You give life a chance and it will give you scenery.

Only when you give life a chance will it give you scenery

Only when you give life a chance will it give you scenery. In fact, each of us is another self. As long as we are willing, we can If there is nothing we dare not do, we can live the life we ??want. Let me share with you the beautiful scenery that you give your life a chance! Life will give you scenery only if you give it a chance 1

Why did you come to Beijing?

When I first decided to come to Beijing, many people asked me similar questions. At that time, I thought of many answers to different people's questions, and also chose to respond with silence to some people. As time goes by, and I gradually become familiar with the rhythm and pace of life in this city, I will occasionally ask myself in the dead of night: Why did you come to Beijing?

Yesterday, when the afterglow of the setting sun enveloped the entire city, I dragged my tired body busy in the kitchen, preparing dinner for myself, a dinner for one person, the standard three dishes and one soup. My roommate was doing laundry nearby. While each was busy with his or her work, we occasionally exchanged a few words. Let’s talk without any pain or discomfort, come and go with each other whether we have sex or not.

She asked: "Why did you come to Beijing?"

I translated the story I had prepared a long time ago: "Beijing has many opportunities. There are many choices."

After answering, I didn’t get a response. I turned around and saw that my roommate had already left. I smiled slightly and focused on my work. I was thinking about today's stir-fried pork with red pepper and took a picture of it to post on Moments. It would no longer be thought of as scrambled eggs with tomatoes!

Many times, people ask a question and look forward to your response to answer questions and provide guidance. But more often, they ask a question just to complete a process of self-questioning and self-thinking. For example, that roommate.

In this city, people come excitedly with hope and longing every day, and some people leave sadly with helplessness and sadness. More people are still struggling and persevering in this city, or are indifferent. , either step by step, or full of passion like chicken blood. No matter what kind of psychological state is hidden behind their behavioral choices, they are always performing their own life stories of joys and sorrows in the corners of this city.

I believe that as long as you still live in this city, no matter you, me, or her, from time to time, someone will suddenly ask: "Hey, why did you come to Beijing?" By then, you will How to answer? It's like the roommate who shared the house, trying to find an answer to a person he met by chance on a calm evening, or it was the self-questioning and thinking that suddenly lost interest. Maybe, like me, I will be confused about the road ahead when I dream back at midnight.

No matter which state I am in, I firmly believe that one day I will find the answer. Just like me today, after living alone in this city for nine months, I found my own answer: in order not to lose my passion for life.

In the past nine months, I have also imagined how my life would continue if I had never come to Beijing. Maybe I would be working in a state-owned enterprise that was glamorous on the outside but boring in reality. In a few years, I would undoubtedly marry as a woman, raise my husband and raise my children, and live the rest of my life in the small town where I grew up. At first, I thought there was nothing wrong with this ending, at least it was safe. Safe and seductive, seductive and irresistible. It's like a hot quilt on weekend mornings in the cold winter and snow. I really want to sink into it comfortably all the time. However, after sleeping in bed for a long time, you will feel too boring. Sometimes you want to find a book to read, sometimes you want to listen to a song to enjoy, and sometimes you think watching a movie is good. In short, in the end, you will definitely leave the bed. Of course you'll get back into bed, but maybe that's just another night.

Doing a job I don’t like, marrying someone I don’t like, and just settling down to be a frog in a well, will my life go on like this? The situation at that time can be summed up in a few words: "After ten years of hard work, I graduated from school, and by chance, I was able to join the government.

He works hard, but his talent is mediocre, and he is not good at wearing long clothes and dancing with sleeves, so he is eventually forgotten by everyone. When I was young, my parents ordered me to get married to a matchmaker, and every year I was forced to do so by rumors and parents' expectations of becoming a mother. For fifty years, the family was short of pots and pans, and the family was constantly arguing. For sixty years, I cared about my children and made various calculations and taught them. The liver and intestines were severed. At the age of forty, I have lost my wife and will never see him again; at the age of fifty, I am orphaned and plagued by many illnesses; at the age of sixty, my children have all left after getting married; at the age of seventy, I have lost my spouse and am alone; in my later years, I am living alone. He died, and his life was without merit or fault. ”

Of course life is imperfect and even mediocre. I don’t want to live a glamorous life. Of course, it may not be stable or even turbulent throughout my life, but I think at least I can’t regret it for the rest of my life because of fear. .

The pursuit of security and certainty is an instinctive reaction. Its attraction to us is as ubiquitous as the attraction of gravity, and our wonderfulness lies in the gravity of the earth. In the meantime, we build skyscrapers to confront the sky, create airplanes that stand shoulder to shoulder with the clouds, and launch the Voyager space probes that leave the solar system to explore farther worlds... All our development is to resist, resist those things that are difficult to resist. The temptation of safety, the degradation of resistance to comfort, and the instinct to resist self. If it is our nature to pursue safety, then it is also our nature to resist the instinct. They are a pair of contradictions that are constantly confronting each other in our hearts. .

We have become accustomed to living in a safe zone, being fed by teachers, parents, teachers and spoons of books. We are accustomed to asking them: "Please tell me, behind the plateaus, mountains and the earth." What is it? "We are always satisfied with other people's descriptions, living in other people's words, and no longer have the right to resist instinct. Over time, we are no longer fresh, and nothing is original, fresh and clear in our hearts. Gradually, I lost my passion for life.

Following my own ideas, resisting instinctive safety, giving up everything at an awkward age and coming to Beijing to start from scratch, giving myself a chance and giving life a chance, is what I have done so far. The bravest thing I’ve ever done.

“If I am eventually forced to marry a man I don’t love due to various reasons in life, can you please allow me to quietly do what I like when I have a choice? things. "The initial courage only came from this idea. I felt that a life without struggle was too scary. However, because I could not foresee another kind of life, I was timid and did not dare to choose. And when this road was finally revealed to me When I came out, I found that many things were not as difficult as I thought.

