Parents' love is far stronger than we thought.

Some time ago, my nephew resigned. He and his family fought over whether to resign for several years, and finally resigned. The state-owned enterprise where my nephew works is not heavy in tasks, with good treatment, five insurances and one gold, and a lot of overtime pay on holidays. At first, my family felt very satisfied. It was hard to find such a good welfare and lanterns, but less than a year later, my nephew didn't want to work because it was industrial, and the work place was far from the urban area, and the content was boring and monotonous. His father, that is, my brother, strongly disagreed with his resignation and let his relatives take turns to persuade him. This matter has dragged on for several years, and the relationship between father and son is quite stiff because of this matter. Before he resigned, the contradiction intensified and he didn't speak for a month.

My brother is in the condiment business. He went out to do business in his early years, then opened a shop, and his business gradually improved. He bought a house and a car and established himself in a foreign land. Every Spring Festival, I will take a lot of clothes and bags home. At that time, I thought that as long as I went out, I could easily make money no matter what I did, just like there was gold waiting for you everywhere outside. After graduating from 20 15, my parents took me and my family to travel to the city where my brother did business. I am also curious about what my brother has been like for so many years. The store is located in the comprehensive market, with a small storefront and surrounded by condiment shops. In the evening, my brother invited some business partners and we had dinner together. After three rounds of wine, both sides enjoy themselves. One of his friends said with emotion that my brother had just started a business in his early years and was very diligent. He opens the door first and closes it last. It's hard to make money during the holidays, that is to say, he is willing to give up everything for his children ... I'm afraid the efforts are just the tip of the iceberg, and I felt naive at that time. Just by looking at the closing degree of roadside shops, it is known that business has become more and more difficult in recent years, and this year's epidemic has been severely hit. Large and small media have called for no party, no dinner, and the restaurant is deserted, which directly affects the condiment business. I don't know how long it will take to recover …

In fact, the dispute between my nephew and his father about whether to resign is essentially the different experiences of two generations, resulting in different psychological cognition. My brother also did some small business before opening a shop. He traveled all over the country all the year round and must have tasted human feelings. If you only rely on personal diligence, your career is thriving, and there are more diligent people, it is difficult to rely on the cooperation of others to adapt to the changes of the times and the environment and deal with sudden natural disasters. It seems that being a boss is "centralized", but waking up every day is buying and selling goods. How to open up channels, maintain customers, water and electricity rents, and various expenses is really tiring. This is why my nephew's "leisure" work in state-owned enterprises is so difficult for my brother to give up. He was tired and wanted to stop, but there was nothing he could do. However, my nephew has never stumbled in society and always feels that the outside world is wonderful. He doesn't want to stay in a lonely place, doing an unremarkable job and talking about quitting for so long. "Don't forget, there will be repercussions." Resignation is inevitable.

What parents want most is that their children will be safe, happy and have no worries in this life. I have suffered, suffered, and went astray. I hope my children can avoid it. I hope that children don't have to experience the indifference of the world, and people are unpredictable. I understand how much my brother doesn't want his nephew to take the road of freelancing, which means that the future is unpredictable and how difficult he is. Now his attitude towards his nephew's resignation is "outrageous".

There is a saying in love that whoever loves deeply in this world will lose.

The same is true of family ties. Parents are often losers, and younger brothers and nephews are at loggerheads. Seeing that the resignation was done, my brother called me and said that he couldn't sleep well for a long time and couldn't let go with his eyes open. I advised him that if the child feels that he is not tossing enough, he will go on according to his own mind sooner or later. He doesn't like this job, and sooner or later something will go wrong. No matter how good the job is, no matter how high the salary is, it is not good to keep children in an unhappy mental state. What should I do with long-term depression? He might as well do what he likes, pay less, be happy and healthy. My younger brother is soft-hearted. I think it may be that we want a healthy and happy child after all, not a "good job".

