Why do some parents not want their children to go to university outside the province?

Many parents do not want their children to study out of the province. On the one hand, the further the distance, the more difficult it is to see their children, and the cost of a trip home increases, both in terms of time and money; On the other hand, according to incomplete statistics, a large number of college students will choose to stay and work in the place where the university is located after graduation. Currently, many families are only children. Parents only have one child. Of course, they do not want their children to live away from them, so when choosing a university I would rather have my children choose a school in this province.

This is a century-old problem that has surrounded many candidates and parents for a long time: school, city, major, which one should be given priority when filling out the college entrance examination application form?

Let’s have a brief chat about this issue.

Usually, big cities such as Beijing and Shanghai are more attractive to candidates, while small cities are less attractive than big cities.

Generally speaking, big cities have the following advantages: convenient external transportation, good infrastructure, many universities and scientific research institutions, many leisure and entertainment venues, many communication opportunities, and many types of information. In particular, large cities have large capacity and provide many employment opportunities.

Therefore, schools located in big cities are the most attractive to candidates, and of course there will be more fierce competition.

Big cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Nanjing, Wuhan, and Guangzhou with good geographical locations where universities and scientific research institutions are concentrated are worth visiting for candidates.

However, not all universities in the above cities are good, and some are even average. Candidates should not give up a good university just to go to a big city. After all, the college entrance examination is about universities, not cities. A high-level school can change a person's future, but going to a low-level school in a big city may not mean a better future.

Some parents don’t understand this truth. When filling out their college entrance examination application, they don’t apply for the university, but for the city. In fact, today's society is a society that emphasizes competitiveness. What is needed is real talent and practical learning. Whether the candidates can learn knowledge and have great development in the future. The most important thing is whether they can be admitted to a good university or a good university. Major, not whether you can go to a big city.

For college students, the influence of the small campus environment is far greater than the influence of the larger social environment.

Studying in a low-level university, no matter which city you are in, will not provide you with the same education as a high-level university.

Therefore, among universities with the same level or basically the same level, priority should be given to big cities, but among schools with obvious differences in level, priority should be given to schools with higher levels.

As far as the city range is concerned, as long as it is a municipality, a provincial capital city with many colleges and universities, and a city under separate state planning with many colleges and universities, most of them have relatively good conditions for running schools. It does not necessarily have to be a prosperous and prosperous city. Great city with good location.

There are many good universities even in provincial capitals in underdeveloped areas, such as Harbin Institute of Technology in Harbin, Heilongjiang, Xi'an Jiaotong University and Northwestern Polytechnical University in Xi'an, Shaanxi, Sichuan University in Chengdu, Sichuan, and Chongqing in Chongqing. University, Lanzhou University in Lanzhou, Gansu, etc.

The above-mentioned six universities are all excellent universities that integrate research universities and world-class universities. Among them, Xi'an Jiaotong University, Northwestern Polytechnical University, Harbin Institute of Technology, and Sichuan University are among the top universities in China.

For some students, being in a relatively smaller provincial capital city or city under separate state planning, with less hustle and bustle, can sometimes lead to a better learning atmosphere, which is more conducive for students to study with peace of mind. Education is an investment in the future. Smaller cities have lower consumption levels, which can also save living and learning expenses and reduce the cost of education investment.

However, candidates should consider carefully when applying for universities that are not in municipalities directly under the central government, in non-provincial capital cities, or in cities that are not specifically designated in the state plan.

In terms of future development prospects, if you choose a school with a poor geographical location, you should give priority to high-level schools among them, or B+ or above undergraduate majors from universities in these cities.

City choice is indeed a factor that should be considered when seeking employment, but it is not the first factor to consider when choosing a school.

The college entrance examination is a nationwide selection of schools, and graduation is a nationwide selection of careers. Since you dare to apply for a foreign university in the college entrance examination, and you will be four years older when you graduate in four years, are you still afraid that you will not be able to find a job in a city other than the school?

