How to find a reliable confinement nanny?

Recently I saw a news article, "It took more than 20,000 yuan to hire a confinement nanny, but after ten days, the newborn baby actually received a critical illness notice." Ms. Hu from Hangzhou spent 22,000 to hire a special confinement nanny, and the first confinement nanny was for her child. I was very unskilled and unsatisfied even when taking a bath, so I changed to a second one. It is said that the second one played with mobile phones all day long and did not wash hands when caring for the child's belly button. Due to bacterial infection, the belly button leaked, and he was notified of critical illness in the hospital. .

Later, the child was out of danger, but onlookers were worried. It seems that hiring a confinement nanny is also a technical job. Hiring a reliable one will save you worry and effort. If you encounter an unprofessional baby, you will suffer. What a waste for adults. Heartbroken.

So whether to hire a confinement nanny or not? How to find a reliable confinement nanny?

1. Do you want to invite me?

Please give me conditional advice. Money should be spent wisely. Why? There are still a majority of good confinement nanny, and as long as you select carefully, you can still find a reliable confinement nanny. During the special period of confinement, with the care and nursing of professionals, the family will be much more peaceful.

1. The baby will not suffer

Although I went to maternity classes during my pregnancy and read a lot of parenting books, I knew a lot in theory, but in practice I still didn’t know where to start. Especially when the baby is very delicate when it is born, you don’t dare to hold it for fear of hurting it. Although the old man has raised you, his experience decades ago is really very different from now...

If you don’t hire a confinement nanny, how can you change diapers, burp, wash butt, bathe, touch, and even assemble a pacifier or dress and undress the baby? The whole family will be in a hurry.

It is more secure to leave your delicate baby to experienced hands who have taken care of many children. You and your family can also learn professional nursing skills from them. After the confinement period, the mother recovered and the baby became firmer. The family also learned the skills of raising a baby from the confinement nanny, which made it much easier.

Before the confinement nanny came, my baby encountered unprofessional and irresponsible nurses in the hospital. He suffered some misfortunes and developed red rashes all over his body and urine crystals (red on the diaper, Like blood), and I love to cry very much. And I have just become a mother. I have a lot of theoretical knowledge but no practice, and I have no ability to distinguish.

Most obstetrics and gynecology departments in Beijing hospitals have nurses. I heard from a friend before that if I didn’t hire a nurse, my confinement nanny would be ostracized in various ways. I thought that since she would be discharged from the hospital after a natural birth, I would just use a nurse. .

Each nurse has to take care of 3 mothers and 3 babies, and they work in three shifts. They need to take care of them for more than 10 hours before changing. Don’t expect them to take care of them sincerely, just cope with it.

Why did Dundun get a rash from heat? It’s because a newborn baby feels more secure when wrapped, and it matches the parenting theory I learned, so I didn’t object at first, but at that time I was 10 In fact, it was quite hot in this month. The cleaning lady at the hospital saw it and whispered to me: Stop swaddling the baby. It’s so hot today and the nursing staff is trying to relax, so they won’t cry if they are swaddled.

The reason why my baby had crystals in urine was because no one prescribed milk for me. I had no milk after giving birth and did not give the baby any water. The baby had insufficient metabolism and urinated blood. Every time I changed the diaper and asked the nurse, the nurse said No matter how much we observed, the nursing staff couldn't take any measures.

Later I learned that most of these caregivers were sent to the hospital to practice their skills as confinement nanny. If possible, don’t use them. In fact, you can have the confinement nanny go to the hospital to take care of you after giving birth.

After experiencing a semi-professional nurse who was not responsible, I understood the value of a professional and good confinement nanny. After three days of nursing, Dunton’s rash and urine crystals were cured, and I didn’t feel like I was in good health anymore. Noisy.

After the confinement nanny left, we continued to take care of her in the way she taught, and the child was doing well in all aspects.

It is recommended to hire a professional confinement nanny for your child. Of course, the premise is that the confinement nanny is really professional and not lazy and saves trouble like the caregivers I encountered, which is a scam.

2. Don’t worry, adults.

You will find that if you just browse parenting forums and Zhihu, many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law break out during the confinement period, and even lead to lifelong solutions. There is no grudge, why?

It has nothing to do with character, it is determined by the special period of confinement.

