Talk about your views on ladies and gentlemen.

In people's minds, gentlemanly demeanor and gentlemanly temperament mainly reflect the connotation of personal social interaction and daily life. In fact, gentlemanly demeanor and gentlemanly temperament are not only the expression of personal inner qualities, but also the needs and pursuits of civilized society. In Britain, telephone booths are used separately for men and women. People often see a long line of men on one side and empty on the other. I don't think this can simply be attributed to the dullness of the British, but it just shows the gentlemanly demeanor that Britain has developed for centuries. In Denmark, a little boy wants to go out with his grandmother. He ran excitedly to the car door, but his grandmother grabbed him by the collar. "Ladies first!" Grandma said. This is a microcosm of Danish family gentleman education. In China, with the rapid economic development today, we need not only material richness, but also the progress of culture and civilization. With the rapid development of social economy, people's code of conduct is also changing. In the process of adhering to tradition and pursuing fashion, more people still tend to establish civilized etiquette suitable for their own national habits in the tradition of cultivating the next generation of successors. Modest manners and elegant ladylike temperament have always been a spiritual realm pursued by China people, and it is impossible for a person who lacks manners to show his reason. Great wisdom and great wisdom need knowledge and ability to support, and a person's civilized behavior also needs cultivation and culture to build. The school is a place to teach and educate people, where students continue to learn knowledge and grow their talents. At the same time, it is also a place to guide students to cultivate a good image, prepare for their future integration into society, and accumulate people and things. In a civilized society, to see if a person has civilized qualities, it is often to measure people's manners and manners first, and then to examine your knowledge and ability. This is especially obvious for college students when they apply for jobs. When employers recruit talents, they will meet a person with very vulgar manners, that is, you are very talented, well-educated and blurt out uncivilized words. First of all, your speech level has dropped a lot, and it is impossible to win the first place in the highly competitive talent market. In addition, when carrying out social and economic activities with the international community, a person's words and deeds not only represent individuals, but also mainly represent the image and reputation of a country. It is obviously inconceivable to make a difference in the social and economic stage if you don't practice strictly and standardize and develop good habits in your student days.

Courtesy shows gentlemanly demeanor, while gentle breeze and drizzle show ladylike temperament, which is the minimum content of gentlemanly demeanor and ladylike temperament. Gentleman's demeanor and lady's temperament, in the traditional sense, generally belong to people with relatively rich status and good education. But having money and status doesn't necessarily mean being a gentleman. Jefferson, the third president of the United States, and his grandson went out in a carriage. On the way, I met a strange slave. He took off his hat and bowed to them. Jefferson raised his hat in return, but his grandson was too busy talking to others to notice the slave. Jefferson said seriously, "My child, do you allow a slave to be more gentlemanly than you?" A "dragon grandson" does not necessarily have the demeanor of a "dragon". On the contrary, it is more of a dude and a prodigal son. In fact, behind the demeanor, there is often knowledge and talent to support, otherwise it is illusory. Born into a noble family, without knowledge and education, there is no manners; Born in poverty, as long as you study hard and pay attention to cultivation, you can be personable. Therefore, when we build a gentleman's demeanor and cultivate a lady's temperament, we should not only pay attention to the cultivation of external images such as words and deeds, but also pay attention to the improvement of internal literacy such as cultural knowledge.

To build a gentleman's demeanor and cultivate a lady's temperament, we should expand the connotation of a gentleman and a lady. A gentleman is not limited to being polite, graceful and temperament, nor is he limited to being gentle and not swearing. The traditional virtues of the Chinese nation should be an extension of gentlemanly demeanor. A hero is brave, bleeding profusely, and without grace, he may get hurt. Can he be called a gentleman? In Hengyang fire, heroic firemen risked their lives to help ordinary people. Their faces were covered with smoke and their clothes were messy. Can you say that they are not gentlemanly? Noble Zhu Ziqing would rather starve to death than eat American relief food. He is an old robe with uneven edges all the year round. Can you say that he is not a gentleman? The core of gentlemanly demeanor lies in patriotism and love for the people, not just appearance and speech. As long as one can put the interests of the state and the masses first, he is a gentleman. Therefore, our gentleman education should not stay in the simple behavior civilization, but should rise to the level of patriotic education. A lady is not limited to Xiao Yu's elegant appearance of toothless, speaking out of turn and walking calmly. The extension of a lady includes knowledge, progress, loyalty and patriotism. Qiu Jin, as a woman, likes men's wear and takes revolution as her responsibility all her life. Can you say that she is not a lady? Many women workers who devote themselves to ordinary jobs may not meet the external requirements of a lady, but they are contributing to the country and the people in obscurity and selflessness, and naturally they should be included in the category of a lady. Therefore, our lady education should give a wider meaning to ladies, and should also rise to the height of patriotic education.