It is better to be angry than to live up to expectations. Your temper determines your happiness.

I once saw a book describing anger like this:

There is a saying: Too much anger is harmful to the body. Many people often have temporary arguments in their daily lives, which makes them blush and make their blood boil. In the end, the problem is not solved, and they make themselves angry for several days and delay many things.

China has a history of thousands of years. As early as ancient times, there was a saying in the literature: "Anger hurts the liver, happiness hurts the heart, thinking hurts the spleen, sadness hurts the lungs, fear hurts the kidneys, and sadness hurts the stomach."

Therefore, a person’s expression of emotions is closely related to his or her health. If you don’t have to be sulky, it is better to strive for success and find out the root of the problem. If you look at everything, you will find that the better your temper, the better your luck. big.

When we correctly understand the many problems that anger can bring, we can restrain our emotions at the moment when we are about to become angry.

Anger is a breeding ground for diseases

American doctor Hinde wrote in the book "Every Day Has a Good Day":

In ancient Greek mythology , there is a story about the "Bag of Hate".

It is about a majestic strongman. Because he is infinitely powerful, invincible and invincible, he is so smug and proud. His only regret is that he cannot find an opponent.

One day, he was walking on a narrow mountain road. Suddenly, he staggered and almost tripped. He took a closer look and saw a bag lying at his feet.

He kicked hard, and the bag not only remained motionless, but inflated bulgingly. Angry, he raised his fist and hit it hard again, but it remained the same, still swelling rapidly.

At this time, he became furious, picked up a wooden stick and hit it constantly, but the bag swelled bigger and bigger, and finally blocked the entire mountain road. Frustrated but helpless, he lay on the ground exhausted, panting.

After a while, a wise man came over and was confused when he saw this scene. He said dejectedly: "This thing is really hateful. It deliberately tries to get in trouble with me and blocks my way."

The wise man smiled faintly and said calmly: "Friend, it's called 'Hate Bag' '. If you ignored it or simply avoided it, it wouldn't have trouble with you and wouldn't block your way."

Although this is an ancient Greek. It’s a mythical story, but it contains a philosophy that makes people think deeply. Doesn’t the hate bag in the story actually symbolize ourselves?

When we are angry, it seems that we are competing with others, but in fact we are competing with ourselves. Why are we competing with ourselves?

Compete with your own cognition;

Compete with your own qualities;

Compete with your own character;

Compete with your own Competing vision.

Although the strong man in the story was infinitely powerful and invincible, he ultimately failed to defeat his own emotions. The road to the valley was actually blocked by himself.

Others can only be angry with you for a while, but if you extend this anger into your heart, then this kind of anger will be in your heart all the time, which is what the sentence says: You are doing it to yourself Do things that others can't hurt you.

Zhou Yu in the Three Kingdoms explained this sentence. It is said that he was made alive by Zhuge Liang. It is better to say that he was eventually buried by his own mind and vision.

Anger is the attractor of misfortune

The famous ancient Greek philosopher Aesop once said:

When a person is in peace, the breath he exhales is peace. Yes, when you are angry, what you exhale is the underlying miasma. This is like the butterfly effect. It may be just a small incident at first, but as your anger continues to increase, it will trigger a chain effect in the future.

I heard a friend tell such a story.

A company has recruited a newcomer Xiao Wang who is very capable but has a very straightforward personality.

At this time, another newcomer, Xiao Zhang, was also recruited, but Xiao Zhang came in through connections, and his ability really did not change anything.

At work, Xiao Zhang often needs Xiao Wang to take him with him. Although Xiao Wang has no complaints on the surface, he is still very reluctant in his heart.

Once, something went wrong with the project that Xiao Wang was responsible for, and her superiors reprimanded her. But then it was found out that it was Xiao Zhang who was responsible, and Xiao Wang felt extremely aggrieved.

So, Xiao Wang was dissatisfied and ran to the leader to report the whole story. The leader's expression immediately changed, and he said to him: "I understand, although Xiao Zhang is the operator, you are the person in charge, why don't you review it, so you must be involved in this matter." < /p>

Xiao Wang felt that the leader was obviously favoring Xiao Zhang. When he got home at night, he criticized Sang and Huai in the circle of friends:

“It’s great to have connections. If you do something wrong, you can get caught.” . ”

Xiao Wang thought it would be okay to post it on WeChat to relieve his anger, but he didn’t expect that this sentence would spread among his colleagues.

Later, through word of mouth from colleagues, it became clear that the leader favored the related households and gave Xiao Wang little shoes to wear.

Later, Xiao Wang was fired before the probation period ended.

In the story, Xiao Wang was indeed wronged and suffered a lot of grievances, but in this society, isn’t everyone’s world filled with all kinds of grievances?

When your foot is scratched by glass, if you don’t stop the bleeding in time, but kick the scratched glass hard, there will only be two results, either being scratched again by the glass. The injury is caused by exerting force on the injured foot again, and the wound will become more severe.

Forbearance is not cowardice or cowardice, it is concentrating all your strength to do meaningful things that can improve yourself and have a vision for the future. Don't be disturbed by those insignificant chores, because this is only It will do you no good at all.

The best reply is to smile

We often hear this sentence: Don't punish yourself for other people's mistakes.

Because the other party’s unconscious actions or words may have been forgotten long ago, but you held it in your arms and couldn’t let it go. In the end, your hands were sore and your body was exhausted, and you were delayed. Important things.

Life is short, there is no need to invite trivial things into your life. Choosing the important and discarding the meaningless is a skill that everyone must learn.

I remember watching a show.

Critic Li Ao has always disapproved of Yu Guangzhong, and even directly called him a "bullshit poet" on the show.

Everyone thought there would be a good show of scolding, but what was unexpected was that Yu Guangzhong just laughed it off without making any excuse.

Afterwards, he said to everyone: "If I don't answer, it means that I can live without him; if he doesn't stop, it means that he cannot live without me."

Watch this time Although there was no disturbance at first, Yu Guangzhong showed everyone with practical actions that it turns out that "Tai Chi" can be done in this way.

This is like a sentence often seen on the Internet: "It is not very lethal, but it is extremely insulting."

Therefore, the competition between people is often not earth-shattering. Screaming, but a gentleman-like silence and no response.

Everyone’s life is not smooth sailing. When driving on the sea, you will always encounter strong winds and waves. Sometimes you will be soaked by the sea water, and sometimes you will be knocked down by the waves. In front of life, you may be unkempt or covered with scars, but These will never defeat your yearning for life.

In fact, human life is just like the theme song of "Fence Woman and Dog":

Life is a ball of hemp, and it is also a flower made of twisted hemp rope;

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Life is like a thread, and there are also little knots that cannot be untied!

Life is a road, how can it be without potholes;

Life is a glass of wine, full of the ups and downs of life;

Life is like colorful satin, which is also a painting A painting that is difficult to describe;

Life is like a cloud, but it often sprinkles the cold wind and bitter rain!

Life is a vine that summarizes a few bitter melons;

Life is a song that sings the joys and sorrows of life.

When you gradually understand that all causes and effects in life are inevitable, you will take everything lightly.

Naturally, there are very few things in this world that can make you filled with indignation or ecstasy.