It’s not that my mother-in-law is bad, my mother-in-law has a very good personality and is very kind-hearted. But in the words of my friend, “my mother-in-law has the ability to attract evil during the confinement period.” She mainly thinks about her precious grandchildren, which is very difficult. It is easy to ignore or even offend the daughter-in-law, even if it is just a casual sentence, "The baby's hair is not good, is it because you lacked something during pregnancy?" "Looking at you eating 5 to 6 postpartum meals a day, why is there still not enough milk for the baby?" It's just unintentional, but who can bear to say a few more words like this?

It’s not that the daughter-in-law is bad. During the confinement period, the new mother will have many physical discomforts, such as painful lacerations, severe constipation, hemorrhoids, and chapped nipples. She can’t sleep well at night when she gets up every two hours to feed milk. , any one of these things is enough to make a new mother uncomfortable and make her more sensitive, making it difficult to have a good temper and patience.

Furthermore, there is a conflict between old and new ideas. The mother-in-law will feel that she has raised you before your husband and has a say, while the daughter-in-law is highly educated and advocates scientific parenting, and feels that many of the old ideas are outdated. It's dross.

When my mother-in-law first came here, the collision between the old and new parenting concepts in my family was really obvious. As soon as the old man entered the house, he said why he didn’t wear a hat for the baby, objected to showing his buttocks, and thought the baby’s legs were crooked and needed leggings.. .... I'm glad that those conflicts didn't happen during confinement, and I'm also glad that I have a confinement nanny with high emotional intelligence to persuade me, so I don't need to step in.

Secondly, taking care of the confinement child is definitely a physical job. When the elderly are older, they can take care of them for a day or two, but after a long time, the body cannot bear it. Even if the elderly are still young, it is very tiring to take care of the confinement child. The last child was not feeling well, and the whole family was in a irritable mood, and it was inevitable that they would stumble.

I am very glad that my family hired a confinement nanny, and I listened to my best friend’s suggestion and stayed there for 2 months. In the first month, I took good care of myself first, and in the second month, I followed the confinement nanny to learn nursing seriously. If you only need it for a month, then rest for the first half of the month, and learn nursing from the confinement nanny in the second half of the month. Whether you need it for 1 month or 2 months, you will have to take over sooner or later, and discuss with your family how long you need it for.

My mother was here for the first 10 days after the birth, and my mother-in-law came for the last 10 days when the confinement nanny was about to leave the household. The rest of the time, it was just our family of three plus the confinement nanny, which was very quiet and worry-free.

< p> Afterwards, I felt that this arrangement was quite sensible. Except for some troubles encountered in the hospital, everything went smoothly afterwards.

2. How to choose a confinement nanny?

In the past two years, the media has reported on some black-hearted confinement sisters. Every time I see it, I get very angry. In fact, confinement sisters also gnash their teeth with hatred for such people. They have ruined the reputation of the industry. What a big deal. They are all available in all industries, so we have to rely on our sharp eyes to pick them out.

The best confinement nanny is one that your trusted friends have personally used and highly recommended. However, this kind of confinement nanny is also the most popular. Unless you book early when you are pregnant, the schedule is really not certain. If it happens to be suitable, you have to find it yourself.

To find a good confinement nanny who is professional and attentive, just like recruiting employees, first screen out 4 to 5 suitable candidates with rigid requirements, and then interview the candidates one by one, have in-depth conversations, and see See if you hit it off.

Let’s talk about the hard conditions first. Similar to recruiting employees, it also depends on age, education, certificates and cases.

1. The recommended age is 35-50 years old and in good health

If you are too old and your body cannot bear it, the confinement nanny’s job is to take care of the baby during the day and prepare confinement meals for the new mother. And all kinds of housework, you have to stay up late at night, wake up every 2 hours, hold the baby to the mother to breastfeed, and burp the baby after feeding. People with poor physical fitness simply cannot handle it. If the elderly and frail confinement nanny has a cold and fever, she will pass on the baby. What to do with the baby? Substituting midway is also troublesome.

It is precisely because the body cannot bear it as we get older. Although my confinement nanny does a very good job, she is already actively planning a transformation and plans to start a business to make purely handmade food supplements.

Age cannot Forget about young girls who are too young and haven’t given birth to children yet.

