City, Gansu Province, because his parents reprimanded him for his homework.

? I had never thought about this phenomenon before I saw the data in the China Child Suicide Report, and I didn't pay attention to it. After all, such examples don't happen often around us. But after seeing such a shocking data, I am glad that I can see it before the tragedy.

As can be seen from the above cases, the main cause of children's tragedy is family. A professor in Peking University once studied the life background of 76 minors who committed suicide, and found that 29 of them came from teachers' families, except medical care, civil servants and managers' families, and the proportion was quite large, but far less than that of teachers' families.

Family tragedies account for a large proportion in these occupations, mainly because of their long-term professional habits, which make them form certain stereotypes in their minds, and these stereotypes invisibly shape some children's personalities and eventually lead to tragedies.

First, parents of these professions often think that I am an authority, and I have a sense of moral superiority and the ability to judge whether it is correct or not. So that they can't communicate equally.

They are too confident in their educational methods. Many times it is "management" rather than "guidance". The role is chaotic, with the family as the unit, especially rigorous. Force children to follow their own arranged trajectory, and there can be no out-of-line actions. In the long run, children are always in a state of submission and completely lose the ability to think independently.

Second: under their cognitive system, their professional or social status is a relatively successful template, which will require children to meet their standards and cause greater pressure on children.

They are strong and enterprising, outstanding in their respective fields, and have their own students and subordinates; They work hard and conscientiously, and sometimes even regard the unit as their home and their home as their staff dormitory; They show self-discipline and can't tolerate any mistakes. In turn, they ask their children to be out of place among their peers. At the same time, because the label "XX's child" is favored by teachers, it causes students' dissatisfaction and becomes the object of cold violence. Over time, children become more and more inferior, making friends more and more narrow, and can't even be called friends.

A child with unsound personality is in a state of melancholy for a long time, and any inducement that leads to suicide tragedy may be the last straw to crush them. Therefore, in the stage of their character formation, the environment of family life and the attitude of parents are extremely important. It is suggested that parents in these industries must pay attention to: listening, understanding, respect and equality.

1. When he has a desire to express himself, no matter what the topic is, he should listen patiently and try to give guiding suggestions (don't impose them) to let him know that you are listening carefully, not perfunctory, so that his desire to speak will not be broken.

2. Children also have their own emotions. They will break down and cry, they will be angry and throw things, and they will blindly stop his emotions on the surface. Why don't you seriously understand the reasons why he has these emotions and make him feel that you understand him? Willing to talk to you, and then do positive guidance.

He should have the right not to let his classmates and teachers know his parents' identity, the right to choose friends and the right to have his own independent hobbies, instead of being completely stipulated by you. You are working, and you have your own life circle in the society. Parents and study should not be his whole. Most of children's negative emotions come from hidden dangers buried by their parents in their daily lives. Don't always impose your wishes on your children.

4. Learn to advise rather than command. A child with his own thoughts may not necessarily listen to your suggestions, but his heart will definitely refuse your orders. This is the rebellious period mentioned in the book. In fact, the rebellious period does not only exist in a certain age stage, but runs through one's life. As parents, we should have a deep understanding from ourselves.

Children are a gift from God to every parent, and they carry our love and hope. I believe that when you take him back from the doctor, all you want is that he can be healthy and become a person like himself. Then please keep this rare initial heart. Children need to listen, understand and respect, and grow up in an equal environment, so that their body and mind will be healthier!

We have been looking at ourselves 360 degrees for decades, so what's the point of sticking ourselves on children? Calm down and appreciate this little guy who is born by himself. It's the same but different. Isn't it more interesting to constantly create surprises?