Later, my nephew resigned and went to a real estate agent. The father and son were still in the cold war. But my brother called me several times behind my back, to the effect that he should contact my nephew more for fear that he would be cheated or go astray because of his lack of social experience.

My nephew told me that he felt that he had nothing, resigned and went his own way in the future …

Turning around, my brother told me that his daughter had plans, and he was most worried about his son. He had resigned. As long as he is down-to-earth and diligent, any way out is a way out. After all, a son is still a son … as long as it is smooth and happy …

A generation has the background of a generation. Parents are limited by their growing environment, cognitive knowledge and concepts, but their love for their children is never adulterated. If you don't care too much, you won't be desperately embarrassed. You can have different life choices, but don't ignore your parents' affection. No matter how many disputes there are, the ultimate wish of parents is that their children will be well in this life.

My niece majored in medicine. She took the postgraduate entrance examination this year, and her grades were not satisfactory, so she faced adjustment. When all kinds of job fairs started, the adjustment had not yet started. It coincides with our county's counterpart recruitment. Her mother, who is also my sister, feels that there is little hope of adjustment. She hopes to find a job before choosing a job. However, her children have paid a lot for the postgraduate entrance examination this year, and she is also longing for the school she applied for. My sister is afraid that if she doesn't fight for adjustment, she will persuade her to find a job and hurt her feelings.

Sister told the children: it's a good thing that you like studying. No matter how long you study, I will support you. However, we should also be prepared for both. If you fail in the exam, take a step back, get a job first, and then find a way out.

Adults have long known how to detour in front of reality, and they also know that most of the time it will not be a one-way trip between A and B, but the fledgling children don't look back until they hit the south wall. Maybe it's blasphemy to be distracted from thinking about other ways out.

My sister said that she said it lightly, and the children didn't care. To put it bluntly, children think that their parents don't trust her, so they hold her and cry. But she wants to tell her children that the water in society is deeper and more turbid than she thought, and the employment situation is grim, especially the impact of this year's epidemic. No one can wait for a perfect one. Everyone is riding a donkey to find a horse, and after many twists and turns …

If anyone in the world is more worried about your future than you are, it must be your parents.

If anyone in this world is more afraid of your unhappiness than you are, it must be your parents.

If anyone in this world is sadder than you when they fail, it must be their parents.

If anyone in this world is willing to give everything for your happiness, it must be parents.

My sister didn't dare to say anything unfavorable to the postgraduate entrance examination in front of her daughter, so she asked around about various employment channels. My daughter was so nervous at home that she pretended to go to work as if nothing had happened, but she was worried about fidgeting in the office.

When you feel that you have nothing, your parents quietly weave a net behind you, ready to catch you at any time, look for it where you can't see it, turn around and use all your connections to make your road ahead smooth. Asking for help is like swallowing a three-foot sword. How many people have never asked for help for themselves, all for their children.

You can't know your parents' good until you have a child. I didn't know many difficulties of my parents until I had Miguo. I also understand what it means to have a child and care for my whole life.

If you give too much, you are afraid of habit, but if you give too little, you are afraid of debt.

I want to teach her kindness, but I'm afraid to teach her to be a sheep and meet a wolf outside.

I want her to learn more knowledge and skills. I want her to be carefree and happy.

Discuss on different parenting platforms, see the collision of different viewpoints, and try to find the best balance point ... When I passed the "Judicial Examination" of the first exam in the world, the multiple-choice questions were not so weighed and indecisive.

Once, when my husband saw the naughty appearance of America, he felt that such a small person would take care of him in the future ... You are so old, and my parents (in-laws) are still helping us take care of the baby. I am so proud. When do you think it will be the head?

Now, I am "bullied" by America. I call my mother to complain ... When is the end?

Only when you become a father and a mother can you understand that parents have been worried about their children all their lives and have done everything they can. The love they give is as heavy as life and the greatest wealth in this life.