2. It is best to have a higher education level

This is not a hard requirement, but a higher education level will facilitate communication and more things to talk about, because it is really boring during confinement. If you play with your mobile phone, watch TV, or read books for a long time, and can't go out yet, you have to do something. It will be much happier to have a confinement nanny who you can talk to.

3. Look at certificates, cases and evaluations

Certificates: In addition to ID cards and health certificates, there are many trainings and certifications in the confinement nanny industry, child care and maternity care. The more complete the nursing certificate, the better.

Case: If you say that the confinement meals are well done, you can look at the photos of the confinement meals that were made in the past. They say that the baby is well cared for, bathing, touching and doing passive exercises for the baby. You can watch the video to see whether the technique is skillful and whether the baby is comfortable. It can be seen with the naked eye. Like the confinement nurse mentioned at the beginning of the article who trembles even in the shower, she basically cannot advance to the next round.

Comments from previous customers: When we buy and buy, we depend on Taobao reviews. When we choose a restaurant and order a dish, we depend on Dianping. When hiring a confinement nanny, we need to look at reviews, interactions in WeChat, and reviews in Moments, etc. These are all side confirmations. Of course, you may worry that the confinement sister-in-law only screenshots the good reviews and shows them to us. What will she say about the negative reviews?

I must solemnly state that the “Bodhi Fruit” confinement nanny platform founded by my friend Chen Guo was invested by Kai-fu Lee’s Innovation Works. Guoshang is a top student who graduated from the Chinese Academy of Sciences with a master's degree. When his wife gave birth to a baby and found a confinement nanny, she found that there were too many pitfalls. Together with several technical experts, she founded Bodhiguo. It can be understood as the "Dianping of the confinement nanny industry" and has 200,000 monthly sales. Sister-in-law, customer reviews are all publicly displayed, so you don’t have to worry about one-sided reviews. It’s much more reliable to filter candidates based on reviews.

At the same time, if you want to sign a private contract with a confinement nanny introduced by a friend, but you are worried about the lack of protection, what if the confinement nanny disappears after receiving the deposit, or the confinement nanny receives a higher price offer again? What should I do if my order is temporarily unavailable? My best friend encountered the situation of being let go. As the due date was approaching, the confinement nanny told all kinds of lies. One time, she said that her family was sick, the other time, she said that she had a fracture, and she went to find a replacement nanny at the last minute. "Bodhi Fruit" provides private order services and has third-party supervision services. If you really break the contract, you can rest assured that there is a place to go to the confinement nanny.

Interested friends can search the WeChat public account "Bodhi Fruit" to experience it.

3. How to conduct an interview?

After screening the candidates through the rigid conditions, it was time for the interview. I didn’t find any suitable ones recommended by my acquaintances at the time, so I asked the confinement company to bring 5 candidates to my home for interviews.

First of all, you need to be close to the person. A person who takes care of you and your baby 24 hours a day and is not related by blood must be liked. He has a kind face, has a good eye, and can speak receptively.

The second step is the specific interview assessment. First, the confinement sister-in-law is asked to introduce herself and learn more about her family situation, several children, previous occupations, etc. The second part is to ask the confinement sister-in-law to describe her typical day's work content. , understand and determine what the job responsibilities are, these two processes can basically be seen.

If it is worth continuing to talk, let’s talk about the specific content in detail, such as the importance of postpartum meals, postpartum recovery, children’s belly buttons, red buttocks, how to care for jaundice, how to do early education, etc., online There are many good interview strategies and interview questions for confinement nanny, but I won’t go into details.

I would like to say that when choosing a confinement nanny, you must look at a few more. "Shop around." A good friend of mine was tricked by a housekeeping company because her mother believed in Buddhism, and the housekeeping company recommended one. I decided to book a gold medal confinement nanny who believes in Buddhism. I thought it was very good at the moment, but later I found out that it was nearly twice as expensive as other confinement nanny. She was professional, and she treated the baby well, but she was very old-fashioned, and her care for my friend was average. , the cooking was terrible, and I often hid in the kitchen and was lazy. My friend got angry when I mentioned it and asked her to leave the house early.

Finally, even if you choose a confinement nanny who is satisfactory in every aspect, you and your family still have to worry about it for a long time. You cannot just let it go. The confinement nanny will only help take care of 1 or 2 children in the initial stage. After all, children still have to be raised by themselves.