Cai Kangyong has a good explanation: "I found swimming difficult when I was 15 years old, so I gave up swimming. When I was 18 years old, I met someone." The person you like asks you to go swimming, but you have to say "I can't". When you were 18 years old, you found English difficult and gave up on it. When you were 28 years old, a great job came up but it required English skills, so you had to say "I don't know it." In the early stages of life, the more troublesome and lazy you are about learning, the more likely you are to miss it later. The people and things that make you tempted, miss the scenery. ”

Don’t set limits for yourself, why not give it a try? A mountain, if you never climb it, will always be a mountain. Look up to it all your life. If you conquer it, it will become a mountain under your feet. A piece of dust. Many times, life is like this. If you give it a chance, it will give you scenery.

Among many friends, there is a girl A. Although she is not particularly beautiful, her facial features are very harmonious. , she is very eye-catching when she is thrown into the crowd. Her family's financial situation is also very favorable, and many people around her think that it is enough for her to just play the role of a princess. At the time, I felt that she had worked harder than anyone else to get into a first-class university in the country based on her own abilities. She participated in many projects during her time in school, all of which were hard, tiring and unpleasant. Not only does she work very seriously, but she also maintains unparalleled scores in all subjects.

I once asked her: "Why do you have to work so hard? What you have is enough for others to struggle for a lifetime." It may not be possible to catch up. "She answered me at that time: "Just to prove myself.

Even if I am not someone’s daughter, don’t I have the ability to live in this society?

She often travels abroad alone. Once she came back and told me that she decided to study for a doctoral degree at a world-renowned university in the UK. I know that she was very fond of that job. In order to gain recognition from her leaders and colleagues, she put in a lot of effort and hardship. Asked if she had thought it through, she said: "The world is too big, and I need to give myself opportunities to constantly climb, discover, and try. I am willing to die on the way forward, rather than clinging to the unchanging present." "When she put the admission letter in front of me with her insanely high GRE and TOEFL scores, my life trajectory quietly changed because of her. We left our hometown city on the same day. She went abroad and I came to Beijing.

Often, we encounter a state of life: we lose enthusiasm for life, we just muddle through everything, we have no pursuit, and we feel empty, boring and superficial. All this may just be because we are accustomed to a comfortable life, indulging in the hot quilt on weekend mornings, and being bound by the gravity of our own abilities. What we have to do is to try some new choices, to take a road with no end in sight, and to constantly learn to give life a chance.

If you have never crawled out of your warm bed and gone for a walk in the morning, you will not be able to experience the beauty of the first ray of sunshine in the morning. If you have never traveled in your free time, you will not appreciate the streams flowing in the rivers and the gentle breeze in the woods.

Life is short, please explore it! A lovely cloud, a mountain against the blue sky, a green leaf in spring, a magnificent valley, a dazzling sunset, or a moving face, a warm fragment. Hayao Miyazaki said in his movie: "I always believe that in this world, there must be another me who is doing things I dare not do and living the life I want to live." In fact, every one of us An individual is another self. As long as we are willing, there is nothing we dare not do and we can live the life we ??want.

Please give life a chance so that it can give you scenery! Only when you give life a chance will it give you scenery 2

Some time ago, the company wanted to recruit a group of planning specialists. I was fortunate to participate in this recruitment event as a staff member. It was during this recruitment event that I met Wang Nan, a high school classmate.

Wang Nan and I were classmates in high school. When she was in school, she did very well in Chinese, especially writing. She often said that she would become a writer in the future and publish her own collection of poems.

However, fate is a strange combination of circumstances. During the college entrance examination, Wang Nan missed the chance to go to university due to a few points difference. In the next two years, she studied in the city's most famous repeat class, taking the exam again and again, and finally passed the undergraduate level by more than 10 points during the third impact.

Regrettably, when filling in the application form, Wang Nan ended up in a daze.

When she received the admission notice, she was shocked, but there was nothing she could do to save it. She was admitted to a normal college in the province. Although she majored in Chinese, which was her favorite, the grades that would have allowed her to go to undergraduate school ended up in junior college. She was very unwilling and complained, but she had no choice but to go to school to register.

In this interview, Wang Nan performed very poorly.

After self-introduction, the recruiter asked why there was no copy of the Certificate IV in English in the resume?

She hesitated, a little ashamed: "I didn't pass."

She graduated with a Chinese major and has not published an article in any newspaper. During the 15-minute trial lecture, Wang Nan was so nervous that she made several slips of the tongue. "Actually, I really like writing..." she emphasized repeatedly. Later, she couldn't talk any more and fell into awkward silence.

There was no need to wait for the final result. Looking at the examiner's expression, Wang Nan knew that this application was a failure. Wang Nan left without waiting for the final announcement of the interview results.

Later, I learned some information about her from others.

When Wang Nang first entered the Normal College, she attracted much attention because she was ranked first in the school. However, disappointment, anger and complaints dominated her emotions, and she almost gave up studying in school. Although Wang Nan really wanted to be a writer, over the past few years, he had not even read a few books, nor had he written a single manuscript with much care. In short, regarding his studies, Wang Nan automatically pressed the "stop button" after being forcibly discounted that summer.

The reason why I feel emotional about Wang Nan’s story is because I find that many people around me always like to blame their unsatisfactory circumstances on the environment, and how much have I paid for my ideals? There is a classic saying: Even if others want to give you a hand, you should at least extend a hand.

If you never climb a mountain, it will always be a mountain and you will look up to it all your life; if you have conquered it, it will become a piece of dust under your feet. Many times, life is like this, only if you give it a chance will it give you scenery.