I am 32 years old, single, and unemployed: I have no preparation for life, and I don’t even have the courage to cry.

About half a year after joining the company, Xiaoli, a colleague of mine who was a long time ago, contacted me on the phone. She probably wanted to talk about her work life and just wanted to find someone to chat with and complain about.

In fact, have you noticed that there are many people on WeChat in our mobile phone address book, but there are only a few people you can chat with when you pick up the phone.

Life is not easy to be difficult, and there are many times when our emotions cannot be vented and resolved. Hence the helplessness, helplessness and collapse of adults.

Xiaoli told me a lot about the current situation of the company. Her goal in finding a job was high salary, but after participating in the interview, she found that their recruitment information did not match the actual situation of the company. She was very, very angry.

So I could only comfort her by saying that that was the recruitment method used by many companies.

So after communicating for two hours, we never contacted each other again.

About half a year later, I suddenly thought of her on my way to get off work, so I asked her on WeChat how she was doing now.

She said she was still looking for a job. At that moment, I felt a little anxious for her, after all, half a year had passed. So I went to tentatively understand her personal situation.

A 33-year-old female, single, without a stable job. Although her family is from a rural area, her parents are enlightened and do not force her to get married. She can spend whatever she earns financially.

She is an accountant. She was defrauded out of 2,000 yuan because she was seeking more efficient methods online for taking exams.

But she did not call the police, but told me not to tell anyone. She felt that she had done something particularly stupid, and she just spent money to teach me a lesson.

She is such a girl who lives in confusion and has been looking for a job for nearly a year. All expenses come from savings from previous wages.

About half a year later, I contacted her via WeChat again. We were in the same city but had barely seen each other. Only contacting us once every six months or once in a while means that we care about each other.

A few days ago, when I had nothing to do, I asked her on WeChat how she was doing at work now, because after a year and a half, I thought it was time for her to work, but hearing the answer made me Somewhat stunned.

She said she was still looking for a job. I was confused. Didn’t I find a suitable job after so long? She said: "No, I hurriedly looked for a company to join, but later found out that it was not suitable. I just resigned two days ago."

She said that she wanted to change industries or try different positions. Give it a try, but there is no such opportunity. It turns out that when I first graduated, I had no work experience and it was difficult to find a job. Now that I have work experience, I can only find one kind of job.

I suddenly felt that what she said made sense. I had been working in HR a few years ago. This position requires young people and there is not much room for development. There was a bottleneck in my current job. I was very anxious and wanted to change jobs.

But I am lucky enough to have entered the current company. I particularly like the current working mode and content. I feel that I have been waiting for such an opportunity.

A person's career is actually related to opportunities, we must admit it.

Xiaoli sent me a lot of messages that day, and each WeChat voice message was nearly 40 and 50 seconds long. There was a meeting at the temporary company at that time, and I didn't finish listening to her voice content. I haven't paid attention to it for many paragraphs now, and I haven't contacted her yet.

About four or five days later, I forwarded her a recruitment message. She was very grateful, because judging from the current situation, I could not give her any particularly good constructive suggestions. The only thing I can do is to recommend her to her in a timely manner when I see some job postings for positions similar to his.

Because for her, solving material conditions is the top priority at the moment, at least I think.

In fact, we haven’t seen each other for many years, and I don’t even know much about her or her personal situation, including her work ability. Sometimes when we chat, we only get some information through subjective communication with her.

I am not a career planner, and I even have trouble formulating some of my own careers. So I feel like my help right now is the only help I can give.

Kazuo Inamori said: If you want to live a fulfilling life, there are only two choices: one is to "engage in a job that you like", and the other is to "make yourself like the job."

The first type is to engage in work that you like. Only when you have the ability can we choose the job that you like. If you do the job that you like from the beginning, it means that you are very good at it. Lucky.

If we have no way to do the job we like, but we must survive, we must let ourselves accept it and let ourselves like the job.

If we really can’t find the joy of doing this job. We can develop an interest or hobby of our own.

This life of a person can be said to be long or short. If we find something for ourselves that we are willing to do out of curiosity.

Take for example what we are writing now. Some people do it because of hobbies, some people do it because of making money, and some people do it because of work needs. But I always believe that only by treating it as your own interest can you do this for a longer time.

When we strengthen our interest, it becomes our pleasure. When we have fun, we are willing to invest more time and energy into doing it.

When fun has value, it becomes our interest. Such interest will determine what kind of person we become and how we live.

So the current stage of life is not the end. No matter what age group, as long as we find our own value and our own interests, it is a new beginning.

A life without preparation is really I don't even have the courage to cry. Therefore, only by putting your life in the palm of your hand can you live your life in vain.