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Many children think that it would be better to go to university outside the province and far away from home. It seems that they don’t have the feeling of going to university at home. We thought the same way at the time. Now that we have grown up and experienced too much suffering and pain, we feel that our idea at that time was indeed retarded. Wouldn't it be good to study in a university in the province?

I think it is reasonable for some parents not to want their children to go out of province to study at university, and it is a wiser choice.

First, the transportation is convenient, and the developed network cannot solve the long distance

Studying in a university outside the province means a long distance, and many problems and emotional factors cannot be solved by online videos. Good feelings must be generated in close proximity, and no amount of phone calls and videos can replace it.

Everyone must have experienced this personally.

Going out of province to study at university means a long distance. Although the transportation is very developed now, you can reach it in just one day. However, transportation was not very smooth and the price was not low. When children encounter difficulties, it is difficult to solve them without the help of their parents, which may leave permanent regrets. After all, children’s experiences are very limited.

Second, studying in a provincial university requires high scores

Many college entrance examination candidates want to study in a provincial university. After looking at the enrollment numbers and past admission results of universities outside the province, they have to make a choice. Provincial universities.

We know that the enrollment numbers of various universities are relatively large within the province, but relatively few outside the province. In this way, it is difficult to guarantee that you will be admitted to a university outside the province without good grades, and even more difficult to guarantee that you will be able to study the major you want.

It must be said that for most students, it is safer and more cost-effective to study at a university in the province. Of course, a few have very high scores and there are not such good university options in the province. Going to a good university outside the province is another matter.

Third, the familiar environment in the province is more conducive to job hunting and development

If you have deep-rooted personal connections in the province, you are familiar with the social environment, and you have a better understanding of people and life. Conducive to finding a job and development. And outside the province, it is a relatively unfamiliar place. Most people go to work outside the province, and the difficulties and setbacks can be imagined.

Children are the heart and soul of parents. Parents are always worried about their children and can't rest assured. This is just like many parents who do not want their daughters to marry far away. It is quite normal not to want your children to go to university outside the province.

This is also true. Most students apply to universities in the province, which is also a wiser choice. What do you think?

The reason why this phenomenon occurs is determined by several factors.

1. Distance.

If your child goes to college in a city near you, like a child, your parents can go to the city where your child is to visit her, or your child can often go home to stay with your parents, so basically There is no sense of distance anymore.

But if the child goes to college in a far away city, the child can basically only go back home during the winter and summer vacations. During this period, if parents want their children to be like their parents, they can only communicate through phone calls, the Internet, etc., but this is definitely not as cordial as meeting in person.

2. Work.

One thing that parents are worried about is that if their children go to college in a far away city, they may find jobs in the city or province where the university is located when they graduate. The place of work is far away from home, and the children may settle down in that city in the future. In this way, parents and children will be separated into two far away places, which will cause a lot of troubles.

If the child goes to settle down in a far away city in the future, after all, her parents will need their children to take care of them when they get older, so being separated in two places is not an option; her parents live in the same place where she lives. They have lived in this city for a long time, and they have become accustomed to the pace of life in such a city. If they are asked to live in another place, they may not be able to accept it psychologically, or in terms of living habits. Just not very used to it.

3. Daughter’s marriage.

If your child goes to work in a far away city, he may work and settle down in that far away place in the future. Their future marriage may also be settled in that city. The last thing parents want to see is for their daughter to marry far away. It will be troublesome for parents to miss their children.

If children are like kites, parents are the ones flying the kites, and the parents' care and longing are the strings that pull the other end of the kite. In the minds of most parents, there is one thought: the closer their children are to them, the better. The mother worries that no matter how old the child is, even if he or she has grown up, or even if the child has been admitted to the university of his or her choice, they will always be the heart and soul of their parents. If parents were given a choice whether their children should go to a university in the province or go to a university outside the province, more than 90% of the parents would choose to go to a university in the province.

