I took my girlfriend home for the Spring Festival, met my family, and she broke up directly. Is such a girlfriend worth remembering?

We often say that in the face of marriage, women should not only consider love, but also consider each other's personality, family, parents' attitude and outlook. Of course, materials are also important considerations.

Women, on the other hand, attach too much importance to material things and even regard it as the decisive factor of feelings. Is this correct?

Da Zhuang and his girlfriend Xin Xin began to fall in love from their senior year and looked for a job together after graduating from college. They have been together for almost two years now.

This time, near the Chinese New Year, Dazhuang brought his girlfriend Xinxin home. Unexpectedly, Yan Yan came to the big banker less than half a day, and because of the big banker, she left with an unopened suitcase, thus ending this relationship.

So, is the Zhuang family too poor? Not exactly.

02.

Although the Zhuang family is in the countryside, their parents are diligent people, and they manage the family well with their own hands. They built a two-story building many years ago, which is not rich in the local area, but it is also of medium level.

Dazhuang never felt worse than the family he grew up in, so he described the basic situation of his family with his girlfriend Xinxin from an early age. He was very proud of his small building. After all, half the local families are not as good as his.

So it's girlfriend Xinxin's family with superior conditions, so she thinks it's wrong to go to the wrong house? Not exactly.

When Da Zhuang first met Xinxin in college, the girl was very independent and could do her own work, unlike many rich girls who were spoiled.

Through their continuous understanding, Dazhuang knows that Xinxin's hometown is also in a small county, and from Xinxin's usual description, her family is also very ordinary, except that her parents are at work, unlike Dazhuang's parents who only rely on farming and breeding for a living.

03.

This time, my girlfriend and Dazhuang went back to their hometown and saw Dazhuang's home from a distance, which was obviously uncomfortable. Da Zhuang thought it was Xinxin who was so nervous at first.

After entering the room, Da Zhuang's parents were very enthusiastic and immediately began to arrange meals for this "distinguished guest". But in the whole process, Xinxin said very little. Although Da Zhuang's parents kept asking questions with smiles, Yan Xin only answered briefly.

After dinner, Zhuang Zhuang's parents didn't care to look at Xinxin, thinking that they were too tired along the way, and they were busy taking them to the cleaned room to rest. In order not to dislike this "distinguished guest", everything on the bed is newly bought.

Yan Yan sat by the bed for a while. When Da Zhuang's mother left, she asked Da Zhuang to show her around and get familiar with the environment at home.

Da Zhuang was very happy, so he began to walk around the house with Yan Yan, from the vegetable field in front to the pigsty in the back, and carefully introduced Yan Yan's family situation.

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After turning back, Yan Yan was silent for a long time and told Da Zhuang that she wanted to go back. Daqiang is naturally so puzzled that I don't know why Yan Yan left in less than half a day. But no matter how Da Zhuang asks, Xinxin just doesn't say a word. After a little tidying up, she picked up her suitcase and asked Dazhuang to take her to the station.

Da Zhuang had no choice but to send Xinxin to the station. While waiting for the bus, Xinxin and Dazhuang broke up, because Dazhuang's family was far from her expectations.

Yan Yan thought that the small building of the big banker must be good. Although she never thought how luxurious it was, at least it should be fully equipped. The actual situation is that there is no decoration at all, and even the kitchen is the kind of cauldron that needs to cut wood to make a fire.

Xinxin thinks farming and breeding is the kind of large-scale mechanized planting and large-scale breeding. But the fact is, there are not so many fields, and there are only a dozen pigs.

In addition, there are many, many, it can be said that the situation in Yan Yan's fantasy has been completely subverted, which is totally unacceptable to her.

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After listening to Xinxin's explanation, Dazhuang was very angry and asked Xinxin, "What does it matter if my family's situation is different from what you think?" As long as we work hard enough, we will get better naturally. Why do you have to break up? "

Xinxin said to Dazhuang at this moment: "You see, I have been working hard. The reason why I work so hard is that I can live a good life in the future. But after seeing your family, I feel that if I am with you, this wonderful life is still too far away. How many years have we worked hard to buy a house in the city where we work? I really don't want to live a hard life. Sorry, let's break up. "

Yan Yan said these things and stopped talking. She just hasn't changed her decision. In this way, Zhuangzhuang sent Xinxin away, and the two men broke up silently.

After breaking up, Da Zhuang did not show the sadness in his heart during that time, but often comforted himself and said, "This made me see the material in Xinxin's bones and avoided the wrong choice. At the same time, it will also be the driving force for my future struggle. I am very happy. "

In fact, in life, there are many women like Xinxin who choose to break up because the material conditions do not meet their wishes. So are they really too "material" as Da Zhuang said?

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Some people say that this is immaterial, and who a woman marries is related to what kind of life she will live in the rest of her life. Therefore, trying to find a man with superior material conditions and let her live a better life is a rational and responsible performance for her life.

It is also said that the most precious thing in marriage is affection. As long as two people love each other, it is the greatest happiness, and material things can work together in the future. If feelings yield to material things, that is the sadness of this relationship.

In my opinion, I prefer the latter view, because in addition to enjoying happiness, it also includes creating happiness.