To give a simple example: the admissions of Tsinghua and Peking University, whether it is unified admissions or independent admissions (Peking University’s liberal arts plan and Tsinghua’s leading plan), the admissions indicators are biased towards Beijing residents. students. Therefore, most parents let their children stay in the province because the college entrance examination score is a flaw. Even if the parents want their children to go out to the province to exercise, if the college entrance examination scores are not high, the child's "dream of leaving the province" will end in vain.

Where will your children go after graduation? Many parents almost have the consciousness of "falling leaves return to their roots". When children return to their hometowns to find jobs, they have a more solid network of connections, wider connections, and better employment conditions than those outside the province. Of course, if your child's scores are good enough and the college he is admitted to is high enough, he will have no problem finding a job after graduation. In this case, parents will still reluctantly allow their children to go out of the province to explore and open up a new world of their own.

Many children who go to university in other provinces often choose to work or get married in other provinces after graduation, leaving their lonely parents in their hometowns.

There is an elderly lady in my hometown. She lost her husband early, and she raised her only son by pooping and peeing. Later, her children went to college in Jiangxi. Her child after graduating from college was looking for a job in Jiangxi. Without the mother's knowledge, the child quietly married into a family in Jiangxi. The aunt had rarely seen her biological son for more than ten years.

Finally, two years ago, the aunt passed away. She died in her old house for three days and no one noticed her. It was not until the neighbor came to borrow a hoe on the fourth day that she found the door of her house ajar. Then, after finding the body of the aunt, I realized that she had been dead for a long time. Fortunately, the weather was very cold during the days when the aunt died. If the weather was like today, it would have taken three days for the aunt's body to turn into rotten bean dregs before being cremated..."

The tree wanted to be still. "The wind doesn't stop, the child wants to be taken care of but cannot be cared for" is a tragedy that not only children don't want to see, but parents also don't want to encounter such a fate for themselves.

This involves many factors, and everyone has different ideas. But the overall reason is nothing more than scores, family factors, and parental concepts. Let’s talk about why these factors cause some parents to not want their children to go out of province to study at university.

The admission scores of many universities outside the province are very high. It is even possible to study in one of the two universities outside the province with the scores of two universities outside the province. My child's score is not very high, so I don't have much confidence in applying for a school outside the province. It is better to stay and study in the province. It’s not that I don’t want to go out, it’s that I really want to go out. Parents understand the truth, but it’s just that the child’s score is not up to expectations.

Some families’ industries and connections are in this province. If your children stay in the province to go to school, they will have more advantages for future work and entrepreneurship. Some parents have even planned everything for their children in four years' time. The path has been laid out and they are just waiting for their children to graduate from college. If you go to study outside the province, you still need to come back to work in the province after four years. After going round and round, you have to return to the starting point in the end. It is better to just stay at the starting point.

Mothers worry when their children travel thousands of miles. Every parent does not want their children to be too far away from them. Poor parents in the world, their children are just a piece of flesh that has fallen off their bodies, how can they be willing to let him go so far? Therefore, we do not want our children to go to study outside the province, and we are worried that their children will not adapt to the situation outside the province, and will not be able to eat well, sleep well, or wear warm clothes. Some children are also family-loving or can't live without their parents, and parents know their children's situation. So I don’t even want my children to go out to study in the province. Keep your children by your side, and you can go to school to see your children when you miss them, or you can go home on weekends, and your parents can rest assured.

No matter what the reason is, our parents are doing it for our own good. Parents think more and more long-term than we think. Those children who are still studying in the province should not find their parents nagging them and go back to spend more time with their parents on weekends. Those children who go to study outside the province should take advantage of their summer vacation to stay at home with their parents and stop running around.

Guangzhou parents and children have the strongest concept!

This is related to Guangdong’s economic development. At the end of the day, you still have to come back and find a job! Some parents feel good about themselves and believe that the environment is superior! This is also one of the reasons!

Psychologically speaking, the number of students coming to enroll is not large, and the requirements are different from local ones. This is a bit of a psychological disapproval! We also visited some school stalls from other provinces. Their ideal life has already been preset. Those who don’t comply are not very enthusiastic.

From the perspective of environmental climate, we all find it difficult to adapt to the cold in the north! Of course this is a cognitive issue.

There are also some people who will know about the foreign studies of the previous seniors. For reference! There are several main problems: First, he is not acclimatized and has poor ability to take care of himself when it comes to meals! Second, the fusion ability is not very good! Some students studying abroad like to post boring things and make irresponsible remarks! These are all bad. Our leader is from Fudan University, and he is very fond of Shanghai. This is true!

Let’s talk about another real example. My sister-in-law’s only son is from Fujian. After the college entrance examination, I went to college in Chongqing. Then I found a job in Chongqing. Then I found an only girl in Chongqing. Then I got married and bought a house in Chongqing. Then the child was born in Chongqing. Then my sister-in-law and her lover stayed alone in Fujian. Then I’ll videotape it every day. Then, I got old, felt unwell, and didn’t know what to do. Then there is no more.

Frankly speaking, "Sanwei" is also an out-and-out parent who "does not want to let his children go to college outside the province."

When my daughter took the college entrance examination in 2017, she studied liberal arts, and her score was 60 points above the first-tier score, ranking 6th in the county. This county is a "poverty-specific" county. Logically speaking, there is still hope to go to a "211" university outside the province. But when our little girl filled out her application form, we were conveying a message to her intentionally or unintentionally:

It’s best not to stray too far from home!

As a parent, I am actually very sober. , important matters related to the child's future should not be overly interfered with. Even if the parents have any ideas, they must obtain the child's consent, and it is best if she is willing.

To the surprise of "Sanwei", the little girl actually accepted our idea happily.

"Sanwei" is from Guangxi. At first, the nearby provinces of Hunan, Yunnan, and Guangdong were considered, and secondly, the coastal areas of Jiangsu and Zhejiang were also considered.

However, in the end, she chose the only "211" Guangxi University in the province as her first choice, and also enrolled in the major she wanted to study most, "Journalism and Media."

The final result: The children are happy and the parents are relieved!

"Sanwei" hopes that their children will go to college in this province mainly for the following reasons:

Firstly, , I don’t want my children’s future work to be too far away from home. "Family happiness" is parents' greatest wish.

Perhaps this is the narrow vision and inner selfishness of parents. But this is what most parents hope for "family happiness" after entering the "year of loneliness". It’s just that some people can hide it and bury it deeply.

Secondly, the interpersonal relationships of the "three flavors" are basically within the province. If necessary, we can help your children find employment.

Nowadays, we are no longer in the era of "allotment". Although children graduate from college and find jobs, they mainly rely on ability, but how many of them can actually "stand out from the crowd"? By then, parents will have to To worry. I once saw a colleague’s child who has been wandering in a strange big city for many years, with an unstable job, and it is difficult to start a family without a car or a house. How can the parents not be worried? Who can they turn to for help?

Third, the units in the province For recruitment, most of them prefer university diplomas from the province.

"Sanwei" once intentionally learned that when looking for a job in Guangxi, except for a few famous domestic schools, the ones most recognized by employers are basically university graduates in the province. University graduates of the same level or higher from other provinces often receive a cold reception.

In short, "Sanwei" hopes that their children will go to university in this province (there is no hope of going to a prestigious university), both for selfish reasons and practical considerations.

"When a child travels thousands of miles, the mother is worried." Some parents do not want their children to go out of the province to study in university. The reason is nothing more than one word: love!

This kind of love from parents contains a variety of complex emotions that children cannot understand.

Let me give you an example: My friend’s child insisted on going to college in another province during the college entrance examination that year. The parents had no choice but to let the child go. On the day when the child went to the university to report, he first took a bus and then a plane. Because the journey was too far, the father went alone to see the child off. After I got to college, I could only go home once every semester for vacation, which meant that I had basically no chance to see my parents except for holidays.

Although modern communication tools are very developed, when you miss your children, you can call or send a video, but those short few minutes are always difficult to comfort the parents' longing and worry for their children. Later, the child was admitted to graduate school and stayed in school after graduation. Since then, you are thousands of miles away from your parents. If you were a parent, how would you feel?

It is different when children go to school in the province. For children, it only takes a few hours to get in the car when they want to go home. For parents, when they miss their children, they can spend some time on the weekend to meet their children, feeling that their children are by their side and never far away. This is one of them.

Second, another advantage of going to college in the province is that it will be more convenient for future employment and life. Most of my parents’ connections are in the province, so we can help each other out if anything happens. Even classmates and friends often interact with each other due to their close distance. If their children encounter difficulties, parents can use their personal connections to help their children. In the future, when you get married and start a business, and have children, it will be easier for your parents to take care of them.

When many people were young, they always wanted to fly away and escape the care of their parents. In fact, it’s only after you reach a certain age that you realize that being close to home is truly a blessing. Parents understand this, but children do not.

Third: Generally speaking, the number of students admitted to colleges and universities in the province is much larger than the number of students admitted to colleges and universities in other provinces. For example, Zhengzhou University admitted 7,551 people in Henan in 2019. Which 211 university in the country can admit so many people in Henan. Therefore, parents feel that they have a greater chance of being admitted to colleges and universities in the province.

Of course, for students with particularly excellent grades, students whose scores can go to 985 key universities, no matter how unwilling their parents are to let their children go to school in other provinces, they will never stop their children, but encourage them, hoping that their children will go to school in the future. There will be greater development and a better future.

Therefore, whether parents let their children go to school outside the province or within the province, it is all out of love! This love never fades.

I have previously consulted for many children on how to apply for the college entrance examination. We also held many interviews with parents. One of the questions that must be asked in the interviews is: Do you want your children to go to college in the province or outside the province?

Basically, most parents choose to live within the province, but most of their children prefer to go outside the province. There are basically several reasons why parents like to study in the province:

First, first-come-first-served basis. Studying in the province is more conducive to employment in the province

Many people Basically, where you study will determine where you will find employment. For schools with a low proportion, 50% will stay there; for schools with a high proportion, even 80% will stay there.

A parent told me that he hopes that his child will work in the province in the future, because this way, his family can provide him with help when he is looking for a job. They are completely beyond the reach of those outside the province. His family is doing some business, his brothers are both civil servants, and his grandparents work in state-owned enterprises, so no matter which path the child takes, the family can help him.

Second, parents feel that the schools in their province are better, with high chances of admission and wide selection.

Many parents in Shandong feel that Qingdao University, Shandong University of Science and Technology, Qingdao University of Science and Technology, Shandong Normal University, etc. are all very good schools, and they are highly recognized in the province.

If the score is the same, assuming it is more than 560 points in 2019, you can choose a major in the above schools that is acceptable. But if you go outside the province, you may not be able to go to a school of the same quality, and you will have to choose a second-tier school.

If you want to choose a school of the same grade and in an area with a similar economy to Shandong, you need at least 570 points, or even around 575-580 points.

Many schools in the province have many majors to choose from. Generally, most schools have dozens of majors to choose from. However, schools outside the province generally only have a dozen majors to choose from.

Third, parents feel that their children are still young and are worried about going outside the province. They want to stay with them, but they are worried when their children travel thousands of miles

Nowadays, many students are only children. Basically, Apart from studying, I did nothing at home.

Parents feel that they have gone outside the province. Although the transportation is very convenient now, they still feel psychologically that if something happens, it will be difficult to rush there.

If you are in the province, it seems that everything is very close. If you want to find your child, it is very easy. You can go and support your child at any time.